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How often do narcissists marry other narcissists?
- There are no statistics available. Very few narcissists are diagnosed as such because they often avoid therapy and detection altogether.
- Wow...in my situation, she married someone that is obvious N supply for her. He caters to her and treats her like a queen and once she looked at him and at me and said "Laura thinks I'm spoiled...do YOU think I'm spoiled?" The look I got from her was playful at first, but then one of "HA HA" and she finally said "she's just jealous cause her husband doesn't do this for her!"
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No They only have better relationships with themselves..... new answer: if 2 people have different forms of (pathological) narcissism they can have a relatively succes…sful relationship but two cerebral narcissists, for example, would be fighting in no time.
somebody who has the following symptoms Reacting to criticism with anger, shame, or humiliation Taking advantage of others to reach own goals Exaggerating own import…ance, achievements, and talents Imagining unrealistic fantasies of success, beauty, power, intelligence, or romance Requiring constant attention and positive reinforcement from others Becoming jealous easily Lacking empathy and disregarding the feelings of others Being obsessed with self Pursuing mainly selfish goals Trouble keeping healthy relationships Becoming easily hurt and rejected Setting goals that are unrealistic Wanting "the best" of everything Appearing unemotional
A lot of people tend to project their faults on to others. I doubt if it's common for people to project the actual term "narcissism" outside of areas where it has become a co…mmon term of reference such as support communities. However, within those areas, I have observed a significant number of what would appear to be blatantly obvious NPD sufferers who have discovered NPD for the first time, and immediately decided to attribute it to their primary victims, rather than themselves. (If you are reading this and think I mean you, then I probably don't!) Narcissists project their own disorder onto others. They "label" others with their own problems. The reverse process happens to victims. Some people adopt the role of a professional victim. In doing so, they become self-centered, devoid of empathy and, abusive and exploitative. In other words, they become narcissists. The role of "professional victims" - ones whose existence and very identity is defined solely and entirely by their victimhood - is well researched in victimology. It doesn't make for a nice reading. These victim "pros" are often more cruel, vengeful, vitriolic, lacking in compassion and violent than their abusers. They make a career of it. They identify with this role to the exclusion of all else. It is a danger to be avoided. And this is precisely what I called "Narcissistic Contagion" or "Narcissism by Proxy". These affected entertain the (false) belief they can compartmentalize their narcissistic behaviour and direct it only at the narcissist. In other words, they trust in their ability to segregate their behaviour patterns: verbally abusive towards the narcissist - civil with others, act with malice where the narcissist is concerned - and with Christian charity towards all others. They cling to the "faucet theory". They believe that they can turn on and off their negative feelings, their abusive outbursts, their vindictiveness and vengefulness, their blind rage, their non-discriminating judgment. This, of course, is untrue. These behaviours spill over, into daily transactions with innocent others. One cannot be partly or temporarily vindictive and judgmental any more than one can be partly or temporarily pregnant. To their horror, these victims discover that they have been transmuted and transformed into their worst nightmare: into a narcissist. Narcissism is contagious and that many victims tend to become narcissists themselves: malevolent, vicious, lacking empathy, egotistical, exploitative, violent and abusive. No, they avoid the word, pretend it doesn't exist. They don't like their victims being educated and try to change the subject. They will laugh and tell you, "oh you think everyone is a narcissist." I might have to agree on that one. People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder feels that their way of thinking (the grandiosity, the abuse) is the "right" one. They actually think that they are normal, and that other people are either hypocrites or crazy. As such, they think that the entire psychology community is wrong about "denigrating" narcissism. On the other hand, they can also use NPD as an ammunition to attack others, but only when they haven't discovered that they themselves have NPD. If they have discovered their own NPD, then lo and behold, they recreate a new world where NPD is a "holy" characteristic.
Answer . \nHell on earth! Stay clear! It's like putting 2 Pitt Bulls in a bag! Run!\n. \nMarcy
Answer 1. Someone who is gullible, suffers from guilt or is emotionally reactive so that the narcissist can 'play them' and make them look to blame for their own inadequaci…es and irresponsibility. 2. Someone who despite 1. still has status, looks, money or valuable skills. 3. Most importantly (and deep down) a person who they hope will eventually find the strength to tame them (a worthy opponent). Answer A woman with Borderline Personality Disorder. A woman who is naive, gullible, easily controlled. Or some may also choose a woman who is stronger than them emotionally, someone who is hard to get, a virgin.
