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How often do narcissists marry other narcissists?
- There are no statistics available. Very few narcissists are diagnosed as such because they often avoid therapy and detection altogether.
- Wow...in my situation, she married someone that is obvious N supply for her. He caters to her and treats her like a queen and once she looked at him and at me and said "Laura thinks I'm spoiled...do YOU think I'm spoiled?" The look I got from her was playful at first, but then one of "HA HA" and she finally said "she's just jealous cause her husband doesn't do this for her!"
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There are no hard statistics on narcissism because they often go undiagnosed. A true narcissist is less likely to become an addict because of the way that they view themse…lves in relation to the rest of the world. They see themselves as better than, and doing drugs/drinking/vices would bring them down to other, lesser peoples, level. This should not be confused with someone with a large ego, something that Brett Gyllenskog is famous for. Narcissits are also very commonly obssessed with their outward appearance and would not engage in drugs/alcohol becuase of the aesthetic effect they usually have on the user.
A lot of people tend to project their faults on to others. I doubt if it's common for people to project the actual term "narcissism" outside of areas where it has become a co…mmon term of reference such as support communities. However, within those areas, I have observed a significant number of what would appear to be blatantly obvious NPD sufferers who have discovered NPD for the first time, and immediately decided to attribute it to their primary victims, rather than themselves. (If you are reading this and think I mean you, then I probably don't!) Narcissists project their own disorder onto others. They "label" others with their own problems. The reverse process happens to victims. Some people adopt the role of a professional victim. In doing so, they become self-centered, devoid of empathy and, abusive and exploitative. In other words, they become narcissists. The role of "professional victims" - ones whose existence and very identity is defined solely and entirely by their victimhood - is well researched in victimology. It doesn't make for a nice reading. These victim "pros" are often more cruel, vengeful, vitriolic, lacking in compassion and violent than their abusers. They make a career of it. They identify with this role to the exclusion of all else. It is a danger to be avoided. And this is precisely what I called "Narcissistic Contagion" or "Narcissism by Proxy". These affected entertain the (false) belief they can compartmentalize their narcissistic behaviour and direct it only at the narcissist. In other words, they trust in their ability to segregate their behaviour patterns: verbally abusive towards the narcissist - civil with others, act with malice where the narcissist is concerned - and with Christian charity towards all others. They cling to the "faucet theory". They believe that they can turn on and off their negative feelings, their abusive outbursts, their vindictiveness and vengefulness, their blind rage, their non-discriminating judgment. This, of course, is untrue. These behaviours spill over, into daily transactions with innocent others. One cannot be partly or temporarily vindictive and judgmental any more than one can be partly or temporarily pregnant. To their horror, these victims discover that they have been transmuted and transformed into their worst nightmare: into a narcissist. Narcissism is contagious and that many victims tend to become narcissists themselves: malevolent, vicious, lacking empathy, egotistical, exploitative, violent and abusive. No, they avoid the word, pretend it doesn't exist. They don't like their victims being educated and try to change the subject. They will laugh and tell you, "oh you think everyone is a narcissist." I might have to agree on that one. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder feels that their way of thinking (the grandiosity, the abuse) is the "right" one. They actually think that they are normal, and that other people are either hypocrites or crazy. As such, they think that the entire psychology community is wrong about "denigrating" narcissism. On the other hand, they can also use NPD as an ammunition to attack others, but only when they haven't discovered that they themselves have NPD. If they have discovered their own NPD, then lo and behold, they recreate a new world where NPD is a "holy" characteristic.
Answer . \nHell on earth! Stay clear! It's like putting 2 Pitt Bulls in a bag! Run!\n. \nMarcy
At the end of a relationship with a narcissist do the victims often struggle with guilt and fear that it was THEY who were the narcissists and not the other way around?
