Why do people become obsessed with other people and am I being stalked when I have made it clear I am not attracted to him and I told him I was disgusted by the thought of being intimate with him?

Answer 1

• Some individuals can fall deeply in love with another or they fantasize about that person in their own mind and therefore become obsessed with them. Generally these types of people can be shy and have low self esteem or confidence. Other individuals simply cannot take no for an answer and can be narcissistic right down to dangerous with 'if I can't have you then no one will have you.' Be careful how you choose your words and do not engage in conversations with him or tell him how disgusted you are by him because you are playing a dangerous game. He may be the type of person that could harm you. Tell your parents; friends about this person and give his name and where he lives. If he continues to bother you then complain to the police and at least it will be on file and if it gets worse then get a 'Cease and Desist Order' put on him which will constitute that he cannot come near you or bother you. However, and depending on certain people that are obsessed with their victim or a stalker this piece of paper may not phase on them at all. Unfortunately, the police can do little until he shows some signs of aggression or harms you. Be very aware of your surroundings and try to go out with a friend or stay in groups of friends. If you drive do not park underground; always look in your back seat before getting into your car; once in the car lock your door immediately; do not park near vans or too far away from where you are going and try to leave a building or go into a building with a group of people and if you walk do not walk at night alone or even go for a jog alone and go with a friend. If you are out visiting a friend tell them you will phone when you get home and do so that your friends know if you do not call something is wrong. Change your phone numbers; locks if need be and do not leave any windows or sliding doors open. Never underestimate a person that is obsessed with you. If you find you are nervous staying alone stay with family or a friend for a few weeks in hopes the obsessed person will leave you alone.