I think he will. But he will eventually suck the life out of her to.
Someone who worships him or her self. everything revols around you, everythign you do is for your own good and use Narcissism is the practice of displaying (among others);- gr…andiosity (superiority,) entitlement, competitiveness and envy, lack of empathy (understanding and considering others,) shallow affect (vague or superficial feelings and emotions,) Lack of insight or self-awareness (never considers that attitudes/behaviour may be unhealthy to self or others,) Poor impulse control (cannot resist urges especially destructive ones and especially when angry,) manipulative behaviour. When these behaviours go to extremes (and are displayed over a significat period of time) a medical diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) may be made. Many people may display some (or all) of these traits without having the disorder, on fact most of us display these from time to time. It is logical to say that the more of these traits displayed and the more frequently they are displayed then the more narcissitic that person may be.
This is not only very unlikely, but could have some very violent results. Abusers usually stay away from other abusers, as they are difficult to control. The abuser may …accuse the victim of being the abuser, but this is not the case. I will assume that your diagnosis is current, however, for this question. An abuser would marry another abuser due to a history of abuse in childhood. The initial abuser would be very confused. Having grown up in an abusive environment, he has witnessed both the victim and the abuser. The child usually grows up to become one of these two options. In this case, it appears that the child grew up to become both. If this is the case, the abuser will be very confused and will probably have a split personality in which he either plays the role of the abuser or the victim. The problem will come when both abusers want to play the 'abuser' role, and neither feels like playing victim. This could become very dangerous.
They marry the type that are just so eager to give love and attention to someone who needs it. My mother struggled all her married life with my father who had Narcissistic Per…sonality Disorder (never diagnosed). My mother was a very loving person, very warm and tactile and my father drained her and she became very bitter and so exhausted. He had to be the centre of her and our (my sister and I) attention at all times. If he were consigned to the sidelines he became petulant and sulky. He was ALWAYS right, no matter what we said, no matter how we rationalised it. As a result of having him for a male role model I married someone just like him; another narcissist! And then did it again in my second marriage. A few months ago I took a lover and have realised recently that he too has the same personality disorder. I am a very sensitive and empathetic person with an innate ability to see the other person's point of view. These types hurt all the time and I just wanted to fix them. I've realised that I can't fix them and now just want to avoid them.
Someone who they percieve as weaker, less intelligent, and less cofident than themselves. Their identity is hinged on where they appear relative to other people. So the person… they choose must somehow reflect their own imagined superiority
Celebrate! Go out with your friends and family because I'm sure your ex kept you from them as much as possible. Reconnect relationships with people you care about and don't …ever look back. If you need help in how to heal do what I did and read everything you can get your hands on regarding NDP that way you will be sure to never go back. Consider yourself lucky you are divorcing from this person. These people are horrible self-centered emotional vampires that don't consider their partners as human beings. Talk to a therapist if you have to but whatever you do stay away and in time you will feel like a human being again. Trust me, I know, I've been there. The day I finally dumped my ex N was truly the day I began to heal.
Sure. The question is - does the spouse-wanna-be want to stay abused & miserable for the rest of their life.
Generally, no. Narcissistic behavior is draw to others that will listen - not talk about themselves as well. There are always exceptions if there is attraction that over…whelms a mental disorder.
There are no hard statistics on narcissism because they often go undiagnosed. A true narcissist is less likely to become an addict because of the way that they view themse…lves in relation to the rest of the world. They see themselves as better than, and doing drugs/drinking/vices would bring them down to other, lesser peoples, level. This should not be confused with someone with a large ego, something that Brett Gyllenskog is famous for. Narcissits are also very commonly obssessed with their outward appearance and would not engage in drugs/alcohol becuase of the aesthetic effect they usually have on the user.
in real life, this will never happen coz opposites attract! but in case a narcissist does marry another narcissist, they'll never last for even an hour. Normal peop…le learn from each other, especially if their mistakes are reflected. Narcissists will never even learn their own mistakes from each other coz they always think they are right.