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How do get over feeling so rejected after an abuser dumped you for the 100th time because you showed independence and now he says never to call him again and he was very cold?
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∙ 17y ago
Please DO accept that you are doing the right thing to exert your independence. Please DON'T let this man undermine your decision with his cold callousness. This stuff hurts so much, believe me I know, but if you stay with this person you will only be hurt over and over again. I hope you will cut your losses and move on. This may be difficult for you, it is for us all, but the fact that you have already shown him what you are made of is a sign of your own strength. Bravo! Maybe you can try to surround yourself with supportive people during this difficult time. Maybe you can get some counseling if you think it will help. It may also help to accept that this man is not right in the head. He is not capable of treating you the way you should be. It is unfortunate that we fall in love with these people, but they are no good for us. You have to love and take care of yourself first. Good luck to you! Time will heal you. Hon, listen to yourself! You just stated that he has done this many times before which means YOU TOOK HIM BACK! You need to change your way of thinking and realize that you deserve better than that and that if he can't respect you when you aren't doing anything to expect anything less, then you need to leave this person for good! I know, I left my first abusive husband. Yes, it hurts, and sometimes we feel we have failed, but if you give yourself a good chance of being away from your abuser you'll come to realize you did nothing wrong and they have the problem. Couples who love each other DO NOT abuse each other. Since no one is perfect couples can certainly have their arguments or, on occasion say something mean to the other because they are frustrated or angry, but when it's constant and they don't treat you well it's time to move on. Abusers are controllers and he's angry you got away and knows he can't control you anymore so you are of no use to him. You've turned his safe little world upside down and he doesn't like it. Trust me when I say that abusive men (or women) do not have successful relationships or attain any goals in the personality department and lack lasting relationships including family and friends or business associates. Quit going back!!!!!
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Yes
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Heck yes and DON'T GO!
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Depends on the abuser - but most of them become furious. They can't countenance your newly found autonomy, freedom, and independence. They refuse to believe that there is life after them!
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Is it OK to sometimes regret the decision to leave the abuser?
Regret is a feeling. If you feel regret, and you probably will sometimes, you have no real control over that. You can repress a feeling but you cannot change it. It is always ok to feel whatever you really feel, even when it would be a bad idea to act on the feeling. We often tend to idealize the past, feel nostalgic, forget the abuser's bad traits and offending conduct and remember the "good old times".
Why do abused teens feel the need to fight the abuser ALL the time even if they're not doing anything?
Anger. Often it's a response to feelings of rejection, equating the abuse with a sense of being emotionally rejected by the abuser. Anger is a common response by a depressed individual. Especially depressed males.
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It means you want him back, but you have this feeling that you can't have him back. Do you get what i'm saying?
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No he is not a child abuser.
Is assault common after the abuser probabtion ends?
If you ask this question, its because you are worried, if you are worried, its because you KNOW its going to happen again. GET AWAY from the ABUSER, is the ONLY answer, go find yourself a GREAT guy that would NEVER hit you.
