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Is it more painful for a narcissist to be ignored or ridiculed?
I agree with what a lot of you have said. I find a lot of narcissists at the gym. They are so fixated on their looks and many go to become "hot" and to acquire an enviable look. They act cold, arrogant, and soulless many of them. Few, if any, will deign to hold the door for another entering or leaving the establishment. I also noticed the "ignoring" dynamic. For example, the male hosts who greet me coming in always offer a cheery "hello" when I come in and a "have a nice day" when I leave. I always respond in kind. But if they didn't say anything, I would just run in, work out, and leave. Interestingly, I noticed that if I say hello first, they only grunt indifferently in response. Some won't even acknowledge me. I don't know what to make of this. It's very disconcerting. No other establishment have I been treated this way -- usually the friendliness (or lack there of) will be consistent whether I am the initiator or not. I guess they are so narcissisitic that they solicit validation from me when I ignore them -- and then once they get it -- go on to ignoring me, to make me feel less..or perhaps to discourage me in case they think I am saying hello because I must "want" them and they think tehy better discourage me if I am not hot enough by their standards. Bizarre. I disagree that anyone can MAKE you feel anything. Take responsibility for your own lives. There are some people who are too clingy and who attach to others and drain them. If you are like this, people will distance themselves and tell you you are being too clingy and dependent. Healthy people are whole within themselves. If they push you away for being too clingy and wanting too much attention yourself, they are not narcissists -- perhaps yo are. The world doesn't revolve around anyone..or anything but God. Some people when ignored (for whatever reason..the other party is not interested, busy, distracted, etc.) will try harder -- and get more aggressive to get attention. Some will pick fights, flirt, or become punitive since they are willfully determined to get the attention, recognition and validation they seek. Not being able to handle the rejection, they lose all perspective. Some of you come who have posted here come across like this -- that you get unglued when someone ignores you. Heck if someone were playing that game of ignoring me, etc., I would just conclude that they weren't worth my time and move on. I don't understand why you keep going back to them.
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Most likely he will. If he's not able to come back with a good enough answer or reaction on the spot, he will most likely try to do it afterwards in a way or another. One …way might be spreading rumors or lies about you behind your back. Answer He will absolutely spread rumors or lies about you behind your back whether you have ridiculed him in public or not. Anything he/she perceives to create narcissistic injury is fair game for retaliation.
Answer . \nNarcissistic people are arrogant and the only right way is their way. To be ignored is painful for them because they need that constance debate with others to …make themselves feel superior to others (everyone else in the world is stupid) to get through the day. \n. \nMarcy
Yes, you should ignore him or anybody who is abusive. The truth is: nobody is perfect and sometimes we need people to teach us a lesson. Ignoring him is the best thing you cou…ld do for him and for YOU. If he really loves you, he will eventually realize he made a mistake but this would only happen if you ignore him long enough, and this means, ignoring his first attempts to contact you, it is hard but at the end it is worth it. Good luck =)
Dont BUY their deceptions. They lure you in with mental "pyrotechnics " if they have brains.. if not, theyre body will do. Recognize trashiness when you see it. Be better t…han that and have some STANDARDS!
It really bothers them. They feel 'forgotten' and for a narcissist to be forgotten is to be insignificant. I was working with a fairly famous musician for a time who was a HUG…E narcissist. I finally gave up on his rude behaviour and ignored him. Two weeks later, he's contacting and sucking up to me, despite that he has thousands of fans. But when they do re-contact you, it's only so they can test you. They're trying to get a reaction out of you to feed their ego. Just keep ignoring them. Silence, and indifference is the best kind of revenge.
Like they dont exist especially if you was a valuable source of NS no attention admiration ect means no one to feed there crippled ego this is what they ultimatley rely …on to establish there feelings of omnipotence superiority ect. Best way to get rid of them is to IGNORE them once they have got what they wanted from you they will leave uncerimonously without warning and your left to pick up the pieaces of a broken heart it is a harrowing experience but they will be back just at the time you are getting your life back on track just to use and abuse you all over again! they just want the best of you stay away for your own good...
