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Healthy narcissism is self-love. What is the difference between self-love and narcissism and how does it affect the capacity to love others? There are two differences: (a) in …the ability to tell reality from fantasy, and (b) in the ability to empathise and, indeed, to fully and maturely love others. The narcissist possesses no self-love. It is because he has very little True Self to love. Instead, a monstrous, malignant construct ? the False Self ? encroaches upon his True Self and devours it. The narcissist loves an image which he projects unto others and which is affirmed by them. The projected image is reflected back at the narcissist and, thus, he is reassured both of its existence and of the boundaries of his Ego. This continuous process blurs all distinctions between reality and fantasy. A False Self leads to false assumptions and to a contorted personal narrative, to a false worldview, and to a grandiose, inflated sense of being. The latter is rarely grounded in real achievements or merit. The narcissist's feeling of entitlement is all-pervasive, demanding and aggressive. It easily deteriorates into open verbal, psychological and physical abuse of others. Maintaining a distinction between what we really are and what we dream of becoming, knowing our limits, our advantages and faults and having a sense of true, realistic achievements in our life are of paramount importance in the establishment and maintenance of our self-esteem, sense of self-worth and self-confidence. Reliant as he is on outside judgment ? the narcissist feels miserably inferior and dependent. He rebels against this degrading state of things by partly escaping into a world of make-belief, daydreaming, pretensions and delusions of grandeur. The narcissist knows little about himself ? and finds what he knows to be unacceptable. The second difference is even more important. Our experience of what it is like to be human ? our very humanness ? depends largely on our self-knowledge and on our experience of our selves. In other words: only through being himself and through experiencing his self ? can a human being fully appreciate the humanness of others. The narcissist has precious little experience of his self. Instead, he lives in an invented world, of his own design, where he is a fictitious figure in a grandiose script. He, therefore, possesses no tools which enable him to cope with other human beings, share their emotions, put himself in their place (=empathise) and, of course, love them ? the most demanding task of inter-relating. He just does not know what it means to be human. He is a predator, rapaciously preying on others for the satisfaction of his narcissistic cravings and appetites for admiration, adoration, applause, affirmation and attention. Humans are Narcissistic Supply Sources and are (over- or de-) valued according to their evaluated contribution to this end. Self-love is a precondition for the experience and expression of mature love. One cannot truly love someone else if one does not first love one's True Self. If we never loved ourselves ? we never experienced unconditional love and, therefore, do not know how to love. If we keep living in a world of fantasy ? how could we notice the very real people around us who ask for our love and who deserve it? The narcissist wants to love. In the rare moments of self-awareness that he has he feels ego-dystonic (unhappy with his situation and with his relationships with others). This is his predicament: he is sentenced to eternal isolation precisely because he needs people too much. Healthy N-ism is characterized by: creativity sense of humour empathy acceptance of finite limitations I'm gonna take a shot: healthy narcissism is a narcissism that you can turn on sometimes... for your own security and sanity. Unhealthy narcissism suffocates your love, does not let you express your feelings, and makes you hurt people very badly.
There are two varieties of shame: 1. The Narcissistic Shame ("shamelessness") which is the experience of the Grandiosity Gap (and its affective correlate). Subjectively it is …experienced as a pervasive feeling of worthlessness (the regulation of self-worth is the crux of pathological narcissism), "invisibleness" and ridiculousness. The patient feels pathetic and foolish, deserving of mockery and humiliation. In the Narcissist, shame is so intolerable that the means have been developed not to experience it at all. What psychologists call "bypassed shame" looks like shamelessness or the absence of a conscience, hiding behind a protective barrier of denial, coldness, blame, or rage. Since there are no healthy internal mechanisms available to process this painful feeling, the shame is directed outward, away from the Self. It can never be "my fault." Shame is among the most unbearable of human feelings, regardless of our age or station in life. Unlike guilt, it speaks not to the misdeed but to the misery of a pervasive personal flaw. We first experience shame in the eyes of our mother or primary attachment figure, when, starting around the age of one, we bring her (usually) our excitement and, instead of sharing our pleasure, she scowls and says, "No!" Her unexpected disapproval shatters the illusion of power and importance that is how we see ourselves at that early age, derived from our union with her. Without warning, we have been ejected from this