Should a husband threaten to leave you because you bring up his recently confessed multiple affairs that happened years ago when he purposely triggers you in front of people to make you look unstable?

Answer 1

No he should never threaten to leave you. He may say he never left you, but when he had sexual relations with other females (dogs) than he left you each time and that threat is just plain insentitive.

If he really loved you he would help you recover from the damage he did to you, the marriage and the family.

What's his real agenda for being with you?

AnswerIt is very common that even if your partner cheated once it's tough to ever trust them again, but when they cheat more than that then it's very difficult. Inwardly you have never resolved this problem of him cheating in the past and even after all these years you can't forgive him. You simply don't trust him anymore and I can't say as I blame you. If he has been trying very hard to keep your marriage together, hasn't cheated, yet you are always bringing it up and tormenting him with it then I am afraid that you have lost the relationship between you.

If you are not constantly bringing up his past affairs then your husband is a mental abuser. If he triggers you, YOU are allowing it to happen and all he is doing is pushing the right buttons on you, and it's YOU that is going to have to learn to smile and walk away. There is nothing more insulting or irritating to the party attacking you then just smiling (like you have a secret, but you're not sharing it) and walk away. That way you quit the "button pushing" on his part and turned the tables on him. If you do this your friends will see just what a jerk he really is. I don't think most friends of either of you would appreciate being caught in the middle of this mess.

You have two choices. Either he has proven to you he isn't cheating, but you still don't trust him, then you need to seek out professional help to save the marriage or #2 leave! This can't go on or the marriage will turn ugly and end anyway. Life should be about honesty, love, making each other happy and not constant harrassment with each other. It's a waste of life.

Good luckMarcy

AnswerWell, this is a hard one to answer, I think you embarrased him in front of those people and that's why he said that. Your question was should a husband theraten to divorce you, because you piped up and brought up his bad past. Well I'm not sure theres an answer for that question, because it's an individual decission, regarding what he said to you. You have to put yourself in his position and ask yourself what you would of done if you were in that same position. The way I understand things is that he has admited these things to you of his past and he probably ask you for your forgivness, so I think a better question would be, (should you have brought that up in front of people) this is your marraige and your business. So I think it's a two sided coin and you should both just forget about it and try to move on. But DON'T bring up your personal life in front of your friends or anyone for that matter.