I prefer you to contact the child abuse center or police or a trusted adult or even your neighbors or friends. You can use this language call the police secretly when you are gone out to buy something as most people send abused children to buy stuff don't buy something and use that coin in a telephone and go home and say that they were out of the product.
Sign that they will abuse u soon :
1] They will yell at you
2] call your name in a bad way like a mistake, brat and etc
3] Ignore you
4] Pretend that they treat you nicely in front of others
5] Always be busy with your siblings or step-siblings and not take care of you
If you want more help in this case then feel free to comment on this question and ask me. be safe
Get far, far away from that person. Leave the state if you have to. There are places that an abused woman can go to get help. Don't wait thinking he will change. It can only get worse. Check your area (or the info below) for a battered women's shelter near you.
Ten Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship1-866-331-9474
1-866-331-8453 (TTY for deaf/hearing impaired)
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To expect too much, to denigrate, to ignore -- are all modes of abuse. There is physical abuse, verbal abuse, psychological abuse, sexual abuse. The list is long. Most abusers abuse surreptitiously. They are "stealth abusers". You have to actually live with one in order to witness the abuse.
There are three important categories of abuse:
The open and explicit abuse of another person. Threatening, coercing, beating, lying, berating, demeaning, chastising, insulting, humiliating, exploiting, ignoring ("silent treatment"), devaluing, unceremoniously discarding, verbal abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse are all forms of overt abuse.
Abuse is almost entirely about control. It is often a primitive and immature reaction to life circumstances in which the abuser (usually in his childhood) was rendered helpless. It is about re-exerting one's identity, re-establishing predictability, mastering the environment -- human and physical.
The bulk of abusive behaviours can be traced to this panicky reaction to the remote potential for loss of control. Many abusers are hypochondriacs (and difficult patients) because they are afraid to lose control over their body, its looks and its proper functioning. They are obsessive-compulsive in an effort to subdue their physical habitat and render it foreseeable. They stalk people and harass them as a means of "being in touch" -- another form of control.
To the abuser, nothing exists outside himself. Meaningful others are extensions, internal, assimilated, objects -- not external ones. Thus, losing control over a significant other -- is equivalent to losing control of a limb, or of one's brain. It is terrifying.
Independent or disobedient people evoke in the abuser the realization that something is wrong with his worldview, that he is not the centre of the world or its cause and that he cannot control what, to him, are internal representations.
To the abuser, losing control means going insane. Because other people are mere elements in the abuser's mind -- being unable to manipulate them literally means losing it (his mind). Imagine, if you suddenly were to find out that you cannot manipulate your memories or control your thoughts ... Nightmarish!
In his frantic efforts to maintain control or re-assert it, the abuser resorts to a myriad of fiendishly inventive stratagems and mechanisms. Here is a partial list:
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Then, as the relationship continues, the abuse begins to manifest as jealousy in an extreme sense and misplaced anger is constantly targeted at you. He has a stressful day and you are blamed. Some miscommunication occurs and you are always the one who is At Fault in his eyes. Any sense is lost from your conversations. The conversations begin to revolve around the other person�s ego and not offending it becomes a primary concern for your survival.
As the relationship continues the abusive partner�s emotions become the all-important focus of the relationship. Trying to avoid his or her wrath becomes your primary concern. Just as he couldn�t respect your boundaries at the beginning, he still doesn�t understand the boundaries between you�his emotions become your worst nightmare. He no longer protects you from his mood swings. He yells and screams at you and calls it love. However, you know that you don�t feel love and you lose your sense of safety. He says that he yells and screams because he feels so passionately about you. He denies wrongdoing and blames the abuse on you. You know in your gut that your sense of well being is being compromised and that you are not being treated with love and respect.
Then come a slew of indignities. If your sense of well being felt compromised earlier, you will feel more indignity and disgrace by the end of the relationship than you ever thought you would allow yourself to feel. Public humiliation: yelling at you at a caf�, embarrassing you in front of your friends, alienation from your friends, constant tyranny. If the relationship continues physical abuse will surely follow. the horrible cycle only ends when you say stop to the humiliation, the self-disgrace, the indignity and all the other insults.