paradise, and it can only be because we are bad. We feel bad, therefore we are bad. For some children, this experience, repeated over and over in the course of socialization, is so crushing that they never quite get over it, and they spend their lives avoiding anything that makes them feel ashamed. Recent research in neurobiology has shown that the developing brain is not yet ready to process the intense experience of shame at the age when socialization begins and that the lack of an emotionally attuned parent at this crucial time can actually stunt -- for life -- the growth of the pathways for regulating such profoundly unpleasant emotions. What helps the infant's brain develop properly is for parents to provide what the young brain is not yet able to, the soothing of the very shame they have inflicted. More typically, the shamelessness of the Narcissist comes across as cool indifference or even amorality. We sense that these people are emotionally shallow, and we may think of them as thick-skinned, sure of themselves, and aloof. Then, all of a sudden, they may surprise us by reacting to some minor incident or social slight. When shaming sneaks past the barriers, these "shameless" ones are unmasked for what they really are -- supremely shame-sensitive. That is when you will see a flash of hurt, usually followed by rage and blame. When the stink of shame has penetrated their walls, they fumigate with a vengeance. Shame is the feeling that lurks beneath all unhealthy narcissism, and the inability to process shame in healthy ways -- to face it, neutralize it, and move on as healthier individuals do -- leads to the characteristic postures, attitudes, and behavior of the Narcissist. Narcissists adopt all kinds of defenses to counter narcissistic shame. They appear "hypomanic", developing addictive or impulsive behaviours. They deny, withdraw, rage, engage in the compulsive pursuit of some kind of (unattainable, of course) perfection. They display haughtiness and exhibitionism and so on. All these defenses are employed primitively (or are primitive, like splitting) and involve projective identification. 2. The second type of shame is Self-Related Shame. It is a result of the gap between grandiosity (or Ego Ideal) and self or Ego. This is a well-known concept of shame and it has been treated widely in the works of Freud , Reich , Jacobson , Kohut , Kingston , Spero  and Morrison . A clear distinction has to be drawn between GUILT (or control) � related shame and conformity-related shame. Guilt is an "objectively" determinable philosophical entity (given relevant knowledge regarding societal and cultural make up). It is context-dependent. It is the derivative of an underlying assumption by OTHERS that a Moral Agent does control certain aspects of the world. This assumed control by the agent imputes guilt to it, if it acts in a manner incommensurate with prevailing mores, or refrains from acting in a manner commensurate with them. So, shame here is a result of the ACTUAL occurrence of AVOIDABLE outcomes which imputes guilt to a Moral Agent. We must distinguish GUILT from GUILT FEELINGS, though. Guilt feelings (and the attaching shame) can be ANTICIPATORY. A Moral Agent assumes, similarly, that it has control over certain aspects of the world. But then, it is able to predict the outcomes of INTENTIONS and feels guilt and shame as a result. Guilt Feelings are composed of a component of Fear and a component of Anxiety. Fear is related to the external, objective, observable consequences of actions or inaction by the Moral Agent. Anxiety has to do with INNER consequences. It is ego-dystonic and threatens the identity of the Moral Agent because being Moral is an important part of it. The internalisation of guilt feelings leads to a shame reaction. So, shame has to do with guilty feelings, not with GUILT, per se. These guilty feelings are a composite of reactions and anticipated reactions of others to external outcomes such as waste, disappointment of others, failure (the FEAR component) plus the reactions and anticipated reactions of the Moral Agent itself to internal outcomes (helplessness or loss of presumed control, narcissistic injuries � the ANXIETY component). There is also conformity-related shame. It has to do with the feeling of "otherness". It similarly involves a component of fear (of the reactions of others to one's otherness) and of anxiety (of the reactions of one to one's own otherness). Guilt-related shame is more connected to self-related shame (perhaps through a psychic construct akin to the Superego). On the other hand, conformity-related shame is more typical of narcissistic shame. The N friend I have been working on purging from my life has always used her shame as an attention-getting device. She "exhibits" her piggish manners and her many diseases as points of pride. But then she reiterates for the jillionth time that her parents rejected her for the "pretty baby sister"; that her grandmother beat her for puking on the tablecloth; and that even her first husband berated her for being heavier than he was. She blows hot and cold on shame--first she is the absolute best at something, better than anyone: "I made the absolute best soup the other night"; then she has the worst of something the world has ever seen: if you have a cold, she has a worse one. She even seems to brag about how bad her untreated diabetes is getting, as if she has no control over it.
