0
How come do i get in trouble for laughing at his misfortunes but he don't get in trouble for laughing at me getting whipped for laughing at him?
Actions lead to consequences or how some believe, "Karma". Example: a boy bullied a girl. When the girl moved to Another Country, the boy was being bullied instead. You've admit that you were the one laughing at him--why were you laughing at him for? You should've been aware that your actions would've come around the corner and it did. Being careless can lead to trouble or it was a coincidence that you got in trouble for laughing at the boy because of his misfortunes. Because you laughed at him, he responded back in the same manner towards you. You both simply gave each other more fuel to grow the bonfire. It's known that laughing at another's misfortune can end up being your misfortune and they'll be the ones laughing at you.
What else can I help you with?
American government propaganda agency that aroused zeal for Wilson's ideals and whipped up hatred for the kaiser?
The Committee on Public Information (CPI) was the American government propaganda agency during World War I. It sought to promote support for President Woodrow Wilson's war goals and demonize the German Kaiser through various forms of media, including posters, pamphlets, and news articles. The CPI played a significant role in shaping public opinion and boosting patriotism during the war.
What are the differences between an opened brain injury and a closed brain injury?
There are two basic types: open head injuries and closed head injuries. Open head TBIs are a frightening mess. Whether the injury comes from a bullet, a baseball bat, or a high-speed collision, the result is always chaotic and distressing. The scalp bleeds a lot when it is cut, and when the skull is cracked or penetrated, pieces of it can get lodged in the brain. Because the brain is such a complicated tangle of tissue, it's extremely tricky to remove objects lodged inside a brain. That's why we put brain surgery right up there with rocket science in our everyday language.In a closed head injury, nothing penetrates your skull, but a closed head injury can be just as complicated and vicious as an open head injury, sometimes more so. During a closed head injury, the brain may slam against one portion of the skull, then bounce against the opposite side of the wall. Doctors call that a "coup-contracoup" injury, where two injuries occur from a single blow. One of the most common types of closed head injury is a concussion - a strong blow from an external force. If a person's head is whipped around, a small tearing effect called shearing occurs throughout the brain, resulting in a diffuse axonal injury. Axons are the hairlike extensions of nerve cells that transmit messages, so in a diffuse axonal injury, the messages either get mixed up, or they don't come through at all.
Is it 'once a cheater always a cheater' or is it based on the situation people are in?
No that isn't true. I speak in behalf of my own experience. I was with a guy, he was extremely disrespectful, he lied and always tried to control me. He even cheated and forced me to stay, physically. I stayed, but I cheated on him, and after a while I left and got with the man I was cheating with. He treats me respectfully and he is loving. I've been with him for over 3 years and not once have I cheated or even thought about it. Some people cheat just to cheat, others cheat because at the time they feel that's the only way to get out of their problems. It all depends on the person and what they went through. You're not always a cheater just because you cheated once before.AnswerI don't think that's always true. My girlfriend and I have broken up and what started the break up was her cheating on me with two other guys in the last week of our relationship. She was wasted drunk both times and is so upset. She found it hard to give me reasons to start with but now says she did it because she didn't know how else to end the relationship. A solid and concrete way of telling herself it was over between myself and her. Because we have had problems for a long time and in the end doing that to me was like forcing herself to make a decision.I once kissed another girl while I was in a different relationship, and I told my girlfriend of the time and said I'd never do it again. Because it was true! When I did that, it was fun at the time but when I thought about it, it was one of the worst things I could ever do, and I promised myself that I would NEVER do anything like that again to anybody ever again. And i haven't. And I never will.So I really do believe it depends on the situation and the person. People make mistakes. That's a fact. And for all different reasons. In my opinion its usually because the relationship you're in is bad. Not necessarily because you can't control your sexuality. Sex is just sex. You've just got to figure out whether your cheating partner really believes it was a mistake. Or whether its something they don't think is that bad. If they truly believe it was a mistake, they may have a high enough opinion of themselves that they vow never to do it again.I would like to hear a psychologist's view on all this and whether or not there is some kind of scientific likelihood of it happening again if you've already done it. A genetic or evolutionary weakness lets say?AnswerI don't think that the saying "Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater" applies to everyone. Perhaps it does apply to those who have cheated numerous times in different relationships, but if you are applying it to a person who has only cheated in one relationship, then you should take into account the reasons WHY they cheated before judging them.I know a person who cheated on his wife, but only after she had face-to-face told him (in their bedroom no less) that she was not attracted to him and had absolutely no interest in having sex with him, period. Additionally, she expected that he would continue to support her and stay in the marriage. He waited 6 months, hoping things would change, and when they didn't, he started looking elsewhere for sexual gratification, but stayed in the marriage with the hopes that she would come around and things would get better. After 2 years of waiting (and getting sex-without-strings elsewhere) , he told her he wanted a divorce and then he told her he had been cheating on her and why he cheated (basically in the hope that she would quit sponging off him and leave). She refused to leave and also threatened him with 'she would make his life living hell, make the divorce/ separation living hell, plus she would refuse to sign the divorce papers if he left her'. The guy felt like crap for cheating on her (still does), and he cared about what happened to her (still does), but he also knew he had been treated very badly for the last 6 years of his marriage, and he felt like he had been used, not to mention that she had bluntly told him she found him completely unattractive, but expected that outside of sex, nothing would change. When he told me all of this, it was glaringly obvious that his ex had stopped loving him about 3 years ago, but was too much of a coward and too dependent on him, to leave and take on the responsibility of taking care of herself. The woman was (is) a leech. (she even refused to get her own driver's license just so she could have him drive her around everywhere). When I talked to him (at great length) he admitted that even though he did cheat, he wouldn't do it again, because (he said) that if he was in a loving relationship with someone, he wouldn't have to look elsewhere for something he was getting through his relationship with someone he loved. And although what he did was WRONG, he came clean AND he was/is right in saying that a person should be able to get the sexual gratification they need as long as they are in a LOVING relationship, unless there is a medically, physical or mental reason why it cannot be