The sooner you realize what is happening and the sooner you can act decisively, the easier the process of leaving will be. Fly away if you have to: just get yourself to safety. If you live near him, MOVE FAR AWAY. The hardest part is leaving, but it is also the most crucial part for both of you. You have to stop believing that you can help him and start believing that you can help yourself. I did. You didn't cause it, you can't cure it, you can't change it--heard this before? To stop enabling his behavior is the best thing that you could do for him as well. If you feel bitterness, resentment or a sense of vindictiveness, don't let him see it: acting out on these emotions in a secretive or covertly combative way will only perpetuate the cycle. Remember that your primary concern should always be your own self-respect, not getting even. Redirect this energy to do positive things in your life. Do artwork or start running. Take charge of yourself with all of the energy that you have discovered. Go to therapy because you don�t want to be in the position of the abused or abuser in the future�both are an indignity. Be with yourself and like yourself again. Love yourself the way your partner couldn�t: be kind to yourself. You will be fine by yourself; however, you certainly wouldn�t be fine if you stayed with him.
- They will always find a reason to criticize you - no matter what. If you offer them a reasonable explanation for the source of their criticism they will tell you that you are only making excuses for you incompetency, laziness, unorganization. Remember that no matter what you do - YOU CANNOT PLEASE THEM. It is better that you ignore their criticisms as best as you can and continue to do things the way you think they should be done. I know from experience that this is very much easier said than done. One thing that has helped me to stop continually seeking acceptance from my abusers is to remember that each time you seek their approval - you are knocking on a closed and locked door.
- An abuser wants control over your life. They want to control all the finances. They want to make sure that you have as little independance as possible and that you have to ask their permission to use and spend any money. Every purchase must be justified and fit their perception of what is "necessary". They will justify this by calling you a "spendthrift", "irresponsible" or outright telling you that since you did not EARN the money - you have no right to decide how it is dispersed. There are days when you feel that the beggar on the street has it better than you. Find a way to earn your own money. If you are a stay at home mom look for a way to work at home to earn some money of your own. Do it as disceratly as possible because as soon as the abuser finds out that you are actively seeking financial independance - he will do whatever it takes to sabotage it. The same occurs when you try to continue your education. Take classes when you know he is not at home and find somewhere to hide your materials.
They want to control your relationships. Abusers always resent any time that you spend away from them. If you are close to your family they will make nasty comments about any amount of time you spend with them. Abusers tend to get angry if they see you talking on the phone to relatives or friends. They will tell you that you do nothing but waste your time, that there are other things you should be doing - but what they are really afraid of is that you might tell someone WHAT IS REALLY GOING ON IN YOUR HOME. The more that they can cut you off from outside relationships - the safer they are from detection. Abusers tend to be very charming in front of and towards family and friends. How many times after a spouse has been brutally murdered do relatives, friends, and neighbors say, "We never thought this would happen - he was such a NICE guy!" At the first signs of abuse - TELL YOUR FAMILY - TELL YOUR FRIENDS. IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT YOU ARE BEING ABUSED. Even if you have let it be a secret for a long time - start telling people that you trust. With each person you tell - you will feel more and more liberated.
They want to control how you spend your time. This happens most with stay at home moms. An abuser feels that he is doing you a favor by "allowing" you to raise the children yourself and will tell you that frequently. He also feels that because you are at home - every domestic responsibility is completely yours and is a way of paying him back for this glorious opportunity. An abuser is angry if he witnesses any kind of relaxation - if you are watching TV, if you are reading a book or magazine, if you engage in any kind of hobby. He will tell you that you should have better things to do and will look for things to criticize in order to prove his point. An abuser will not offer to help in any domestic duties and if he does - he is again "doing you a favor" or "making up for you apparent incompetency". The expectations of the abuser are unattainable and leave you feeling "worthless" and "incompetent". You will then give up the things that you love to do for the sake of peace but you also lose a part of yourself. NO ONE SHOULD HAVE TO GIVE UP A NORMAL PLEASURABLE ACTIVITY BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE DOES NOT VALUE IT. The abuser views outside interests as a threat on his control. Remember - the goal of the abuser is to strip you from any INDIVIDUALITY. The result is stripping someone else of their HUMANITY.
- An abuser degrades you by calling you names: "incompetent", "worthless", "stupid" are just a few. There are other words I have personally heard that I dare not repeat because they are so vile.
An abuser will tell you that you do nothing right. An abuser will tell you that you are insane and need professional help - my answer to that - "Who wouldn't be living with someone like YOU?" when anything happens - such as a car repair for example - an abuser will tell you that you are to stupid to even drive a car right. My dog was recently poisoned by a malicious individual and less than a half an hour after I buried her - I was told that I was too dumb to even take care of the dog - that I must have done something to kill her. To an abuser - the accusations they make about you DO NOT HAVE TO MAKE SENCE - THEY ARE SAID ONLY TO HURT YOU WHEN YOU ARE MOST VOLNERABLE. The sad part is that they will always believe that their accusations are true even when presented with evidence that they are not.
