How do you stop yourself from speaking bad things about people?

Answer 1

that's easy simply before replying to anything think about what you should say, if they are annoying you, you simply never look in there eyes just think of a pretty smart but not rude reply and walk off.

AnswerSince thoughts are real and have substance, and are energy being expressed, we must transpose this negative energy to a positive by looking to see the good in another person each time there is a tendency to think ill of that person. We can't get rid of anything since nothing is made new or destroyed, we can only re-direct the energy into something productive. In this way, you will be replacing it rather than regreting it. This is part of the karmic experience, giving us opportunity to learn from it so that we can move onward and upward. Always, in any situation, do this. Stop, look, listen, and ask yourself- how can I use what I know to improve this situation?. We are not helpless because we have the power of choice. As we make more productive rather than unproductive choices, our choice making faculty of the will is strengthened. This is how we build will power.

By choosing to do the better thing, consistantly, you will simply go off and leave the problems where they belong- in the past. The only reason to look at the past is to see what we stepped in, so we can avoid it later. To give it any further thought is to bring it with you as burden. To forgive yourself is to decide what you are willing to give in order to have something better.

If you want someone else to be something, first be that yourself. This is true service to self and others, which is the number six. It also represents practice which is the reason we have related experiences after we understand, so that we can practice the new way until it becomes second nature and we don't readily remember the old way. On the way to this new acceptance, you will find that you have worked through the steps of change, which are- denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally, acceptance.It's all about changing me, rather than you.Judge not.

Matthew 71Judge not, that ye be not judged.Luke 637Judge not, and ye shall not be judged.Romans 21Therefore thou art inexcusable, O man, whosoever thou art that judgest: for wherein thou judgest another, thou condemnest thyself; for thou that judgest doest the same things.James 412Who art thou that judgest another?

AnswerThe above verses are most certainly relevant and in addition to this we need to realize the ultimate source of the problem. 'For out of the heart proceed evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, fornications, thefts, false witness, blasphemies.' Matthew 15 v 19.

Thus the source of what comes out of our mouth is a bad attitude within. This needs to be dealt with before the attitude of judging others and then speaking bad things will cease. Human willpower and good intentions can work for a time, but ultimately the only lasting change many have found to work is a new heart and life surrendered to Jesus Christ.

Both the source of the problem and the power of a wrong heart-attitude can be changed in this way.

Theres a saying that was once said 'if theres something in someone that annoys you, then you must have that quality too,' & another thing to think of before anything comes out of your mouth is 'no one is perfect. IM NOT PERFECT. so who am I to point out your flaws.'

AnswerTo stop speaking bad about other people, first we must know why we gossip.

Pls see link "JK on Gossip"