What do men find appealing about being a cuckold?

Answer 1

Cuckold fantasies spring from basic fears of emasculation and, ultimately, failure to succeed in the evolutionary imperative of mating and reproduction. Generally speaking, there is a lot of psychological freight that comes with manhood, and a lot of investment of ego. There is, therefore, a lot of fear. Cuckold fantasies eroticize that fear, a well-established coping strategy for the psyche.

As a man who has been happily cuckolded for nearly a decade and a half, I find several things appealing about it:

• First and foremost, it satisfies my masochistic sexual desires. By facing my fears erotically, I have learned to manage them and they no longer hold the sting they once did.
• It frees me from the fears of betrayal and rejection that so handicapped my younger days (and still hamper - even poison - so many of the more traditional marriages I see around me.) There is almost no jealousy in my marriage and none of the volatility it causes around sexual matters.
• It relieves me from performance anxiety, especially from the burden of having sole responsibility for my wife's sexual fulfillment. I want her to have all the joys of life she can fit in, and I know I couldn't give it all to her because no one person ever can. We recognize that in all other aspects of life, but when it comes to sex, it is supposed to be a one-man job. Well, I job-share.
• It deepens and strengthens the bonds between my wife and I. To do this sort of thing, you have to have complete honesty, open communication, and the courage to share your deepest vulnerabilities and darkest fantasies. all of which binds you beyond measure. In doing it, you also develop shared secrets and faced shared threats, which likewise breed trust, teamwork, and affection.
• It increases my wife's respect and love for me. She doesn't feel compelled or trapped as so many women do. A lot of marriages have an implicit legalistic haggling: "you owe me this," "this is the contract," "you signed on for this." The subtext of mine is much more voluntary. You know that old saying about "if you love something set it free?" My wife is here because she wants to be. That is true of all husbands and wives, but they often don't feel it and believe it the way mine does. Relatedly, she knows that I trust her and that makes her think the world of me. She thinks me brave and confident and altogether wonderful because I don't "demand" that she "give me my due." (As a result, she would volunteer it in a minute if she thought it would make me happy.)
• It opens the door to other intimacy. The trust and the sexual satisfaction leaves my wife much more comfortable being innovative and experimental with our lovemaking than she was before. She feels safe. This manifests itself in other aspects of our life beyond sex. We don't spend out lives walking on egg-shells as many couples do.

Answer 2

Men may find the idea of being a cuckold appealing for various reasons such as enjoying the humiliation aspect, finding it exciting to see their partner with someone else, or experiencing arousal through feelings of submission or voyeurism. It ultimately depends on the individual and their specific desires and preferences.