\n. \n Answer \n. \nSexual sadism has almost become a cult in it's own right and has been going on for centuries. All different personalities fit into the catagory. It…'s a preference by an individual even though over half of us may not understand why anyone would want to go through these actions. There are actually clubs that S & Mers can belong to and it's very private. Like "adrenaline junkies" (taking high risks in sports-related activities) people who seek out sadistic sex of any type (thank heavens most are harmless and they keep it amongst themselves) are not satified with "tame sex" and find no pleasure in it. Believe it or not there are more people than you can ever imagine who enjoy having pain inflected on them before the sexual act (sometimes that's all they want) during the sexual act and feel quite satisfied at the end of it all. If a narcissistic person happens to join one of these clubs or has a private life including S & M acts then that's all it is ... a choice of life.\n. \nMarcy\n. \n. \n Answer \n. \nI don't know what studies show, but I believe narcissism can manifest itself this way. It did in my relationship. S & M is a choice of life if both parties agree to participate. When a non-narcissist is involved with a narcissist, the non is under duress and may agree to do things they don't enjoy or want to do to satiate the narcissist. But I think the real kick the narcissist gets out of it is twisting your brain so that you think you are okay with receiving pain, when really you are not.\n. \n IMPORTANCE OF CONSENT \n. \nThere's a huge difference between bdsm ***with consent*** and sadism without consent. The latter is deliberate cruelty and often involves assault. At bdsm clubs and in bdsm itself there may be a lot of acting, with people calling themselves 'masters' and 'slaves', 'tormentors' and 'victims' and so on, but there should NEVER a victim in any real sense. All concerned should be enjoying this particular little kink. \n. \nTo put it simply, most of the currently fashionable bdsm isn't really sadism; there is no victim, and it's a form of sexual play. The slogan is: 'Safe, sane, consensual'. The preferred terms are 'domination' and 'submission'. In fact, very few whose sexual play involves this kind of thing describe themselves as 'sadists'. Most object to the term.\n. \nBdsm activities require informed consent, freely given; there must always be a genuine possibility of refusing to participate (either altogether or in a particular activity) and there should never be pressure to consent or any emotional blackmail or anything along those lines.\n. \nCruelty and assault without consent involves real victims and is a completely different matter from playful, consensual bdsm. Real Sadism is abuse and should be treated accordingly. \n. \nIn the case of real sadism, the abuser derives sexual gratification from ill-treating treating his/her victim as a live sextoy. The real sadist doesn't care for a moment whether or not the victim is enjoying it and, worse still, usually gets an unholy kick from subjecting the victim to real suffering. He/she often gloats over the suffering victim. It's the sort of behaviour one associates with narcissism and ASPD (sociopathy). What's more, it is dangerous and there are victims, too.\n. \n. \nJoncey
Answer Yes, it is common to experience narcissism if you have bi-polar, but talk to a medical health professional about it, and you worries.
BIPOLAR IS A MOOD DISORDER It makes a person moody. Bipolar is caused by imbalanced brain chemistry. It is very treatable. There are three levels of bipolar. Som…e people have it much worse than others. NARCISSISM IS A PERSONALITY DISORDER Narcissism makes someone emotionally abusive and self-centered. Narcissism is not treatable. Narcissists blame and manipulate constantly, and lie all the time. Mental health professionals advise LEAVING narcissists, because they will never be able to change their abusive ways - it's hard wired into their brain to not care. They are selfish, fly into rages if you question them, and must get their way.
Answer Yes! Narcissism is the result of inadequate, chaotic or inconsistent "mirroring" in early life. "Mirroring" means: the many times every day when a stable consisten…t adult caregiver notices how a baby feels, cares for the baby, helps the baby and gives words for the baby's experience. When mirroring is absent, inconsistent or chaotic, the child does not learn how to know itself. The child's life becomes a constant effort to meet its own needs without regard to anything else. It is not their fault, yet their behavior is baffling, inconsistent and often painful or harmful to others. Adoption is ONE condition of many that can cause a disruption in the early mirroring process. There are other causes of this, but adoption is certainly one. An unending stream of nannies, emotional or physical parental absence (due to depression, drugs, deployment, etc) are others. Narcissists lack the capacity for self-reflection and empathy. It is a heart-wrenching condition and often more difficult for the family members that the narcissist.
