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When the victim shows signs of becoming the personality of the abuser is that a bad thing?
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∙ 8y ago
Yes, it is a bad thing. But I know how you feel, because I too was starting to act my abusive ex boyfriend. I started disliking myself and family and friends were telling me how they didn't like the person I was becoming. I was especially started emulating his behaviors toward him.
Yes it is bad. I try not to take on the behavior that my husband has, but sometimes I catch myself doing the silent treatment, detachment, and just plain not caring. When I catch myself doing this, i remind myself not to stoop to his level. Take the high road..always
as one of many poster girls for this, i wish you well and hope that you get away before there's further damage. i tried to stay with mine (for various complicated reasons) and work through things, believing in his "good" side. i had no idea then what these people are capable of. what ended up happening is that he almost destroyed me, and i got to the point where (there were other stressors) it's taken me years to recover, and I'm still not comfortable or back on track yet.
they will take everything, everything, and not acknowledge what they've done, apologize, or make reparation. i mean they will take everything spiritually, emotionally, financially, physically, and not notice, or care, or help; they'll even find your pain funny.
my advice is to run while you still can.
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What role does fear play in abusive relationships?
The abuser of the victim will first alienate the victim from their family and friends and can even move to another town in some cases. An abuser is sly as a fox and at first often can win over not only the victim with kindness and generosity, but also win over family and friends. However, there are many cases where family and friends can often see right through the abuser even before he segregates his victim. Once the two are alone the changes can come quickly such as verbal abuse (the abuser is inwardly unhappy about their own failures in life and will transfer this onto the victim) and then the physical abuse often comes next. Sometimes the abuser will never apologize to his victim, but many do and continue to promise that they will never do it again, but they do. The abuser is aware they have total control over their victim and if the victim shows any sign of independence or that they are going to leave the relationship this is when the real fear starts because the abuser will instill the fear of either killing their victim; their family or, if there are children the abuser may threaten to harm the children or have the victim believe she will never get her children as she is an unfit mother. The victim is basically brainwashed; lost all confidence in themselves; has been alienated from her family and friends and has nowhere to turn. The fear is real and the threats from the abuser are often real as well.
Why do so many Abuse websites and talk shows that deal with abuse suggest that the victim get counseling when it is plain that this will just be another thing for the abuser to use against her?
If the victim hasn't left on her own, it's obvious that just telling her to leave won't make much sense. Most responsible advice tells the abuser and victim to go to counseling so that the problem can be accurately diagnosed and both parties will be able to slowly acknowledge the eventual outcome. Using that method results in far fewer problems in the long run. It may appear to be a clear problem to some people with an obvious answer, but other people need a little time to live with the problem and learn to deal with it and yes, even to have a chance to change their behavior. Because, while the abuser is in definite need of counseling, so is the victim of abuse. There are personality traits, learned behaviors and traumatic instances that an abuse victim may be able to alter given the right therapy. Juts the fact that your're worried that therapy is something that can be used against the victim rather than a tool to free her indicates a need for counseling.
What are the effects of domestic violence in relationship to economic inequality?
it shows that the abuser tries to be the more dominant in the relationship.
Are bodyguards available to accompany the victim after talk shows where the topic is abuse so that she can ensure that the abuser won't give her hell for what was said on the show?
Talk shows aren't the best place to discuss your abuser. Some talk shows will provide you with a bodyguard while at the show and perhaps escorted back to where you are staying, but after that, it's no longer their responsibility. If you want a bodyguard service you will have to look them up on the website in your area, or, look them up in the yellow pages of your phone book. If you really want some help with the abusive situation you are in then contact your local "Abused Women's Center" and they will help lead you in the right direction. They will put you into a "safe house" (aka: Transition House.) Good luck Marcy
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Personality is good in a relationship. It shows the person that you like you are not afraid to be yourself in front of him/her. Your personality traits also describe to the other person who you are and what you are like.
What are tips on how to face abuser from childhood?
Show that you have become stronger. Mentality is everything. Dont show that you fear him and confront him calmly. If he shows agression, kick his ass. >:)
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How an abusive parent affect a child?
Data shows that a child who is abused will in turn become an abuser later in life. The life of an abused child is affected his/her entire life.
Why is personality so important?
It can tell one person from another. For example, twins they look alike but they're personality shows that they are two different people
