How can you end a relationship where you are being verbally abused constantly if you have no self esteem left?

Answer 1

That is part of the control mechanism abusers have over their victims; making them feel as if they useless, trapped and are good for nothing. It's not true! Get mad! Realize this person is using "mind altering effects" on you. They don't realize it, but they are. Also realize the "abuser." These people have either come from an abused family environment or they are just plain mean to the bone. Whether the person physically or verbally abuses they do so to their mate because they know they can't get away with it out in society. They are actually weak in themselves and IT'S THEM that has the low self esteem. They feel they are "put upon" by society and that they never get a break out there. They will never take responsibility for their own actions and always blame others. In the privacy of one's home it is so easy for an abuser to manipulate not only his girlfriend/wife or kids, it's just plain fair game. This is what you have to do: Without him knowing it, you are going to have pack your bags and hide them. Then go to a friends (one you can trust) or a family member, and phone the "Women's Abuse Center." If you can't find that number then phone your local "Mental Health" and they will lead you into the right direction. I hope, this is what you want and that once you leave this person you won't want to go back. Of course it is going to be scary for the first few months, but trust me, there are so many people such as yourself and so much help out there. There is group therapy sessions, they also will go to court with you if you want free legal help to get a "cease and desist order" against the abuser and you have your rights to half of everything you both have together even if you live common-law. Be strong! Know you weren't At Fault. When we meet someone we don't know them 100% and they can be sweet as pie at the beginning, but once you live with them or marry them they can change almost over-night. It is nothing to be ashamed of, but, you are letting yourself down badly if you don't use all the strength you can muster up and get out of there. Pack that bag, phone that Women's Abuse Center and get out of there! Don't ever look back, and don't feel guilty. Good luck Marcy