Answer *Yes, this can happen. We often have heard the words, "It takes two." This doesn't mean that one spouse is a narcissist, but, they all…owed the narcissist to get away with their behavior and therefore were enablers. Even when you get a separation from your spouse or a divorce often one partner will blame themselves when they didn't cause the circumstances for the separation or divorce. When I was married the first time my husband cheated, lied and became mentally/physically abusive. I took it for almost 3 years and finally had the brains to leave him. I know how hard that choice can be no matter what the circumstances. For a couple of years later I was blaming myself and telling myself if I'd been a good wife then he wouldn't have cheated on me. It wasn't until a very wise friend of mine straightened me out on that one. Although I'm not perfect I have never cheated on a boyfriend or my first husband and certainly not my second husband. We sometimes just feel within ourselves we could have done more. It's no different than someone you love being ill and dying, or they are in a terrible accident. Family members and even friends will say, "If only I hadn't" or "If I had just talked to them." Fate happens as do accidents, but, when we can see someone purposely hurting us that's the time to make a decision to get out and keep moving and try to shake the guilty feelings that we simply didn't do enough to make it work. yes It is even more so if you were raised in a dysfunctional environment such as a mentally ill mother, alcoholism or even a parent was a narcisssit. You have been "trained" already to accept the blame for things others did wrong and that your feelings and self are not relevant. You tend to view others needs as more important than your own. Answer All so true... This is HUGE, "When we can see someone purposely hurting us that's the time to make a decision to get out and keep moving and try to shake the guilty feelings that we simply didn't do enough to make it work.". This really simplifies things. When I realized my N fiance' was doing this, it was as though I were being hit over the head with a bat. It had never occurred to me he was doing things 'intentionally' to hurt me because I (and those I know and love) am so incapable of doing that myself. He actually admitted this in counseling 'with a smile on his face'. Wham! That was huge. Someone like that has serious 'character' flaws that cannot be changed by love. They say character is solidly defined by age 5. If we were mistreated as children/teens, we will blame ourselves into thinking it was our fault. We simply carry this over into our adult relationships and continue to repeat the cycle of abuse. Only this time, we have a choice - we can leave. Take care, AlwaysLearning
Someone who worships him or her self. everything revols around you, everythign you do is for your own good and use Narcissism is the practice of displaying (among others);- gr…andiosity (superiority,) entitlement, competitiveness and envy, lack of empathy (understanding and considering others,) shallow affect (vague or superficial feelings and emotions,) Lack of insight or self-awareness (never considers that attitudes/behaviour may be unhealthy to self or others,) Poor impulse control (cannot resist urges especially destructive ones and especially when angry,) manipulative behaviour. When these behaviours go to extremes (and are displayed over a significat period of time) a medical diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) may be made. Many people may display some (or all) of these traits without having the disorder, on fact most of us display these from time to time. It is logical to say that the more of these traits displayed and the more frequently they are displayed then the more narcissitic that person may be.
This is not only very unlikely, but could have some very violent results. Abusers usually stay away from other abusers, as they are difficult to control. The abuser may …accuse the victim of being the abuser, but this is not the case. I will assume that your diagnosis is current, however, for this question. An abuser would marry another abuser due to a history of abuse in childhood. The initial abuser would be very confused. Having grown up in an abusive environment, he has witnessed both the victim and the abuser. The child usually grows up to become one of these two options. In this case, it appears that the child grew up to become both. If this is the case, the abuser will be very confused and will probably have a split personality in which he either plays the role of the abuser or the victim. The problem will come when both abusers want to play the 'abuser' role, and neither feels like playing victim. This could become very dangerous.
somebody who has the following symptoms Reacting to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation Taking advantage of others to reach own goals Exaggerating own import…ance, achievements, and talents Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others Becoming jealous easily Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others Being obsessed with self Pursuing mainly selfish goals Trouble keeping healthy relationships Becoming easily hurt and rejected Setting goals that are unrealistic Wanting "the best" of everything Appearing unemotional
A narcissist (from character in the Greek mythology, Narcissus) is someone who seeks pleasure only for themselves.
Someone who they percieve as weaker, less intelligent, and less cofident than themselves. Their identity is hinged on where they appear relative to other people. So the person… they choose must somehow reflect their own imagined superiority
in real life, this will never happen coz opposites attract! but in case a narcissist does marry another narcissist, they'll never last for even an hour. Normal peop…le learn from each other, especially if their mistakes are reflected. Narcissists will never even learn their own mistakes from each other coz they always think they are right.
I think he will. But he will eventually suck the life out of her to.
No They only have better relationships with themselves..... new answer: if 2 people have different forms of (pathological) narcissism they can have a relatively succes…sful relationship but two cerebral narcissists, for example, would be fighting in no time.
Generally, no. Narcissistic behavior is draw to others that will listen - not talk about themselves as well. There are always exceptions if there is attraction that over…whelms a mental disorder.
Answer 1. Someone who is gullible, suffers from guilt or is emotionally reactive so that the narcissist can 'play them' and make them look to blame for their own inadequaci…es and irresponsibility. 2. Someone who despite 1. still has status, looks, money or valuable skills. 3. Most importantly (and deep down) a person who they hope will eventually find the strength to tame them (a worthy opponent). Answer A woman with Borderline Personality Disorder. A woman who is naive, gullible, easily controlled. Or some may also choose a woman who is stronger than them emotionally, someone who is hard to get, a virgin.