Why are some people shy and others not?

Answer 1

Some people may be "shy" or lonely because they might have an anxiety, social anxiety, depression, some other type of disorder, or a combination of. These disorders may affect their ability to socialize or live well. People who feel they may have symptoms of a phycological disorders should seek consultation and\or treatment from a professional(such as a doctor or phycologist) A.S.A.P. These disorders can be treated with different types therapy such as cognitive therapy, exposure therapy. They can be treated with medication. Or a combination of therapy and medication. Lots of people are quick to say someone is shy when in reality the "shy" person may have a physcological disorder which probally could and should be treated A.S.A.P

If you desire more information on this subject there are many books availble on mental disorders. There is also lots of information on the internet.

Again, if you feel you may have any symptoms of some type of mental disorder(anxiety, depression, or other), I urge you to seek help from a professional who can help you to live better.

A group of best friends are sitting at a round table in a restaurant. They're discussing a hot topic. One of the friends is sitting in the corner not talking. Most people would say this friend is timid, inhibited, and/or passive.

They would label this friend, "shy."

However, couldn't this friend be someone who is tired of talking when no one is listening?

Couldn't this friend be someone who has no need to prove their knowledge of the subject matter?

Couldn't this friend be sympathetic enough not to insult the intelligence of others?

Listen

People don't listen. It's rare for one to speak before another breaks through one's sentence with a rebuttal. If, by chance, one gets a complete thought out, others hear the words but only absorb parts that suit them.

Shy people hate to talk in vain. They would rather use the time and energy for constructive things and constructive people.

Learn

People talk a lot so everyone thinks they're intelligent. For them, it's never enough to know they are intelligent. They must prove it.

Shy people are content knowing they are intelligent, and have no need to prove their intelligence. They wonder if other's mouths get tired of babbling on about things. Their ears get tired of listening to the babble.

Understand

Ever hear of the phrase, "If you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all?" This is the motto of all shy people.

They would rather be silent instead of using demure insults or obscene language to get their point across.

Conclusion

So, you see, shy people have been misunderstood for decades. The next time a shy person is quiet, ask them, "What are you really thinking?" They may answer truthfully. They may answer with "nothing," in keeping with their motto. After this revelation, don't you wish you were shy?

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It is quite hard to explain why people are shy, there is no real way to explain. It is also part of being human, I am shy but I dont let it bother me too much.

Answer 2

Now, umm its like gens I'm a shy person that because my mother is. People are different, they have different manners. they cant be the same. God made it like that.

Another answer:

There are no "shy" people. That is just a hateful label some stick on others to marginalize them or to make them feel less worthy. Introversion is a natural, inborn trait, and everyone has a right to be different. Intelligent people with good hearts never try to notice such traits, nor comment on them if they do by chance notice. How would the more outgoing people like it if their outgoing nature were labeled a *disease* and they were offered medicine and therapy to "cure them of their needs to socialize excessively, be nosy, notice strangers, boss others around or force unwanted help on others?" Extroverts would not like that to be sure, and they would hate a label such as "social aggression disorder." The 10% of society who have an alternative sexuality or the various ethnic minorities have made more advances in their own rights than the 25% who are natural, healthy, inborn introverts.

Answer 3

People are shy for different reasons. maybe you are not used to being around strange people. You can try to overcome your shyness by talking to strangers in the grocery store or at school. just say hello and make small conversation about the weather or a class or teacher.

Answer 4

Some people are shy due to genetics, upbringing, or past experiences that have shaped their personality. Introverted individuals may naturally have a tendency towards shyness, while extroverted individuals may be more outgoing. Shyness can also be influenced by social anxiety or a lack of confidence in social situations.

Answer 5

People are shy because they dont no what to say to certain people