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When they see you can see trough their mask and question their behavior and don't say Amen to all they do....If you speak your mind and want to exchange ideas and thoughts and know what you want which maybe is not the same they want all the time...Being in a relationshio is giving and taking, 2 different individuals that respect each others taste,ideals etc....They cannot do it only at the Enticing phase,then they get tired of acting and the Real One shows up...and they get ashamed,angry and start withdrawing afection,sex and consntantly testing you.....is hell on Earth...They are the master of confusion...Then they blame you for everything they do and you are dismissed....
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If the N feels you have "injured" him in any manner, he will check out on you, it could be something as small as saying to him "you have no sense of humour" he will take this as a COMPLETE insult, a criticism, no matter if you were jokingly saying it or not. If you call him on his behavior/lies, he sees this as an injury as well and will consider you the "enemy" he will not interact with you if he now consider you to be the enemy.
Treat his perceived injury with a gang of apologies, compliments and whatever supply you can offer, lure him back and DUMP him, these type people are unreasonable, uncaring, irrational, out of touch with reality, they have ZERO emotions, get away, it's not easy but can be done or stay with him and "dance with the devil".
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There is another way how N's end the relationship and leave you, namely when YOU are about the end the relationship with your N. When the narcissist feels or knows that you want to end the relationship he/she will take over and arrange his own leaving.
Many victims of narcissist partners arrive to a point in which they suddenly realize the sickness of their relationship or mariage. The narcissist is demasked. After the first shock the victim starts working on his own salvation. Of course this takes time however the narcissist feels that the source is slowly running dry. Narcissism is all about control so when he looses this control or when you even make a decision leaving him or her, they cannnot accept this abandonment. The fear of loosing the control over you as well as loosing their narcissictic supply source is unbearable for him. In the minds of narcissists it is unacceptable to even consider the possibility that YOU leave HIM/HER, instead of the other way around. They own you don't they, so how can it be?
The N will gain time which he needs for arranging his way out. He needs to find another source, to prepare for divorce, to talk bad about you behind your back in order to create the idea you're the one to blame etc. During that time the N will try one time more to not loose you but completely according narcissistic patterns he will do this by witholding attention and sex instead of giving you this elementairy aspects of a relationship. He thinks he can still play the same game but now you're aware and you don't mind too much anymore.
Then, when he/she has arranged everything he will leave you.
You need to direct this process which is not difficult once you have demasked your narcissist.
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Why do narcissist's have patterns of leaving a relationship and then come back but then finally in the end to end it for good?
Narcissist can be sadistic, it feeds their ego and gives them a sense of power to devalue and discard.
How can I end my relationship with my narcissist gangster boyfriend?
See a Domestic Violence Crisis Center near you. Make a plan to get out.
Relationship with narcissist?
Definitely not worth it.
How can you have a relationship with a narcissist without feeling abused?
. You couldn't (improve on last answer, or have a relationship with a Narcissist without feeling abused).You cannot have a relationship with an abuser without feeling abused.
What is the average length of a relationship for a narcissist?
Welll that depends how long this person lives. AS they are always in a relationship with themself
Who is the best match for a relationship for a narcissist?
someone also obsessed with that person.
Can relationship make you a narcissist?
not so much a narcissist but for sure you will notice in hindsight that you were beginning to act like those morons do.......a co-dependent
What kind of relationship can a narcissist stay in?
A relationship where he rules supreme and the other half feels depressed, devalued, and confused.
Does the narcissist study manipulation techniques or does it come naturally?
I think that narcissist manipulation comes naturally for them. They have done this for all their lives and it is easy for them. They are professionals at lying, manipulation and cheating as far as I am concerned and it will never end. You can find a lying, manipulative and cheating relationship almost anywhere if that is what you want.
Why do you grieve so much now that your narcissist father has died?
You grieve for the relationship you SHOULD have had.
How do you help a narcissist?
The question is help them how? Refer them to counseling, but they don't want to be fixed, though you may want to fix them to be a 'normal' person so you can keep a relationship with them. If you are a lay person and in a relationship with a narcissist, you cannot help them. Just by the nature of your relationship and the pathology of a narcissist, things will get ugly, it will be at your expense and there will be no change in the narcissist. A good therapist will be the one to help a narcissist, but it takes a great deal of work on the part of the narcissist, a commitment to healing, only they don't see themselves as 'broken' or anything wrong with them, so an honest introspective communication with a therapist is rare. It's so hard to understand. Leaving them is best for you though and isn't that sad that that is also the way to help a narcissist, because they are sucking your goodness from you and using it to buoy themselves. So sad.
How does no contact work with a narcissist?
No contact is the best way to part ways with a narcissist. You must remain consistent and end contact completely and forever.
