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Is it possible to achieve freedom after emotional dependence on a narcissistic father?
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∙ 12y ago
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My experienceI'm 32 and it has taken as many years to recognise that my Father suffers from Narcissistic tendencies. I am currently trying to break free from the situation and wanted to see if anyone has had similar experiences. My Mum left my Father 3 years after I was born. She was 27 and shortly after remarried a man who has made a wonderful stepfather. For the first 13 years of my life my Mother had care and control, much to my Fathers dismay. As a child I suffered from dyslexia, bed wetting, tantrums, nightmares, day dreaming, laziness, shy and lack of concentration and self esteem yet I stood out apparently as a very gentle, well mannered child. My experiences as a child were rather wild. On my mothers side life was normal. Her husband worked 9-5. She had two daughters, small house, no money and I went to the local school. On my Fathers side there were fast cars, trips on the QE2, concerts, He took his holidays when I did, I was given the best toys, colourful lifestyle but then panic attacks, high blood pressure, emotional tantrums amongst other things started to appear. My Father felt that my Mother was out to get him, would take me away, felt he was a bad influence etc. I was sent to a boarding school and my Dad would always visit whenever he got the chance driving sometimes up to 5 hours to get there. He sat and let me cry as I was homesick and did everything in his power to make my life easier. I started to witness his profound anxiety and panic attacks. He would say such extrordinary things, flare up, cause emotional pain, shout, but I knew that he was worried that I wouldn't pass my exams and felt that I should work harder. I became scared of him as an early teen. I started having alternate lives (mother, father and school) yet at school I also had two lives (one in school and the other bunking off). I passed 4 GCSES amazingly and was then enrolled to do 3 A levels, wait for it, Politics, Philosophy and English. As I was heavily dyslexic and quite creative my Mother was furious and has claimed recently that the teachers advised against these subjects, yet had the opinion that any more animosity between parents would completely finish my off. She retired to the sideline and has had little to do with my life for the next 10 years. I failed my A's in the 1st year but I was kept at school by my father so I could take some more GCSE's and become a prefect. I basicly flaked out and until this day blame myself. I would always hate phoning him as I would endure 10 minutes of flared up feedback My father then sent me to another school where at 20 I managed to pass 1 A level. He threw himself into studying every possible option, school, University etc. After passing one A level I had had enough and travelled to Nepal and taught English. I smoked more pot and spent an entire year stoned out of my head. I returned to University and spent most of that stoned as well.
I then woke up and started wanting to change my life, become a teacher. I failed my PGSE and moved back to live with my Dad again it was all organised and financed by my Dad. I had never really achieved anything but found a job working in a music shop. My Father would flare up every now and again and I put it down to my lack of acheivement and direction. I moved to London and became the top Negotiator for a property company and within 6 months was at the top of the league table and won best new employee of 2002. I was happy and confident for the first time and felt I was really going somewhere. I would visit my Dad but sometimes things would flare up. It was like visiting Jackyl and Hyde.
About six months ago I realised that although I was independent and successful the strange flare ups would still occure. Things got worse as I would be blamed for the slightest fault. My Father would come out with ridiculous stuff and then suddenly act as if nothing had happend. I then had a very upsetting weekend and when visiting him I felt very undermined. I made a comment after dinner and my father replied "That is very perceptive of you". I said "you have said that before" to which I was then asked a barrage of questions such as. Do you not think that I have come to that conclusion myself? why are you telling me things I already know? what's the point of having a conversation if you tell me things I know already? etc
I walked out and went to bed only to overhear as they were in the room above a barrage Avery disturbing accusations and his emotional blow out. I cried until 5 in the morning and have since not been right, infact I think I have had a break down. I'm finding it hard to function but I have had no contact with him since and intend not to. For every augument his is that he loves me. My stepmother says he has done everything he could possibly do to help me throughout my life. Whenever I have had a problem he would flare up, destroy my self esteem and then come to the rescue. My Mother out of worry called a meeting with my stepmother in which my stepmother denied my story and wrote her awn agenda. I got and extrordinary email of my Father pooring his heart out but all I want is to have him around as a friend. My friends don't tend to have outbursts so I'm wondering whether the problem is his or mine. My psychologist has analyzed my Father as and Arrogant narcissist which brings my to my Question above. After complete emotional dependence has anyone acheived peace and freedom within themselves? as I have not got to that point yet. Is there any advice that anyone has. I still live in London. If you have read this far it would be great to hear your views. Regards L
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