so.So, my answer is NO. Once a Cheater does NOT mean Always a Cheater. Gather the facts and review the reasons, BEFORE you judge. Oh, and who says we have the right to judge others for their actions anyway? We are not God or Gods. We as human beings DO NOT have the RIGHT to JUDGE others. And if you question this, try looking in the mirror and go over EVERY WRONG you have done in your life, and think about whether or not you think someone else has the RIGHT to judge you. Then, if you can still face yourself, try telling me that you have the right to judge and condemn someone else for their actions or lack thereof. See? Not so easy to do now, is it?AnswerFrom my experience, this is certainly true. I married a habitual cheater who I thought had reformed and was ready to settle down. Two years later she had an affair. Then after 2 years of counseling and trying to recover from the affair, she left me and began a relationship with another guy. My suspicions are that she was with him before she ever left me. Well, 3 months have passed, she has been with this guy for a while now and recently she called me up and wanted to sleep with me while she was with this other guy. We met up last night and had a quick fling and she left with plans to come see me again tomorrow. She calls me up today and says that she feels guilty but she is still on for more cheating. She can't seem to stop herself. This confirms that getting a divorce from her is a good decision. She is incapable of being in a faithful monogamous relationship. Now I get free booty with no strings attached and it sure feels good that I am somewhat getting my revenge on the bastard that she left me for. But to answer the question, yes, definitely, once a cheater, always a cheater. I wish I would would have known this before I married her. People who are habitual cheaters are sick and need serious professional help to stop their addiction. Some never do.AnswerSome people cheat in one relationship, realize what they did, and don't make the same mistake again. Other people cheat throughout various relationships. If they have cheated more that once, they should be considered a risky person to get involved with.It also depends on how they handled the situation. Did the cheater only end the affair when they were caught? Do they blame the person they were dating/married to for their affair? Do they brag about the affair at all? If so, I personally would not trust them.AnswerOnce a cheater always a cheater is definitely true. My husband cheated on me a long time ago, (he got caught) and swore he will never do it again, we went to counseling and had another child and I started trusting him again. After almost 13 years of marriage he left for someone else, then came back asking for forgiveness, I let him come back and he promised again he will never do it again, until i found out he was still cheating and i threw him out, and now i am filing for divorce, after my divorce started i have found out he kept cheating on me numerous times, i just didn't know about it. I think a cheater, is more careful the next time, but they always keep on cheating. They want their cake and eat it too. (This is my personal opinion). If your boyfriend or husband has cheated on you once, be sure he will do it again. Just more cautiously.AnswerI tend to disagree. I slept with a very close friend who is in a relationship with my sister. I've known this guy for as long as she has. When they got together she turned on him like a wild animal, and I've seen it. Sometimes it was justified, but most of the time it wasn't; like the one night she beat him up. They've both done a lot of damage to this relationship. They've been together for 2 years and I feel sorry for him. He's been kicked around a lot. He feels not like a boyfriend, or husband but like a "glorified babysitter." I think it all depends on the reasons why someone cheats. If its just about sex then yeah he'll cheat again, but if a relationship is on the rocks and has been for a long time, then, no the old saying doesn't always apply.AnswerThat just sounds like the guy is afraid to break up with her. Still, the "overlapping" of sexual partners doesn't look good for either party.AnswerA person's past behavior is almost always indicative of their future behavior.AnswerI don't believe it's true. I met my now husband while married to my first husband. I felt really bad about cheating on him so I got a divorce and married the man I was seeing and been married for 13 yrs and have never cheated again. I think its all in the happiness of the marriage etc.AnswerPersonally, I think people who cheat are the scum of the Earth. If you are not happy in the relationship, just be honest and try to work things out peacefully (whether by sticking it out or parting ways). I have been in a relationship of eight years only to recently discover that my ex had cheated at least twice on me...but only after the relationship was over (in his mind). He didn't mention anything to me about his plans to run out on me. Hell, the dirt bag had already bought a house.I had stressed numerous times before that if he were ever not happy in the relationship to just tell me and then move on. He is such a loser and a coward. People like him make others so untrusting of relationships. I will not be the fool ever again. Screw the lying and cheating cowards of this world! I hold onto the belief that everything come backs home eventually. Maybe he will find someone to love so much one day and then discover they have treated him the way he has treated me. Just to see this would be oh-so-nice.AnswerIn my experience, yes, once a cheat, always. My boyfriend cheated on one of his exes with his best friend's girlfriend and now I'm afraid he'll do the same to me.AnswerIt wont always be true.It will depend on the person, their beliefs on relationships, their past, your past and the situation and reasons.Some people can be serial cheats who love the thrill of being naughty and nearly being caught.Some don't like the responsibility and pressure of a monogamous relationship,some have confidence issues that may last their lifetime and make them look for attention where they are likely to get it, (IE men, women sex and love) Some people simply feel unhappy in their relationship, and life and look for some happiness out of the buzz you get when meeting someone and getting to know them and then never cheat again . All you can do is talk to them about why they cheated, trust them when and if they say they wont do it again and see how your life goes or leave them if you feel you cant trust them.AnswerMy first marriage was to a man that cheated (loved women). Still, it depends on the individual that cheated. We are only humans and not 100% perfect. If this person has never cheated before, realizes their mistake and owns up to it to their partner then they deserve a second chance. If you have to catch them at cheating (like I did) then they are a waste of skin and not worth trusting. Once a person cheats for whatever reason they have broken the bond of trust and it will take some time for the person to forgive completely and trust the cheater in question.AnswerI'm lucky to have a lot of friends who talk to me about their relationships so I feel that I have fair source of information on this subject. What I noticed more than anything. The people who cheated claim the saying is false and that people can change. The people who had been cheated on said that it was true and that people never change. I'm going to have to agree with the saying as always being true. All my friends who said they would never cheat again did. People claim that it depends on the situation. I think that is an extremely poor excuse. If you don't have it in you to be a man/woman and tell you partner that you'd rather be with somebody else before you cheat you never will. Also just because a person hasn't cheated before doesn't mean they would never cheat. Maybe the need for them to cheat never arrived. I