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Narcissists are addicted to a drug known as "Narcissistic Supply". Attention (good OR bad), adulation, applause, fame, celebrity, notoriety - are all narcissistic supply. The people who supply these consistently, reliably, and predictably, are called "Narcissistic Supply Sources".
Why should the narcissist look for another source of supply if the current source of supply is available (always accepts him back)?
Cultivating a source of secondary narcissistic supply is a VERY time consuming and energy consuming affair. The path of least resistance (reverting to old sources) is always preferred.
The old source has the advantage of having recorded memories of past grandeur. Her very "surrender" and "yielding to his charms" IS the supply he seeks.
He sort of pushes the envelope, trying to ascertain and map the outer limits of his potency as irresistible male and mate. The more tortured the relationship - the sweeter the recurrent victory. This is doubly true when the narcissist is in the throes of life crises such as loss of a job, divorce, serious illness, etc.
verbal abuse IS narcissistic supply!
NS includes attention, fame, notoriety, adulation, fear, applause, approval. It is a mixed bag. If the narcissist gets attention � positive or negative � it constitutes NS. If he can manipulate people or influence them � positively or negatively � it qualifies as NS.
Even quarrelling with people constitutes NS. Perhaps not the fighting itself � but the ability to influence other people, to induce feelings in them, to manipulate them emotionally, to make them do something or refrain from doing it.  
I have come to believe that the pathologically narcissistic have a different relationship with reality than with the rest of us, in the sense that they disregard it in favor of the quality of "forms of words."
Put another way, truth is not so much about what really happened as about how many people they IMAGINE they can convince (and the egocentric DO tend to exaggerate this figure).
In my experience they genuinely don't seem to have a CLUE what kind of difference the facts AS THEY HAPPENED, make to other people.
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