There are many, but for the link between Narcissism and sexual fantasy and porn addiction please visit the link below. Kim Cooper author of "Back from …the Looking Glass" Living with the Personality Disorder that causes emotional and physical abuse"
Answer My thoughts on your question: I was married to a classic narcissist for 15 years. I didn't have the "narcissist" label to apply until after he left me and …I did the research, but I knew I was married to someone with psychological issues. To me the question is why was I waiting for him (through easily the last 9 years of our marriage) to get better? He was in therapy. He had gone to a program for the Children of Alcoholics. He appeared to want to find his way. And I was patiently waiting for him to find some inner peace . . . andstill be loving to me. In hindsight, I believe that every narcissist needs the codependent person who is willing to be their biggest fan (or biggest enemy). And the codependent increasingly becomes obsessed with proving they are one of those. As the biggest fan, I constantly put his needs before mine. As his biggest fan, I felt it was my mission to provide him with the "safety" and "normalcy" that he purported to crave. I put my career on the back burner and put his schedule and the demands of his career way ahead of my own. And I somehow thought he would love me more for all of these choices. Is the codependent person a love addict? I know I was pretty love-starved when I first got involved with my husband. He came on strong when I was 31 and still single, and nobody had ever courted me so aggressively. He asked me to marry him at 3 months of dating, and we married 8 months later. ( Not surprisingly I was his second wife and he and wife #1 (also a 15 year marriage) seemed to obsessively hate each other.) Through therapy I was able to see the issues, but not fully resolve them. I can see some personal codependency in my new relationship (though he's not a narcissist). . . so it's probably back for more therapy. The good news is that I can see it. Now for the hard work of addressing it. By the way, my ex got immediately involved with another woman, his former secretary who is 16 years his junior, and seems to worship him . . .
Apparently there is but be very careful because it is often stated that even the experts have trouble telling the difference between these two definitions and even betwe…en narcissism and narcissistic tendencies and the prognosis is different for each. My husband had NPD and everyone said that he couldn't get better but he did. After that there were those who said OH he really just had tendencies! I think that it is dangerous to try and diagnose someone as incurable when it is not so clear cut. My husband and I have the best marriage ever now. If you want to read more about our story or read an advice blog to my readers please visit the links below. Kim Cooper author of "Back from the Looking Glass" Living with the personality Disorder that Causes Abuse.
Both words define the same behavior. Faithful love for another (or others) is fidelity. Self-love, or disloyalty, is infidelity. See also Islamic "infidel". The infidel is des…cribed as motivated by love of self versus the community.
Healthy narcissism is when you love yourself for who you really are. Pathological narcissim is when you are in love with an image of yourself you cannot obtain. Everyone …has traits from both, especially in western society where focus is on the individual.
I myself have been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome and within the last year through my experiments in dating and reading much philosophy and psychology I have came upon som…e conclusions. One with Aspergers their brain has an altered Amygdala. The purpose of the Amygdala is the processing and memory of emotional reactions, but also being a part of the limbic system. Sigmund Freud a known neurologist and founding father of psychoanalysis wrote of narcissism. He stated that when ordinary people are born that as an infant they have needs yet no way of fulfilling them innately which causes something called a narcissistic scar in particular the first such instance. This changes or forms the child's initial concept of reality and builds momentum for something called the death drive. The death drive being the desire to be like how easy it was when one was a child before you had problems and so forth, a destructive desire to embrace death and weakness. Now those with Aspergers for the most part are not religious perhaps because they have no death drive. There is a persistent feeling throughout my childhood a strange deja vu that would leave me wondering if before I had known the things that I know now which I think contributes to being the paranoia most associate with Aspergers perhaps it comes about because there is no initial Narcicistic scar? Often those with Aspergers complain about neurotypicals showing signs of Confirmation Bias and Group Think which are both forms of normally accepted Narcissism. The main problems with Aspergers is the inability to use willfull ignorance a form of conscious apathy. When faced with empathizing with someone using such it insights a defensive reaction outbursts of rage which I assume is to reject the other's narcissistic scar.
Hmmm... 'Megalomania' is a word derived from Greek. 'Narcissism' is a word derived from the name of a Greek god. Other than that, probably not much... Megalomania is a th…irst for fame, glory, spectacle, conquest, etc., and it requires supporting players and an audience. Narcissism is simply falling in love with oneself. Someone could be a narcissist while deprived of human company, but a megalomaniac would be out of business.
Narcism is characterized by egotism, vanity, selfishness, etc. Sociopathy is characterized by lack of empathy or guilt. Both have no sense of remorse or "direction" in life. T…hey may be caused by traumatic events during childhood.
Narcissism, or the act of being in love with one's self comes from the myth of Echo and Narcissus. Echo, one of the Oreads, was punished by Hera by having her own voice remove…d, making it only possible for Echo to foolishly mimic the words and voices of others. She fell in love with the vain Narcissus, who loved only himself. When she revealed herself, he was aghast and denied her love, causing her to pine away until only her voice remained. As punishment, Nemesis drew Narcissus to a pool where he caught sight of his own reflection. He became so utterly entranced, that he refused to move away, dying instead on the spot. In pity, the gods changed him into a lily (that we call the daffodil) that is forever looking at its reflection in the water below.
everything peeps do is connected to Narcissism...no exceptions.
A person who has a personality disorder will have troublecommunicating or expressing their feelings with other people. A narcissist on the other hand is a person who thinks t…hat they arebetter than everyone else. Like a sort of enhanced arrogance.