remember in college I really wanted to explore because I had been with one person during my younger years. So I did I just simply told the people I was in relationships that If it got boring I was gonna move on. Problem was after the first girl the second had me whipped and I married her LOL. Never Cheated.ANSWERNo, this is not always the case. I have cheated in one relationship in the course of my life. It was a mistake. I should have ended the relationship before moving on to someone else. I would never do it again.Watch for patterns. There are those people we all know who never seem to be content in life no matter what they have or have achieved. In my opinion, these are the people who are most likely to cheat because they are always wanting something other than what they have. I would also say that the more easily someone lies, the more easily they will cheat.ANSWERBeing on the other side of cheating; having just been cheated on, I see a lot of justification going on and it troubles me. The truth is; being unhappy is not an excuse to cheat on someone. If you are unhappy, you confront your issues, either try to fix them, or man-up and end the relationship. Cheating is only one of many options you can choose from given a breakdown of a relationship. If someone is so unhappy that they're willing to jeopardize the marriage, then it's likely the other party isn't that happy themselves, and there's something deeply and fundamentally wrong with the relationship.The truth is, someone who chooses to cheat has no good reason or justification to do so. To say "Oh, you made me unhappy... so I did it..." is like saying "You made me mad so I hit you..." There is NO difference and no justification. You have a choice. You can choose to control yourself and face the problems themselves to solve them, or you can create more by infidelity.The bottom line is, if someone cheats, it's because they have a personal issue. *Something* in their brain told them it was okay to do what they did. It's not the spouse's problem that it happened, it's theirs. And if they made that choice once, there is a chance they'll do it again; unless they take a good strong look in the mirror and take a good long look at their issues and motivations.A cheater may cheat again and again until they address their problem. So if it happens to you, and you have the capacity to forgive; then make sure before you do, that your spouse/partner is willing to look at the ugliness that brought you both where you are--and to set aside their resentment with you long enough to take responsibility for their choices. Understanding that the very nature of cheating itself is a form of running away from problems, it might be too much to ask of this person for them to confront their own personal issues, let alone admit they have them to begin with.The most important thing is to not take the cheating as your doing. No matter how bad things have gotten; you did not force anyone to choose to sleep with someone else. That responsibility lies with the cheater.Is a cheater always a cheater? Not necessarily; however it's not the situation they're in that may cause it. What causes it is personal issues with the Cheater themselves. The recurrence of cheating behavior rests entirely on the cheater's desire to look into their own problems and to fix their own personal issues that cause them to behave as they do.ANSWERit depends on the circumstances and person/persons involved. Were there any other factors such as alcohol/grief or anything else that may distort the way a person feels? If there was then it is unlikely that they meant it and does not mean they will necessarily do it again.ANSWERIs a cheater always a cheater? I think it depends on the personal circumstances. I always said I will be a honest man and not a dog! I also believe in what goes around comes around, and if you really love some one you don't hurt them! But I remember myself cheating on my girlfriend after all the high falu manners! The reason that I cheated was because me felt so unhappy with her! I know lot of you will disagree with me because this is such a flimsy excuse! Well listen to my story: I told her about my feelings and asked her to fix our problems before I did what I have done and became a cheater! I told her that me was planing to end the relationship with her because I felt so unhappy! The problem is she has a weak heart and I really know that she loves me more than everything and If I would do this to her she may get an heart attack seriously!, then 'things could be get real ugly for real!! Well let me say it like this, I can't leave her because I know she can't live with out me and I also love her more then anything, she is my everything! But the problem is this woman can't give love! She is just a hard working woman! And I'm an emotional person! I told her that we don't belong together! So before I cheated on her I wrote her about me feelings from time to time, I wrote her about our situation and this idea's of me being unhappy, what we have to do about it and the thoughts about cheating on her to escape from me problems! So I told her about everything and that main reason getting this ideas was because of her being busy with her carrier so busy that we lived alongside totally and that me felt so lonely! The worst part of my story is that when I said this I really felt so bad after being honest, because she didn't took my complain seriously and thought I wanted some one else because me getting bored of her! Well I couldn't make it to leave her and did the nasty job!I dated my wife for years before I married her. I felt we knew each other fairly well. We got married. After one year of marriage she cheated on me and had an affair that went on for a year until I found out about it...which she denied over and over until I came up with proof. She finally accepted the fact that I knew what she had done. I was ready to divorce her but she was about 4 months pregnant with our first child. Yes, the affair was going on while she was pregnant. She broke down and confessed everything to me, asked for forgiveness on her knees to me over and over, swearing to me she would never come close to doing this again. I thought, anyone can make a mistake once in their lives, and now I have a child to think about. So we stayed married, had 3 more kids. That first child is now 12 years old. We now have 4 total. Well, Guess what? She had another affair with a neighbor no less. Same old story, she denies it till the end until I came up with proof and she finally told me everything. Same old thing, only this time she realized there is a problem...only now it is all my fault. She says she realizes now that it is because of me that she has been unfaithful and unless I change she can't stay with me. Now I have 4 totally awesome kids and love them dearly. Through much pain and agony I actually wanted to work it out again, mostly for the kids sake. We moved away from the situation and it's been about a year...trying to do whatever I can to "change" so she won't brake her vows another time. We'll, we are now separated...she moved back right next door to the person she had the second affair with...of course she says it is only because the kids are more comfortable there where we lived for 10 years and went to school. She says if I move back to the "old neighborhood" she might want to stay with me.Bottom line, Yes, The likelihood of a person who has had an affair to have another greatly goes up each and every time their traitorous. It is addictive behavior..think of an alcoholic or drug user. It's the same thing really. Unless they fix themselves it will always persist in my opinion.Do I wish now I would have gotten a divorce after the first one? Such a tough call after you have had more kids that you love. If you don't have kids I would definitely not stay with a partner who has cheated on you. Once the trust is broken it is broken...sad but true. What if you have kids?
How can you stop being afraid?
