You keep reminding her that you are her child after all. Tell her that you are updated version of her!
Ignore them.
Be grateful they do not remember you
I don't think so. How can change occur in narcissist whose mother is a narcissist as well, even if she accepts him? The very sickness comes from that lack of emotional support given by the mother at the most crucial time, birth. My mother in law has damaged my husband so much that because he is a product of his environment, he had dished out his madness upon me and his children. Sadly, I am the one who had the mental breakdown and has suffered so much. Is there really help for a narcissist?
You leave. There is NO dealing with this sort of person. And seek counseling for yourself ASAP.
Answer How do you want us to answer this question, you haven't supplied us with anything that would lead us to think she is sick or not. Can you include somethings that she does to make you think she's a narcissist?
Offer the option to the Father. Tell him stop his attitude because it is affecting your relationship.
If a mother is having trouble enjoying life without her son, what is the relevance of his status as a narcissist? Is she trying to find a way to blame him for her inability to negotiate life? The important thing for the mother is to understand that children leaving home is a normal and healthy life event. A mother's overdependence on her son is its own issue, and such a mother might benefit from good counseling and the support of lots of ordinary healthy friends. Her son's issues are his to deal with, and he will deal with them as he sees fit.
My mother suffered from (undiagnosed) Narcissistic Personality Disorder. During the last years of her life she showed signs of Dementia. My step-mother (my father knew how to pick his women!!) has been, for her entire life, a full blown narcissist with all the traits of Narcissistic Personality Disorder. She has recently (she is 78) been diagnosed with Vascular Dementia. I have no idea how to cope with it. It is soul destroying to have to deal with her.
You are saying narcissist ex. If he is your ex he is not cheating on you and why would you care if he is your ex. Forget about this and move on with your life. If you think that this is cheating on you - better think again and also know that this will go on and on.
See an Elder Care lawyer IMMEDIATELY and do what they suggest.
Unless she has been labeled a narcissist by a psychiatrist/psychologist then you have no right to discuss her as being one. You didn't mention how old your son is, but whether very young or in his teens you have no right to form your opinions on him. To him she is his mother and always will be. If you want to sever all ties with your son then just keep up the name-calling against his mother.
Sometimes not at first because a narcissist likes drama and likes to be around special people in order to feel special vicariously. But if and when she becomes too much for him to deal with he will leave. A narcissist really needs submissive women. Women they can dominate and control and get "Narcissistic supply" from....at heart they are insecure cowards!