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Because their calm reaction isn't what you expected or they don't act as angry as you do when something bad happens.


Actually passive people are not optimistic. Every things seem to be act negative in their sense. Such a people will not be counted as a aggressive in fact. They are mentally disturb or annoyed. Positivity sense is working passively.

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They don't actually 'make' you angry.... you choose to be angry. Think about that.

The nature of being passive aggressive is typically deceptive, deceitful, and covertly sabotaging the efforts and productivity of others. Communication usually shuts down and the person puts up brick walls. Sometimes they won't show open hostility, but attack covertly. It often frustrates people because it is difficult to counter or remedysince the person usually makes excuses for their behavior, uses emotional ploys, or is unreasonable in arguments.

Sometimes, people become angry at a passive aggressive person becauseyou want to control the situation and be successful when the passive aggressive individual is undermining the progress. Anger can come when there is a desire to control the other person who is being obstinate and unreasonable, but you can notcontrol others.

If there are ways toaccomplish the task in spite of the opposition, failure to do so might suggestshort comings in your own abilities, which might then provokefeelings of anger that you direct at others. Instead, anger should not enter into it, and the passive aggressive individual should be confronted in a friendly, but straight forward method to expose the sabotage, the negative affects that it is having, and allowing all parties to express themselves and resolve the problem mutually.

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What are symptoms of passive aggressive abuse?

Here are some ways of identifying the problem -- and the way it starts is always the same.. they start to make unkind comments, and then tell you it is a joke or cover it up to make you devalue yourself 1. Passive-aggressive people rarely take a stand. At first they seem very diplomatic and easy to get along with. They never argue and may even seem eager to please. But that's all a front. They don't keep promises, and even if they verbally agree with you, they will do what they want or complain about you behind your back. Or, they will simply shuffle along, and will only act if they are under extreme pressure-like when you finally yell at them or give an ultimatum. 2. Passive-aggressive people are forgetful. It's very difficult to trust or rely on passive-aggressive people. They conveniently forget what they don't want to do. Or, they "punish" you by dropping the ball on an important responsibility, and then apologize profusely so you feel guilty about being disappointed or angry. People also use passive-aggressive behavior if they have trouble dealing with pressure. Instead of asking for help, or setting boundaries and saying no, they agree to everything but do nothing. 3. Passive-aggressive people like to blame others. As far as they're concerned, everything is everybody else's fault. If they can't keep a job, it's because 'the boss was crazy" or "my wife wasn't supportive enough" or "my co-workers were out to get me." They see no reason to change their actions and have no motivation to look for alternatives or opportunities. In fact, passive-aggressive people also tend to carry a lot of resentment and anger ("everyone else ruined my life!") and like to "punish" others for what happened to them. They also put a lot of pressure on others. As they throw a pity party for themselves, you're expected to pick up the slack or to make them feel good about themselves. They can also be very critical, because they prefer seeing the faults of others over admitting their own. 4. Passive-aggressive people suppress feelings. Many of them were raised to hide their feelings. Maybe they were punished when they got angry, or told to "stop crying and act like a man." So they suppress their real emotions, and have a tendency to either suddenly blow up or to get back at you in subtle ways. For example, a wife may not confront her husband about his cheating, but will quietly undermine his relationship with the kids. 5. Passive-aggressive people are afraid commitment and dependency. They are often control freaks. They don't want to admit that they need you or care about you, and usually sabotage relationships. For example, they will find reasons to break up with people, or use ways to retain control over a relationship (such as withholding money, sex or approval) so they don't feel dependent on others. 6. Passive-aggressive people are insensitive to others' needs. Healthy relationships are based on give-and-take, but for passive-aggressive people it's "all about me." They may say "I love you" and appear to be compassionate and concerned, but they either forget to follow through, or continue behavior that they know will upset you, or they make you very, very aware of the "sacrifice" they're making. "Oh, I didn't go to the conference, which could've really helped my career, and I probably won't get the promotion, but that's what you want, right?" 7. Passive-aggressive people procrastinate. They figure out that if they wait long enough, you'll give up and stop bothering them, or youu'll forget the promise they made. They also use procrastination as a way of ignoring problems or avoiding fears. For example, they may find ways to put off a project because they're afraid of failure, or they'll wistfully talk about their dreams but not actually go for them because they want to continue blaming you for "holding them back."


What do you call this when two people are talking negatively about somebody they do not like but use words or make statements meant to be heard by the person they do not like at work?

This is known as "backbiting" or "gossiping" in the workplace, where individuals engage in negative conversations about a colleague they do not like, often with the intention of the disliked person overhearing. This behavior can lead to a toxic work environment and should be addressed and resolved professionally.


Someone told you they are passive aggressive with an impulse disorder what does that mean?

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Why are nerds so angry?

It is not accurate to generalize that all nerds are angry. People's emotions are influenced by a variety of factors, and being a nerd does not inherently make someone angry. It's important to remember that anyone can experience emotions like anger, regardless of their interests or hobbies.


What makes a guy angry?

When the woman isnt making him dinner or doing the dishes or having sexual intercourse! Woman is not the slave of a guy which makes the guy angry. Sexual intercourse will always be disturbed due to the lake of understanding. A wicked brain makes a guy angry. Most of the things make the guy angry if he is not happy by himself. If a guy have various expectation and it does not work, or the guy is extreme selfish , no job, no money to buy alcohol and have no feeling or respect to other will make the guy angry. such a person is mostly insane.

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