Before I begin, let me state for the record that I am not a professional psychologist. I have, however, been told by several individuals who perform a variety of functions in the field of psychology and human behavior and education that I am a "pretty skilled pop psychologist." I see things (no not dead people). In my personal history I have dealt with fears one of three ways: terror (as a child), rage (as an adolescent and young adult), and humor (still with a little bit of residual anger, as what I am today).This is important: If you are experiencing panic attacks or severe anxiety, you should consult a counselor or therapist, who will refer you to a physician if necessary. There are a variety of ways to work on clinical anxiety, not all of them involving drugs. They do, however, all involve professional help. I'll say it again (and again later) I am not that kind of professional.The first step is understanding what causes fear. Fear is a chemical and instinctive reaction within the animal body, what has been called the fight or flight instinct. It is connected to our strongest instinct, the will to survive; and, our second strongest drive to protect our tribe/bloodline/cubs...children, which is also connected to that will to survive. Chemically it is the release of hormones into the blood stream, and the sensations that accompany it that we associate with fear. The primary fear chemical is adrenaline.The effective life of adrenaline in the human blood stream is about 45 (forty-five) minutes. For some slightly more, for others slightly less. Adrenaline gives you the drive and ability, the heightened senses, to either deal directly with a threat (fight) or escape (flight). Once the adrenaline factory turns on, there is very little that will shut it off. How each person responds to the adrenaline rush is developed primarily by their nurture history, the environment in which they grew up and developed. Not everyone has a fight or flight response. Some people have a flight or flight response, that is run away or run faster. Others, like me for a period of my life (and to some extent still) have a fight or fight response, that is fight or leap into a blind rage reaction. Neither is optimal for interpersonal relationship development (making friends and keeping them around).I'll try to get more into what we do with the fear as we go here. So, buckle up, keep your hands and feet inside the ride at all times, and remain seated until the ride comes to a complete stop.Dealing with situationally catalyzed fear (SCF - fear that rises out of some sort of incident or experience), as opposed to clinical anxiety disorders, begins with one thing:Choice.How you deal with fear is simply that and nothing else. People choose to take charge of their lives or fail to address fears. More often, people fail to choose to take charge of their lives; they ignore the elephant in the room. Even more accurately, people fail to make the right choices in trying to take charge of a life they feel may be out of control; they address other matters totally unrelated to the problem. The fact is that there are two truths related to SCF fears:Most fears rise out of perceived threats; things that aren't even real;Nothing can be done about most things that people fear. So, you need to focus on how to live with them.A third truth exists as well: fear that is examined and understood usually does not remain a fear for very long.Sure there are the regular, run of the mill fears: death (can't avoid it), pain (you can avoid it usually, but when you can't you can usually alleviate it), taxes (see death), loss (Things? replace them. Loved ones? Honor them and remember their lives. Youth? Get over it, everyone ages--Oh! and see Death.)Let's look at some fears I've personally examined:Fear of Public Speaking: (Glossophobia)Why did I start with this one? It is what people fear most and it is the most truly irrational fear. Why? because nearly everyone speaks publically without realizing it. Think about it this way: have you ever hung out with a couple friends, doing nothing in particular, "shooting the breeze" perhaps, joking around? If you answered yes, you have spoken in public. Unless you literally walk through life with your head down and your hands jammed in your pockets, absolutely saying not a word, you have at some time spoken in public. Now you're barking epithets at me (cursing) or shaking your head in sad disbelief (or a combination or something in between), but the truth be told, there is no difference. If you have shared a word with two or more people in any venue, you have engaged in public speaking. Unless you were trapped underground and totally unaware that other people were present, you were in public. If you were making the grunting noises with your mouth commonly referred to as speech, you were speaking. Now put them together; this is public speaking.Aside from the occassional US President (I'm referring to the infamous 8 January 1992 incident when then President George H.W. Bush vomited into the lap of the Prime Minister of Japan, Kiichi Miyazawa--his illness likely was not caused by the speaking but by a bad piece of fish), no one has ever suffered ill from standing up in front of a few people and talking. Trust me (famous last words of all con-men), I used to teach it to middle schoolers and none of them ever suffered a moment of pain or an ounce of damage from talking in front of people. Some of them even went on to speak at high school graduations and college commencements, one of whom was the most terrified I ever met.Now to the fear of it, rather the examination of the fear of it. What's to be afraid of? Really. Is the audience going to storm the stage and drag you off to some grisly and untimely demise because they disagree with your particular choice of syntax? Nope; not likely. Are they going to laugh at you, ridicule you, deride you, and make you feel terribly insignificant? Only if you let them. While you are on stage, at the podium, on top of the bar, soapbox, ladder, chair or other means of elevation, you rule them. You own the audience. You are controlling their time for the length of your address, and in the vast majority of situations, they will sit politely and patiently for you to make your point and let them get on with their lives. If that is all you accomplish, then yes, you may take a little verbal abuse. This is solved by nothing more than practice, experience, and technique (ask any comedian). There's nothing in that tool bag you cannot acquire or accomplish on your own or with a little help. Are they going to throw rotten fruit and vegetables at you? See the note to choice of syntax above. Wait, wait, this can be a separate fear too, but it is as unlikely also unless you happen to find yourself trapped in the 1600's and playing to a packed house of groundlings at the Black Friar or Globe theatres. Really, most people are more civilized than they typically seem to be. The only real fear is that second one...how they receive you (they being your audience). You may find yourself humiliated, or shamed. You may come off like a babbling idiot, but these are things you control. Find a speaking coach, mentor, or teacher, and drag every last thing out of him (or her) he (or she) knows about disseminating information to a group of people. And then practice it. You don't get good at things that make you afraid, and you don't remain afraid of things you practice. The unspoken benefit of practice is that it will support and defend everything I've told you here.Fear of Death: (Thanatophobia)Now, why did I start with that talking thing rather than the very serious subject of death? Oh, right, for about the past fifty years the fine people of the Gallup organization have done a regular poll to find out what scares people the most. Without exception people would sooner die than get up in front of a few people and talk. We've dealt with the talking thing.So, onward to death (aren't we all). First, you can't stop it. Second you can't avoid it. Third, well, there