- All the above pertain to emotional and verbal abuse - now for the physical. NO ONE - EVER HAS THE RIGHT TO HIT, PUSH, SHOVE, KICK, OR PUNCH ANYONE.
- MOST IMPORTANTLY- AN ABUSER IS THE WORLDS BIGGEST LIAR! They are so used to lying about almost everything that they believe their own lies. an abuser will NEVER admit the truth completely - they will NEVER take full responsibility. And when they really feel threatened that they are going to lose control over your life - they will lie and manipulate and even threaten you too keep it. NEVER BELIEVE AN ABUSER'S APOLOGIES AND PROMISES TO CHANGE. Remember that they are only sorry until the next time that they will be sorry - AND THERE IS ALWAYS A NEXT TIME.
The best analogy I have come up with to define the cycle of abuse is this: YOU ARE ON A MERRY-GO-ROUND. SOMETIMES YOU MAY CHANGE HORSES BUT IT IS THE SAME OLD MERRY-GO-ROUND. SOMEONE NEEDS TO GET OFF THE MERRY-GO-ROUND COMPLETELY.
You need to tell your family about your situation. You need to leave this man. Just pack a bag, walk out and leave. Perhaps you can move in with your family. Or if you do not have that option you can go to a women's shelter where they will help you get back on your feet. I know this is terrifying but this is the first step in helping yourself. You are the only one that can help yourself. Other people can comfort you and lend support but you have to be the brave one to make the big step. You do not deserve a life of misery. You deserve happiness. You will get out of this - take one day at a time - have faith in yourself.
It is so sad that you have lost your friends and have been stripped of your identity by this man.
I have been in an emotionally abusive relationship for just under six months. Fortunately, the man in question has not moved in with me, so it has been easy to make the break.
I have continuously hoped that M would become the man that I first met. Kind and loving, but this is not the case. He would tell me that he doesn't love me, but would still want to see me. He would seem to take pleasure in telling me that he has no feelings for me or care. When I was on the verge of leaving him, he would pull me back and tell me that he did have feelings. He would often fly into a rage over something so minor as me wanting to go home, if he had fallen asleep.
When introducing him to my friends, I found myself completely tense. If he was not flirting directly with my friends he was telling them how much he did not love or care for me. When I would react to this, I was the one left feeling that I had created the situation, that it was all my fault. I remember going to a church, crying my eyes out, begging the lord to make M forgive me for something I had not done.
My recent communication was deeply upsetting. I was told that he did not want to see or speak to me. No explanation given, only that I am pressurizing him.( I had not contacted him for the 3 weeks he was out of the country. When I appeared upset, asking for an explanation, I was told to stop acting like a child, simply because I was expressing some form of sorrow and emotion. He decided to hang up on me at this point.Only to ring me a few seconds letter, telling me not to contact him, that he feels that he is losing control and that he would contact me some time!
In a way, he has done me a favour. I realise now that I need to find my life again. I have fallen out with a number of my friends, convinced that they had encourage his flirtatious behaviour, lost my motivation to continue developing my business, because I would spend the best part of the day discussing with friends and analysing the relationship, to work out where I was going wrong; seeking ways of resolving his anger and moodiness, trying to find ways of resolving his unhappiness. And hopefully start to regain my self-esteem after he would often make reference to other women in a sexual way.
Silly things also spring to mind. If he wanted to see me and I could not, I would suffer. As he would avoid me for a few weeks, failing to meet me if we arranged an alternative date. He was also starting to criticise me, became sarcastic if I did not fully follow something he was telling me.
Even when first met there was a sense of being stalked. He had to leave the country the following morning after we met. During his holiday he continually pestered me with text messages, asking me if I was missing him, whether I would collect him from the airport. On his return, he had difficulty contacting me via phone, and one evening left an angry message on my mobile asking me why I was not answering. Alarm bells started to ring at this point, but I chose to ignore them preferring to see that he was tall, dark and handsome who seemed to want to shower me with attention.
My advice to you is making the move will give you the chance to regain your position in life. That first step will be hardest, but the most vital.
