What are some ways to prevent partner abuse?

Answer 1

I'm sorry but I find the answer below extremely offensive and whom ever wrote it obviously has a strong veiw on this matter but no personal insight to it, abuse victims don't need to be told they are sick! That is what their partner tells them every time they get abused and can actually used by their parteners as excuse to abuse them. Abuse victims should not be judged, that's the last thing they need and also their is a reason they are refered to as VICTIMS (someone swindled, tricked, taken advantage o or who is harmed by another), unless you've walked a day in their shoes... but I have included it anyway for a different perspective. But yes actaully there are way you can prevent partner abuse. I having experianced an abusive relationship myself, and trust me if it were that easy to leave I would have the first time I got hit, kick or spat at. There are no preventions as such unless your abusive partener gets theapary but there are "signs" that allow you identify what might turn into an abusive relationship such as: - The abuser will generally try to degrade the victim; name calling, embarrasing in frount of other people such as family and friends, infadelity etc. - The abuser will generally also try and control the victim; what they wear, who they speak to, where they work etc. they may also say things like "no-one will ever love you..." to gain emotional control over you, it's not just a simple matter of the abuser thinking "I'm gonna hit you coz I feel like it or coz I'm so angry". - The abuser generally is insecure; paraniod that your going to leave, paranoid that people have are against them, extremely defensive, always wondering what other people think etc. - The abusers generally have control over their own lives; they will be very manipulative of everyone in their lives, they are generally very charasmatic and liked by all but if you get close enough you may learn that its all a game. These are only a few of the generalised "signs" and these are things that will happen before the physical abuse. As I said, it's kind of like a game to them, they will yo-yo your emotions until they control them, from how you feel to how you see your self to how you see others, before they ever lay a hand on you. Abuse is about power and showing you "who's boss" so abusive relationship will often be mentally abusive until they know they have the power to control your emotions and thought pattern, and by the time this has happened it is hard to tell yourself that things are not the way your abuser has made you think they are and this enables them to abuse anyway they see fit. Another Answer : Answer I'm not really sure on how you can prevent partner abuse, except to say that anyone who stays with an abusive person is sick themselves. No amount of love can surpass the hardships of living with someone who is abusive, and if you are smart, you will get out of this relationship as fast as humany possible as there will be nothing but tears in your life as long as you continue living with an abusive person.