is no third. Does there need to be? Death is an inevitable for us all. We all know it is going to happen. Some of us unfortunately find out through observation sooner than others, often sooner than we are prepared to learn. That's another matter. So, you can't do anything to stop it. You can't do anything to avoid it. What other options do you have? One, only one:Make the most of the time you have.I know, it sounds cliche, but cliches become cliches because there is truth in them.If you want to waste that time being afraid of what you can't stop and can't avoid, it's your time to waste, and unequivocally it is a waste of time. Live your life, don't fear the loss of it. That's not to imply you should go out and start doing stupid things I shudder to even suggest here. Focus on all the things around you that are important Right now, I am writing this while looking out the window at the rest of the sixteen new inches of snow waiting for me to shovel it and thinking to myself, "Self, you made a good choice sitting here writing to the scardy cats of the world rather than giving yourself a heart attack trying to move all that beautiful white snow." And, I have to agree with myself. Won't you too? In the words of Cousin Vinnie, "I'm done wit' dat guy."Fear of Pain: (Algophobia)Okay, pretty rational fear. No one likes pain (okay, there are those who do, but that's a completely different category that requires a completely different treatment), but there are only two things you can do with pain: avoid the activity that causes it, or treat it.Sure, there are those conditions that cause unavoidable and largely untreatable pain. I know, I experience one of them nearly every day, neuropathy. Many people don't know what that is. Bear with me, most of what I have to go on is observation, and I have been observing myself for a very long time. It's a simple thing really, as a diabetic, high blood glucose levels have begun to damage nerve fibers. This causes (at times and in my case) severe pain in my right foot and leg--feels like stepping on a hot nail (been there, different story). There is no treatment for it. Pain killers are just ineffective. Once it has started, it is inevitable. Why do I share? To make a point. I know of what I speak.So how do I deal with it? If you have ever played organized sports (you know, with a coach and equipment and rules), you probably heard your coach bark out the old tired refrain, "TAKE THE PAIN! PLAY THROUGH IT!" Well, that's one option. Only one Iand those in my shoes (yeah, bad pun) have actually. No pity, I do fine. Thanks though. Here's my point: if I had not been stupid in my youth and not chased Coke slurpees with sugar packets and Snickers bars, I would not be limping around today with a red hot spike through my foot. Who is to blame for my pain? Me. No one else.That's not to say that every pain we experience is by our own hand, even if the end is justified by the means decades after the fact. Just that those which are, those you can avoid, you can run from, you can hide from, you should; don't run toward what is going to cause you pain later in life. There is enough of it already when you get there, no need to bring more with you. How you do that is a question you must solve. The best way is to avoid it before it becomes a problem. If, like me, it's too late, but you still need help, get help. If you can't find help, ask....hello! Question/Answer site here. The internet is full of resources and so is your local healthcare provider.Okay, who sees the discrepancy here, the apparent error? Anyone? Remember this? "...those you can avoid, you can run from it, you can hide from." No? It's right there, couple of lines up. Good now, you can avoid it. I know, I said once the nerve damage starts, it's too late. The same is true for a number of medical conditions that result in pain. For those who suffer from conditions like my type 2 diabetes, you just have use a little forethought. What's that? Thinking ahead....literally...look it up.Type 2 diabetes is not the only legacy of my misspent youth. My knees are pretty much a mess. (Why is this guy sharing all this? --hang on, there is a point). While serving in the Army, I fell off every truck in our motor pool. Why? Because I didn't take the time to ask for help. Also, I made a habit of carrying everything at once (Break-out bag, clothing duffle, rifle with M203, M-60, T&E bag, Tripod for the M-60, and ammo cans--roughly 200 lbs--down four flights of stairs--two stairs at a time--and several hundred yards to my truck in the motor pool) when ever we got called out on an alert. Why? Was I trying to be a hero? Perhaps a little. but I didn't want to make two trips. Better to suffer a little and sit and rest, than to run back and forth repeatedly. Or so I thought at the time. I made the debt then for which I am writing the check now. Here comes that point: Youth in a hurry is retirement in pain. It is important to look ahead and not be that indestructible super kid.Can't see the future. You don't need to. Just be informed about what your life choices now might hold for you in the future. Ten years from now. Fifteen years from now. Maybe even fifty years from now. If you continue to make the same mistakes, or live the same excesses now, you will pay for them in the future. The bill always comes due (more on bills in a bit). Maybe, just maybe, Big Pharm will make some miraculous breakthrough, and null and void your debt. Just don't bet on it. Think of that miracle pill instead as the lottery...if you count on it, expect to be struck by lightening while being eaten by a shark; the odds are better.So what to do about pain? Avoid the things that cause it or lead to it. What about the pain that is the result of a condition you had no hand in causing? If you can't avoid it, try to minimize how much pain you are likely to experience, now and with an eye to the future. If that doesn't work or can't be done, find the treatment you need to minimize the pain you experience. If that doesn't work (like for me), find a way to embrace it, own it, take it, turn it into something else. That's all you get from me on that, I'm truly sorry; I can do it for myself, but I have no idea how I do it. I'm no Great American Hero though. If I can take a shot to the foot, you can take a splinter.All joking aside. For the pains that are greater and totally unavoidable and largely or completely untreatable, all I can suggest is find faith. If you have it already, embrace that.Fear of Loss: (Multiple - Monophobia, generallyVerlustaphobia)This one is tougher. We have all lost something or someone and grieved. Be it a favorite belonging, a pet, a friend, a loved one,--God forbid--a child. This fear I take more seriously, and I will open up a little more about it. So forgive me.I've lost four grandparents, five uncles, three aunts, six friends, and a niece. Of all of these, the one that has affected me the greatest, but not the most recent, was (I edited that later, the "was". I still think of her death in the present tense) the death of our niece two years ago on Christmas Eve. There is not a day goes by, that some random thought of her does not cross my mind. Which leads to thoughts of my wife's grief, my son's and daughters' grief, her mother and father's grief, and all others who loved her. There is no truth to the cliche, "Time heals all wounds." It doesn't. All time does is provide distance from what caused the wound, to give us space to heal if we can find a way. I could dwell on how she died, but that would dishonor her. Not that she passed in a dishonorable way...it was a simple traffic accident caused by slushy roads. It would dishonor her because she was so much more than the event of her death. She was the burning gem stone of the family; no one could be angry or fight when she was around. She loved music; listening, playing, and sharing it. She loved writing; partly, it's for her that I do these longer answers. She loved to read. She loved to make people happy. She was good at