How many times a day does someone get rejected?

Answer 1

The concept of rejection does not correlate with what the person being rejected is, does, says, acts like, believes, etc. Rejection has nothing to do with whether the person makes mistakes, misbehaves, causes ill will, or does anything at all negative. As support for this view, consider how often we all reject others based on things like:

• race / skin color
• use of a different language
• use of a different language AND use of expressive communication (such as waving arms etc.)
• an accent
• the way a person is dressed
• whether a person is disabled or able-bodied
• whether a person has an obvious disability, such as a blind person who uses a stick
• a person who "acts crazy" or talks to themselves out loud
• students who are singled out, ostracized, or bullied
• men who are big, muscular, etc.
• people, especially women, who are less pretty or less perfect
• obese people

Races other than Caucasian often report that Caucasians purposely create distance. Black men are often distrusted simply because they are black. Studies show that Caucasian women will avoid walking close to a large male of any race, especially if the woman is alone.

Persons who use a different language are often ignored if others do not speak the same language. As an example, a 6-foot male is seen waving his arms, but he's speaking non-English and is ignored because other people fear him. However, the man was simply using excited expressive communication while trying to get help-- his wife is delivering a baby in the back seat! But passers-by simply keep keep walking, walk away faster, avoid eye contact, act busy, turn their backs, etc.

People who use wheelchairs are often never acknowledged. If an able-bodied person accompanies the wheelchair bound individual, other people speak to the able-bodied person but never even say "Hello" to the person in the wheelchair.

When people walk down the street, they purposely put distance between themselves and anyone they perceive as acting or talking "crazy". Studies have been done using a sane, educated, and otherwise "normal" person who only pretends to act as if he/she has schizophrenia. People will walk past, not look, not interact, not help the "actor" simply because people believe the person has a mental illness.

Studies have also been done to record how people react to two people: one obese and one not. Other studies recorded how people perceive perfection and beauty. These studies showed that many people react more favorably toward someone who is thin or normal weight, and perceived to be "more beautiful" than another test model. Obese people are ignored, or outright ridiculed. Less than attractive persons are ignored, not chosen (i.e. rejected) over more attractive persons of the same age.

In schools, millions of children become ostracized and rejected by their peers, even without bullying. As an example, a teenage group stands in the hall talking, laughing, etc. Another teen who wears out of fashion clothing, or is perceived as "different", or is new to the school approaches the group. The group quickly turn and walk away without even speaking to the other teen. This is a common form of rejection in schools throughout the US and other countries.

Answer 2

The number of rejections someone faces in a day can vary widely depending on individual circumstances, such as the nature of interactions or the person's goals. It's important to remember that rejection is a normal part of life and is not a reflection of one's worth. Practicing resilience and self-care can help manage and cope with rejection when it occurs.