I completely understand your position. I totally adored my boyfriend, but during the last phone call from him, something snapped inside of me. He was his usual abusive self. I was feeling vulnerable and he knew that, so he chose to hurt me by telling me that he had no feelings for me, that I keep contacting him and placing undue pressure on him.
This was not the case, we simply had an arrangement to meet and he had failed to contact me about not meeting. All this was part of the abuse, not calling to tell me his change of plans while probably psyching himself for the torrent of anger and abuse. He of course blames me, telling me that I turn him into an animal, interesting theory but fortunately, I feel strong enough to take a step back and realise that he has the problem, not I.
Leaving him is the best thing for him and me. Deep down I really feel that abusers do feel some sense of shame and embarrassment. I know that my ex does. It is almost something inherent in them that they cannot control, an illness that won't be healed for as long as the abuse is going on and you are prepared to take it. So in a way, I am doing him a favour by leaving him as I hope he can reflect on his destrutive behaviour, take ownership, and seek help.
If you really feel love for this man, and in a funny sort of way you probably will realise that it isn't love, once you establish distance, be the first one to make the move. Take control over the situation, the relationship is destructive and ugly for both of you.
Try and make contact with the friends you have lost, and be honest with them. Tell them why you have not been able to see or speak to them.
Try and overcome this fear, because it is just that, fear, that is stopping you from moving forward. Your partner is probably just as afraid as you, but don't be sucked into that. Don't feel that you have to protect him from any pain and unhappiness.
I truly believe that abusive men and women are emotionally unhinged. They are the one's who suffer the most. You can one day walk away from this and reclaim your life again with the aid of friends, therapy and most important of all self-respect. The abuser's life is never an attractive option, because for all their faults, they too have a conscience, and have to live in the knowledge that they have inflicted so much pain and misery on someone they apparently love.
So many people have suggested that the abuser convinces themselves we are the cause of their abusive behaviour however, if you were to give them some distance and space to at least see that this is not always the case, this could in some way help them to change themselves for the better.
As the man above who bravely left his wife, who frankly sounded like she need the mental health assessment, you too could do the same. Recognise that you are frightened, but its just the fear, that freakish annoying emotion that is trapping you and so many of us in our lives. But some of us allow it to win and others defeat it, you can be one of those who looks fear straight in the eye and tell it to get lost!
Start the process of recovery. Maybe get in contact with your friends and family first to gain their support and a temporary refuge until you find a home for yourself.
I promise you that once you do this, you won't remember your partner for the person he used to be in early flushes of your relationship, but the controlling monster that he has become. And for some reason you will probably view him with complete contempt, when you event
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Young, but yes I have been in a abusive relationship.
If your being abused, get out. Cause you may love him/her,
but if they loved you, they wouldn't hit you.
Get out of it.
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he clearly doesn't love you as much as you love him. just tell him to get lost and if he tries to hurt you because you're getting out of the relationship, then tell someone. the cops, or a friend, or just someone who can help. make up an excuse but get yourself out because you deserve better and there is someone better for you out there.
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You should call the RSPCA, and give them details from how the dog was abused, injuries, and where the dog is kept.
No animal should be abused
Not unless it hasn't been serviced or its been abused.
People who have been sexually abused have reported being sexually abused.
42,000 animals have been abused because of the pope
Where ever seems like a nice place, the horses should not have been abused, unless you are rehabilitating a horse.
When you find a dog that has been abused you should bring it to a shelter so it can nurse it back to life and also put it up for adoption so another hopefully nicer family will adopt it.
The answer is Duty to report
Not unless it has been abused or improperly used.
Of course, as long as the father has not been deemed unfit by the court. The process should already be underway if the baby has been abused by the mother. The father should already be in contact with Child Protective Services in order to protect his child and document the abuse. He needs to file a petition for full custody.Of course, as long as the father has not been deemed unfit by the court. The process should already be underway if the baby has been abused by the mother. The father should already be in contact with Child Protective Services in order to protect his child and document the abuse. He needs to file a petition for full custody.Of course, as long as the father has not been deemed unfit by the court. The process should already be underway if the baby has been abused by the mother. The father should already be in contact with Child Protective Services in order to protect his child and document the abuse. He needs to file a petition for full custody.Of course, as long as the father has not been deemed unfit by the court. The process should already be underway if the baby has been abused by the mother. The father should already be in contact with Child Protective Services in order to protect his child and document the abuse. He needs to file a petition for full custody.
Probably.
Yes, it is possible for an animal to go crazy if abused.