it. She was the sweetest, most dear, precious, and genuine soul I have ever known. And, she will always be with me and everyone she knew...in our memories.You cannot run from this fear; you can only face it--when it comes--and turn it to what it should be. It hits like a thousand foot tsunami; it takes your breath; it steals your anchor; it hurts like no other pain in human experience; but, you can survive, if necessary by leaning on the strength you remember they had. Let each day come and go. Keep moving, forward preferably. Let their passing be a memorial, a celebration of a life lived well if all too short. Tell someone who never had the chance to meet them who they were and what they were like. I don't know if this pain ever fades, but the distance of time makes it less immediate.Fear of Taxes/Debt: (Debitaphobia)Okay, hopefully I haven't brought the room down too far. Back up, on your feet!Why did I put these together, taxes and debt? Because they are the same thing, just paid to different people. Uncle Sam will get his. You can't hide it; he will find it. You can't dodge him; he will find you. You can't avoid paying him (different choice than the hiding thing); he'll just come and take you instead. So, just pay your taxes, or find a legal way to reduce what you have to pay, and still pay them. It's the only choice you have.Regular bill? Well, for one thing, get ahead of the game and figure out what you need and what you want. Odds are you will find a great disparity between the two (if you're honest--no, you don't need that venti double no fat whipped soy latte; you want it), the smaller pile being the needs. Now, pay for the needs. The wants? If you already have them and have not paid for them yet, return them if you can. If you can't, sell them. If you can't sell them, donate them and get a break on that tax thing. About paying for them, here's the thing: collections has a lot of tricks and tools to use to separate you from your money for the things you bought but did not pay for. The important part is that provided you did it in good faith with no thought, motivation, or intent to defraud, they cannot put you in prison for it. They can't really do much to you at all (especially if you live in a state like Louisiana). If you have assets (cash, bank accounts, stocks, bonds, etc.) they can attach them (except in Louisiana and like states). Don't ask how here, that's a different question for WikiAnswers. If you have property, they may be able to take it. May! Not can. It's up to a judge. Here's the other thing: if you have the money, you can pay it, if you don't you can't. Simple math. Plus/minus kind of stuff. Here's the last thing though. You did buy it on good faith, you really need to pay for it. Stay in touch with them and try to work it out. Chip away at the debt in small increments, and eventually it will get paid. Most importantly, don't get buried under it again.Fear of People/Authority: (Anthropophobia)This is an extension of stranger-danger, an observation and recognition that someone among your tribe does not belong, is not normally there, and may be a threat. Animal instinct. One of the fundamental bases of racism.Or, this is the recognition that you are in a totally alien space (not the mother ship--again a different sort of fear that requires science I do not have). The recognition that you will be perceived as the outsider, the potential threat, the one who is eliminated. Animal instinct.The only way to overcome this is to examine every situation individually. I cannot provide you a road map to accomplish this, it was your parents' job, and if they dropped the ball, I don't have the space here or the time to devote to it on a strictly voluntary basis to guide you to it. It took me a while to learn it myself anyway. Remember that fight or fight response of mine mentioned way up there at the top? Yeah, way too many avoidable conflicts in my past to judge anyone. This is all strictly observation.There is something you can do until you can find a way to learn the skills you need, or someone to teach you, and it might be your strategy for finding the latter. There must be someone in your life you trust, as much as anyone can trust another. Talk to this person about this fear. Name it. Label it. Analyze it until you can smell it coming from a dozen New York blocks away (visual...um, olfactory...enough?) Okay, that person may fit the bill for your mentor. If she does not share the fear or especially if she has dealt effectively with the fear in her past (I use the nontraditional feminine pronouns her on purpose--women tend to be better judges of character. I know, generalization, but meant to be a good one, a compliment). Once you begin to develop the skills necessary to more effectively determine who may and may not be a threat, it will get easier, and come faster. Again, exercise it, just not in risky situations. You just don't jump off a cliff until you know that you know how to fly.I put people and authority figures together because by and large they stem from the same root. They differ in that typically, an authority position puts someone a few steps ahead of the average stranger. In the world of today, it is still important to keep your eyes open and your senses aware for the signs that tell you, "Get the flock out!"Teachers, heathcare professionals, and professional service providers fall into one category, We'll call them Category A. The second group I identify as the government, Uncle Sam, Big Brother (all conspiracy theories aside), law enforcement we'll call Category G. Individuals from each group can switch categories from time to time based on the specific elements of a given situation, or your interaction with them. If you are an illegal drug user or a wounded fugitive and you go for treatment at a hospital, the A's you see there are potentially G's. Not really a threat, but be aware for the sake of illustration. If you, that fugitive, is met in your wheelchair at your discharge from the hospital, and escorted off to the hotel behind the wire, one of the A's was a G. Incidentally, that guy who you aren't paying who stands beside you in court (your public defender) because you were a fugitive in the first place is really a G, but for the immediate exercise is an A. You get me? Confusing, I know. It takes practice. What is the point to all the A/G stuff?Well, by and large, you can trust those in group A; they are doing the job they do to help individuals like you and me and everyone else. For the most part, again conspiracy theories and past US history aside, A's and G's are there to help you. They may have very different motivations, but they are not generally going to be a threat. That is of course as long as you are playing the game as it was meant to be played by the rules it was designed to be played. Deviate in the slightest way and the rules may change. More or less depending on how far you deviate. Provided you stay off the radar, you can trust most of the people in group G. Remember though that they serve a higher power, Uncle Sam, and your individual interests are not going to be high on their list of important stuff. They are more externally motivated. Something else, just to complicate the issue, people from both group A and group G are just that--people. They are human and subject to the same weaknesses and failings of every other human. They make mistakes. They become selfish, egocentric, and self-serving, just like everyone else can. It is this that you need to be aware and wary of.Need I say more?Yep. One other class of "people." The opposite gender. Most commonly this is felt keenest during the middle school years, by some a little before, by some a little after. How do you conquer it? Just stop it. This is an animal reaction again. Look around you at those who are paring up. They use a combination of fighting their fear of public speaking and Stranger Danger. If you are attracted, tell her. Truth is she is potentially more scared of you than you are of her. (Girls, he is absolutely more scared of you than you are of him)---(Boys, I just told them that to set them at ease so they wouldn't just bolt when you stumble up).........