What should an asexual female loner do if she feels trapped in her home because men sexually harass her every time she travels to do important things?

Answer 1

Men and women are obviously different. The biggest difference is communication. Men do not understand that hooting and hollering does not make a woman feel complimented, it's annoying. If you are not cosmetically challenged, consider yourself lucky.

But ask yourself, are you really being harassed or are you lacking self esteem and when men notice you, it makes you feel extremely uncomfortable?

I think I understand what you are saying, but if you are at the point of not being able to leave your home because you do not want the attention you are getting, it is an internal problem.

It sounds like a counselor would be your best advisory in this case. Not all men are harassing you. Men do not communicate the same way women do, and if you are unable to function on a daily basis due to these unwelcoming compliments, I strongly suggest you seek professional help.

Everyone is entitled to live freely. If you feel so trapped that you can not function, you need to look inside yourself and ask why?

I say I understand because I have been told I am pretty. I do not see that. I am ok with it. I feel "spongebob cute". That's it..

So, when I hear the "hootin' and hollerin'", I giggle and laugh. I don't see it, but if that's the way men do, I can't change their perspective. It's mine I have to work on. So, the best way to deal with it, and to do what I have to every day is to laugh.

Ignore it.

If it is TRUE harassment, call the police and make a report. If it's just men noticing how beautiful you are, it should make you feel good. It has nothing to do with your sexuality. It's cosmetic.

I hate when people look at me. I really do. So, I have learned to walk with my head held high and look straight forward. I will go into the store and get what I need, ignoring what I hear and tune it out. If I catch someone's eye, I will politely say hello, then continue walking on. I had to make myself learn to do that. And it says so much about you, when you don't walk looking at the ground. Look straight forward and tell yourself you have a job to do (whether it's going to the post office, or grocery store, or even taking your car to the dealership where you know there are herds of men) but it's the way you present yourself and the react - or don't react.

It's your life.. Don't let anyone else control it.. especially strangers.. (and even more especially - men.. ). You deserve to be happy, but it comes from inside.. not the outside..

I have found I get more attention when I don't wear make up. That is the funniest thing I have ever heard. But, to each their own.

So, pretty woman, try to think of them as giving you compliments but if it's actually interrupting your life, please seek professional help. No one ever deserves to feel trapped in their own home, for fear of being noticed.

Get help if you feel you can't accomplish daily tasks, because what you think may not be reality. It may be how you feel about yourself, and what you think others are doing, when in truth, it's your own lack of self confidence and self esteem that trap you.. We are are own worst enemy.

Learn to be your own best friend and then you might see the world in a different way.. But I feel 99% confident it's the way you are perceive things, than the way it really is..

Good luck..