Can a child be blamed if he is abused by his parents?

Answer 1

The term abuse implies unjustified mistreatment; it would not be accurate to describe as abuse some parental discipline which was actually necessary due to the actions of the child being disciplined. But beyond that, let's say the question is, can parents be justified in treating their children harshly? And the answer is, yes, in some cases. Parents can be cruel and tyrannical, but children can also be irresponsible and destructive. There is no guarantee that in a conflict between parents and children it is always the parents who are to blame. Sometimes the parents are to blame, sometimes the children are to blame, and sometimes they are both to blame. I would have to look at specific circumstances to come up with some moral judgment about parents who are harshly disciplining their children. '''A bit more:''' If it's actual ''abuse'', then no. A child cannot, and should not, be blamed for the actions of the parents - ever. If a child is descructive, the parents should never be "cruel and tyrannical"; this will only result in the child's behavior becoming even more destructive. When a child's behavior does become destructive and the parents can't control it through normal discipline (i.e. 'normal' spankings, time out, taking away privileges, etc.), then they need to seek professional help to rule out any physical or psychological disorders the child may have. If the child is found to have no disorders, the parents and the child need to go to counseling together to determine the cause of the child's behavior, and to learn how to deal with it in the most positive and productive way possible. Often, when parents are too strict or if they are overly critical of the child, or if they never show the child affection or praise, the child will become destructive and disorderly as an outlet for their feelings of rejection, feeling unloved, etc. And then the parents see it as a matter of a 'bad' child, and they will become abusive towards the child. And then the child becomes even more destructive and unruly, resulting in a vicious cycle, with the parents becoming even more abusive in their efforts to control the child. This doesn't necessarily make them bad parents, it sometimes just means they don't know what else to do. But it also doesn't necessarily make the child bad, either; it just means the child is crying out for love, attention, and help. And this is where counseling can pay off in huge rewards, for the child and the parents. They will learn what the child's needs are and, once the child's needs are met, the destructive behavior will begin to decrease.

Answer 2

Because it's the children's parent why wouldn't they