(Um, Girls, you already know the truth, give him a break).Fear of Change/the Great Unknown: (Cenophobia)Ouch! that's a big one. And, it gets bigger the further down the miles we go.You've heard the tired old metaphor, "Change is good." If not, you just read it. For the majority of situations it is. How much influence we have on change, the big change that goes on around us every minute of the day, is basically the stuff of country road dust, and that faint whiff of perfume you catch at the mall. Seems real, but try to grab it (I don't mean the girl wearing the perfume or the sales person pump the air with it--the smell). Can't quite pinch it, can you. Same thing as change.Another crusty metaphor, "Change is a wave that roars through time," or something to that affect. Who said it? I claim it until I am proven otherwise. Also a true one. Ask any surfer; there are two things you can do with a wave:ride it; or,get pasted by it.See how simple this stuff is? Especially when I break it down to two's and three's?Riding the wave of change doesn't mean that you just get dragged along by it's momentum. Look at it this way, arguably one of the world's greatest surfers is eight time world champ Kelly Slater. You can find countless videos on the net of him doing what he does. Magical. You don't see him perched on top of a wave like a bobblehead doll on the dash board of your '67 Plymouth Fury sedan. Noooo! Slater is an artist. He carves, he cuts, he disappears and reappears from certain destruction. How, simple, he makes the wave work for him.How do you do that with the wave of change? Well, again, you're on your own. Sorry. No one can give you that answer. It's your life, you see the wave, you have to learn it and master it, make it your slave. Just, never forget, it's all an illusion. No, that's not defeatist. That's awareness. Don't give up; take it as a challenge.The Great Unknown is just another word for the wave of change. You might be able to get little teases of what is in front of you through the spray, you might pop out of the pipe long enough to get a pretty good idea of what's out there. Again, what you do falls to choice:You either, choose to ride it out or shift direction......or...You pump and potentially get ground into paste or whacked in the head by your board.Surfers, do me a favor and spread the word. I apologize if I mangled the language. I claim poetic license (closest I ever got to surfing was living five miles from Huntington Beach from 6 to 10 years old).Needles/Sharp objects: (Aichmophobia)This one is incredibly simple. When I served in the Army in Germany, a friend of mine in the unit was a medic. She taught me the secret to needles. Again, two things:Bevel up; and,if you need it, it's better to get and get it done fast.Just relax. Most people who will come at you with a needle fall into that Category A.Fear of sharp objects is even easier to deal with or should be. You mom should have taught you not to run with scissors; when you pass a knife or scissor type object to another person, hand it to them handle first, blade held opposite to your palm; and finally, Don't Run With Scissors! Three things this time. Okay, busted two really, I was just testing to see if I still have you.Almost to the end.Regret: (Poenitentiaphobia)Regret really isn't a fear, but it is very close. One can have fear of regret though. That is, we can fear doing something wrong, or not doing something right and living with the regret of for the rest of our lives. Think about it for a minute: ever regret not giving that girl a kiss on your first date? Not telling someone, "I love you," only to learn that they are no longer with us? What about that friend you lost because you didn't say, "I'm sorry?" How about the time you did not stand up for someone who needed your help to be stronger? We all have regrets. What we do with them is another matter, and can help reduce or eliminate the fear associated with them.Here's the thing; again two parts:Regret is natural.and, there are only two things you can do with regret: carry it around and let it bury you; or set it down, remember where you left it, and never relive it (that is never repeat the thing that causes you regret).Big picture, there is typically very little you can do about the things you regret. They are done. They are in the past. And, until those who work with physics learn how to make a wormhole to the past, you won't be able to change it. (There is an argument that states that the past is fixed, so even when they iron out that wormhole thing, you may still not be able to change anything). It is best to recognize this as soon as possible. The only thing you can do with the past is remember it and learn from it. Okay, three things, you can carry that regret around as it gets heavier and heavier until it buries you, ultimately destroying everything about you and your life. Sound like a pleasant option? Right, it doesn't. So, if you are carrying the regret around, how do you get out from under it? There is only one way (see how easy I make this?):Come to terms with the fact that the past is the past and determine that what ever you did then will not happen again. Own it. Know it. Leave it behind.If you cannot do this on your own, ask for help. There are countless skilled counselors out there who specialize in this sort of stuff. Do some research and find one. You may have to ask many people before you can find the one for you, but it can be done. Talk to friends, family, a minister, anyone you think might have an opinion on this. Those who tell you that psychological counseling is bunk, leave them behind and keep looking. Let me share a little something else: I used to look down on all forms of psychology. I thought it was a bunch of people who were trying to make us think what they thought was the only right answer. There may be some psychological professionals who do feel this way, who try to get everyone else on board with them. Not all though. Psychology is really a very young science, and little is known about the workings of the human mind. But, if you have been observing people, really watching them, you may know a lot more about psychology than you thought. Give them a chance, drop your bias, and see if they can't help you.Heights: (Acrophobia)Sorry my friends. This one I share. What I know is that, for me at least, the fear isn't about being at altitude, it isn't about falling, it's about the landing at the end. This is rooted in the experiencial for me, an SCF. I fell off a roof twenty years ago and compressed three vertebrae. As a direct result, I'm a little more protective of those squished vertebrae. I still love to fly, take the window seat when I can get it. I'll even go up heights provided I have something around me to hold on to (fools me into believing I have control). I don't do step stools, ladders, or stairways without handrails. I'd sooner take the window washer's lift to the top floor.So, the big secret, fight or flight; if you can't beat it, run from it. No really, look at it with a little more dignity; if it is a situation with which you feel discomfort due to your lack of immediate control simply take measures to avoid it.The Dark: (Achluophobia, Lygophobia, Myctophobia, perhaps Nyctohylophobia, Nyctophobia, orScotophobia)This one is a little more difficult. Not really. Unless you live in the Last House on the Left, next door to the Myerses, on the shores of beautiful Crystal Lake, or in the abandoned but not yet cleared remains of a mine field, there is nothing in the dark to fear. It's the same place as in the light, just without the light. Really, not trying to be insulting (quite the contrary), blind people do it every day of their lives and I understand that many of them (most) are quite self-sufficient and more than a little successful. And, they have a "limitation."If all else fails carry a pocket flashlight, and make