How do you get her to leave him?

Answer 1

Hmmm...depends. Some girls listen to people when they say things like "you need to leave him" or "he ain't no good for you at all." But there are some who just don't. I don't think you can get a girl to leave a guy. The girl must see for herself that she deserves better and just needs to leave. I have so many friends that I feel need to either leave their guys or stop pushing their guys away, and you can pound it in their heads millions and millions of times, but they still either stay with that guy or continue to push that guy away. But ultimately, something must awaken in that person that tells them they need to leave that guy. There's no convincing them. If you are a guy and you like this girl and want her to leave her guy, the only thing you can do is be yourself. Show her that you a stand-up type of guy, but don't go out of your way. Prepare yourself for the fact that she may be blinded to the potential boyfriend goodness in you because she is steady searching for a potential boyfriend goodness in the boyfriend she has now who clearly isn't doing his job. Be sure you are ready for this because your feelings for her could get stronger and stronger and her feelings for you may not move because she's stuck. She's not allowing herself to feel for another guy because she's afraid to let the one she has now go. The only thing you can do is be yourself and let your goodness shine and hope that she will come to her senses. Some just need tough love. If you are a friend who knows your friend needs to leave her boyfriend, like I am, it's the same thing. You can't force her or boss her or argue her into breaking up with this guy. She has to see for herself. Be there for her, show her that you are a good friend, and pray that the light comes to her. Again some just need a rude awakening and some tough love.

Answer 2

It is not ethical or appropriate to try and manipulate someone's relationship. If the relationship is toxic or unhealthy, encourage your friend to seek support and help from a therapist or counselor. Ultimately, it is their decision to leave the relationship. Focus on offering support and being there for your friend during this challenging time.