You can buy Lolita clothing in California at AnnaHouse Fashion, or Angelic Pretty.
So far as I know on the internet, there are several on line Chinese wholesale Lolita companies. They all provide the Lolita clothing in a low price and high quality.
There are no physical stores wher you can buy Lolita clothing in New York, or anywhere in the United States for the time being. To aquire Lolita clothing you can order them directly from Japan. A handful of Japanese lolita brands ship internationally, and more are joining the global market as the numbers of Western Lolitas grow all around the world. There are also US based Lolita brands that have online shops as well. Maybe one day a Lolita shop might open up in New York or New York City? Who knows? Only time will tell.
You may have noticed that lolita clothing can be expensive, especially baby's items (I'll have to admit, my skirt had cost €181, but I do wear it pretty often), but don't feel discouraged or feel like you only have to buy from baby. There are many stores out there that sell lolita clothing and accessories that might suit your styles, size, and price range.
There are many Japanese Lolita brands that sell Gothic Lolita clothing, but are often priced at a high rate because the market for it is small (clothing size range is limited) and the designers themselves must be compensated for their time, designs, and use of materials. You could also find someone who works as a seamstress who can create a custom dress in your clothing sizes, by commissioning them online or in real life.
This question isn't very specific, but if you're asking if there are any physical lolita shops in North Carolina, USA, I don't believe that there are any. There are, however, a fairly active lolita community in the Carolinas: The only stores I can think of that's fairly close is Candy Violet in Virginia (I don't believe that she has a physical store) and Tokyo Rebel in New York City. If you're willing to shop online you will find some sites.
Although this question was under modeling, there are no specific weight and height requirements for wearing lolita. I've seen many lolitas from 5 foot to 6 foot tall wear the clothing well. What really matters, aside of understanding the fashion (such as how to wear, what constitutes as lolita, and where to buy) is actual body measurements. When buying or customizing lolita clothing, keep in mind of the basic silhouette. Ex: Skirts sit at the waistline (natural waistline; smallest part of the torso; across the bellybutton) and should be around knee length.
On their website, AnnaHouseFashion.com
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You can buy Lolita glasses from online retailers such as Amazon, eBay, or specialty websites that cater to alternative fashion. You can also find them in stores that specialize in alternative or gothic fashion.
I think lolit dress shops can be found in any place There is a shop called One Day In Paradise in the city that sells lolita clothing
You can buy Lolita Lempicka at your local Wallgreens. You could also buy it on Ebay or a website that specializes in selling fragrances like Fragrancenet, and Sephora.
There isn't a straight way in becoming a lolita other than dressing in the clothes. You can change small parts of your life to follow the lolita way. Such as having a time of the day just dedicated to drinking tea, start to sew, etc. There are tips all over the internet on how to do this. The clothing then would be : Baby the stras shine bright, Angelic pretty Sometimes you can mix sweet lolita with a bit of hime lolita which is princess lolita