sure the batteries are fresh.Final word:There can never be a final word on this subject. We still have spiders, snakes, the boogie man, the monster under your bed, alien abductions, ghosts, EMP, the end of civilization, etc. No, wait. By and large many those are irrational fears. Irrational fears do not fall to logic. Different sort of kung fu. Those of you who have them, have to get professional help, perhaps commercial pharmaceuticals to make them go away. I'm not that sort of professional, and I can't legally write a 'script. Sorry.A brief word about EMP and the end:With the exception of EMP and the end of civilization, there is little you can do about these other fears beyond dealing with them and learning to live. Well, oddly enough that's all you can do about EMP and the end of civilization too.If you are independently wealthy, you can buy a Cold War era missile silo, and have it converted into a survival bunker. You can outfit it with the latest and greatest of survival equipment and supplies. The problem is, you will have to poke your head out of the ground eventually, and someone who did not have your resources who also survived may be there waiting to take it all away from you. Odds are, the vast majority of the population in this bloated, pampered society we enjoy in the US will be dead within the first year after the collapse of our infrastructure, estimated 60-80% (210,000,000 to 280,000,000 for those of you without your calculator handy). For those of you who do survive, that's a lot of bodies to bury. I know, macbre, but facts are facts.Not that I wish to fuel hysteria, but you have to wonder if survival would be enviable; in the event of the end, things will come apart and do so fast. Look at the evidence of Hurricane Katrina and her aftermath. Truth be told, there is absolutely nothing you or anyone not in a high level of government can do to stop the end of civilization. There are some precautions you can take for you and yours, but to what end? This like most fears is one that you just have to learn to live with. (Yeah, I intended a pun there.)So, save your water (remember to replace it every couple of months if it's from the tap. Purchase your purification systems and your chlorine tabs. Hoard your food, white alcohol, gold, guns, and ammunition--keep an eye on Federal Firearms Laws--and dig your bunkers. If that is what it takes to give you peace of mind, be happy. Just remember, last one alive has to throw dirt in the face of those of us who didn't make it.A final final word:The failure to face fear is commonly thought of as cowardice. I need to make a distinction here. If the fear is based on a real danger, then avoiding it or running away may be a matter of self-preservation and there is no shame in self-preservation. True cowardice is the result of refusal to examine a fear for real danger and simply responding by running away. If you fear kittens, never examine it, and leap through the air and run at the slightest hint of a meow, that is cowardice. There is a reason to face the thing you fear, it is wise to keep an eye to what is dangerous, because then you knowwhen to duck and cover.There's another way to think of it: I have a friend who lives out west. He likes to hike in the woods. Bears also like to hike in the woods. Most bears will run from people. Some won't. He shared with me how you deal with the stubborn ones. If you are on a hill, run down. Seems bears have those big hind legs that help them stand to get at things in trees, but they are not suit well for running down hills and they often go toes over nose when they try. If you are not standing on a hill when you encounter Yogi with an attitude, climb a tree and hope it isn't a brown bear (brown bears climb trees--Oh! and grizzlies are just big brown bears). If it is a brown bear, and you can't know without looking, and you can't look without facing it, you have a couple of options and a short time to choose. You can look as big as possible and be very loud and hope you intimidate him, which may not work. You can play dead and hope he did not see you or is not interested. You can carry a gun for protection and hope you have the guts to face down a charging Kodiak and can put it down in one shot, because if you don't, you're only going to make him mad.Or, you can stay out of the woods. Sort of makes that kitten a little less scary. Fear is relative.I am not suggesting that anyone can make fear go away, no one can be fearless. Fearlessness is just a word. It is a concept that does not exist in the real world. It may seem that I imply that I do not have fears. Nothing could be further from the truth. I experience fear too. How I deal with fear is another matter. No one can ever be truly fearless, they just cannot stop being afraid. What they can do is to take that fear and use it instead of letting it use them.It all starts in the same way: Face it, literally and figuratively. It? Yes, It, what ever you fear, public speaking, death, taxes, the dark, that kitten, or a bear. Start there and breathe. That's it. If you're still lost after that, you can always ask another question. We're still a Q&A site.Well, told you a few lines up that we were almost to the end, and here it is. Just remember your ones and twos, your A's and G's; oh! and never forget the KISS principle.What? I forgot to mention the KISS principle? Yeah, I did, because everyone should have heard of it by now. Just in case, I'll tell you anyway:KeepItSimpleStupidComplicating it accomplishes only that...it makes it more complicated. Remember to breathe. That, and never hesitate to ask.
Why did he laugh at her getting whipped and crying for laughing at his injury?
Because getting whipped is embarrassing and that is why he laughed.
Why does your mom disapprove of you laughing at someone head injury and why does she whipped you for it?
You should not be happy because of others' misfortunes. Your mom was teaching you a lesson.
Why did he laugh at me when I got whipped for laughing at his injury?
Because after laughing at him, you always had an embarrassing moment which is being whipped.
Why did Jill get whipped by her mom for laughing at Jack misfortune?
It is not appropriate or justifiable for a person to be physically punished for laughing at someone else's misfortune. Discipline should be constructive, respectful, and proportionate to the situation.
Why did jack laugh at jill after she got whipped for laughing at him?
Jack laughed at Jill after she got whipped for laughing at him because she started crying.
Why did jill mom whipped her for laughing at jack head injury?
Jill mom whipped her for laughing at jack head injury as a way of punishing her.
What the meaning of them laughing at you cut your mom whipped you for laughing at their injury?
It means that it was a disciplinary action for laughing at their injury.
What is the propellant used in whipped cream?
The propellant used in whipped cream is nitrous oxide, also known as laughing gas.
Why does your mom disapprove of you laughing at someone head injury and why does she whipped you for it-?
Because laughing at someone is considered unethical one needs to be disciplined.
What the meaning of you being laugh at because your mom whipped you for laughing at someone injury?
Because laughing at somebody is considered bad manners and that is the reason you were disciplined.
What meaning of jack laughing at Jill after her mom whipped her for laughing at His head?
The scenario you described suggests a cycle of mockery and retribution. Jack laughed at Jill for laughing at him, and then Jill's mom whipped her for it. This cycle may reflect a lack of empathy and understanding among the characters, leading to a harmful and negative dynamic.
Is there laughing gas in whipped cream?
YES, there is! My uncle is very good at foods and nutrition, and he's 54. He said that whip cream in fact does have laughing gas in it. I laugh so hard at pointless things when I eat it on cakes, pumpkin pie, milkshakes, or even brownies. Thanks for asking this question!!