Narcissist people are controlling freaks and want to rule other people. They may simply ignore someone to get back at them for not receiving their ritual narcissist supply. I …can't stand narcissists and do not like being around them. They are coning and manipulative people who only view people as objects to be used and then tossed out. Unfortunately, everyone has encountered a narcissist at work and in their family. Narcissists in the family are very difficult to stay away from because as the "old saying" goes, "Blood is thicker than water" That is nonsense because relation or no relation, why should anyone allow someone to disrespect and mistreat them; for the mere fact, that they are their mother, father, brother, sister, etc?. In case no one knew, the hardest knocks come from your own family. Well, at least for me it did. Now, I have moved on and have very limited contact with them. I had a narcissist mother and father and other relatives to deal with for eighteen years of my life. And that was enough for me. I have two children and live in another state far away from them and that is great. Narcissists are not genuine and fake emotions to get what they want. Some may even attempt suicide to spin people back into their web of deceit. And, we, who are normal people often fall for their scams and end up right back into their delusional environment. Not that I advocate suicide, but as for narcissistic people, they surely won't be missed. Anyway, narcissistic people care too much about themselves to commit suicide. If anything, they will drive normal people to do it. I hate narcissists and do not want them around at all, even if they are family because they are the worst to deal with. At least, if they are co-workers or aquaintances, you are not forced to socialize and mingle with them, and could care less if they died tomorrow. Whereas, with family, one feels obligated to put up with nonsense because they are family. Narcissists can go to $%## for all I care! Yes, you heard me; they can go to $%##. They are very problematic and stir up continuous controversy. Have you noticed narcissist tend to be religious and will use religion to get over on people. Look at Jim Jones, who was responsible for hundreds or more peoples' death in the name of religion. Some of the so-called televangelists may Jim Jones their congregation. They have a maniacial way of convincing people to believe and do whatever they tell them to do. Isn't that scary that these narcissists have so much control and power and can bend the rules to benefit them?
I think that most people don't like being ignored - it is not a nice feeling. Narcissists, especially, receive a narc injury if you ignore them. They start to fill up with rag…e and then will ignore back. Also, within a few minutes they can switch and try and get your attention somehow (this is supply for them) and carry on like nothing has happened. THEY ARE WEIRD CREATURES!
If you think about a narcissist they only care for their own needs. They will not be thinking about you at all, but their next supply. And this is their focus they know …you are a problem/figured them out. They don't have feeling for you. They are unable to be intimate They will always make themselves look good. but the truth is when their done, their done! Get educated! You have learned much more about finding a solid relationship. They will never have one. Life is short. Keep moving. I have three kids all 12 and under saw the behavior before I did. SCARY! My daughter's advice -- don't even think about it mom!
yes through working too much or getting obsessed with things
They will find someway to even the score, and or, find another source of narcissistic supply.
To them people are just OBJECTS... easier to ignore. The majorweakness in the Narcissist is the emotional intelligence. They havenone. When we see someone angry, in order to m…ake sense of it wehave to use emotional intelligence. We have to empathize.Narcissists cant do it. The rage would seem like a meaninglessbabble. There is nothing there for them to understand.
No, they think about themselves more. When you are dealing with the personality disordered, you are not dealing with someone who thinks or feels the way you or I (providing yo…u are not a narcissist) feel about things. They can put on a great act of caring, but the brutal truth is they do not care about how their actions affect others. The only interest they have is how they are affected. If you put your feet on a coffee table, do you care how the coffee table feels? This is their view of the world...others are playthings here for their enjoyment and pleasure, and once you are no longer useful, you become expendable. They may come back, professing how much they miss or care about you, but they don't care about YOU, they care about what you can supply for THEM. As long as you feed the vampire, it will drain as much as it can get before moving on. They do not miss you, they miss supply. Anytime you are dealing with these people, always keep it in the back of your mind and ask yourself "What is s/he going to get from this?" because that is all that matters to them. If you left them, then it is likely if they think about you at all, it is in the terms that you are to blame, you have hurt them and taken away their supply.
Because they are completely consumed with their own needs and how to fulfill those needs. Because they are completely consumed with their own needs and how to fulfill those n…eeds. Because they are completely consumed with their own needs and how to fulfill those needs. Because they are completely consumed with their own needs and how to fulfill those needs.
Because they don't care about you. As much as you think they loved you or were into you they really couldn't care less. They don't have the ability to care. They honestly don'…t know how because there is a disconnect and no empathy exists. There's a hole where their heart should be. Picture yourself as a fresh clean paper towel and the narcissist has just cleaned his muddy hands all over you and threw you in the trash. You were just an object. You have served your purpose and are no longer needed. Most likely you are being ignored because they have found a new supply source and all of their time and energy is going to that new person. They are in "love" with the new supply. You have been forgotten (at least for now). Consider yourself lucky to have been dumped.
Yes, he will miss your undivided attention, your love. He will not miss you as person.