Why are self-help materials so often useless in solving relationship problems and are there any that will provide this type of help?

Answer 1

Conventional self-help materials; books, videos and seminars, usually convey only general information. There are two problem areas with this type of instruction that prevent it being an effective aid in your quest to build or to find a happy relationship.

The first of these problems concerns the fact that you are a unique person, as is your partner. When the two of you met and formed your relationship it was truly one of a kind. It is the result of the bonding of two unique individuals and therefore there has never been a relationship exactly like yours in the whole world before. Therefore, general information alone will often be of little value when one tries to understand, improve or save their relationship.

The second problem area is related to the first, as the two of them combine to prevent conventional self-help materials from actually providing much help. This second area involves the nature of information itself. Information is the accumulation of the previous knowledge and experience of other people. These past individuals did not experience your unique relationship first hand, so regardless of how wise they were, the can do little more than intellectualize about your relationship and provide you with general ideas that are not specifically targeted to your relationship needs.

This is why conventional self-help materials so often fail to actually provide help to those who wish to find or build a happy relationship.

As for the second part of the question the answer is; yes, there are materials available that will help you to find or build happiness. These materials differ from conventional self-help offerings in that they provide you with a "way" to quickly formulate your own unique answers that are specifically tailored to your relationship or dating needs.

This "way" is actually very simple and does not require you to study, memorize or to learn anything! After all, if learning and retaining information were the key to happiness then all those with advanced degrees would be happy (and we all know that this is not so). In contrast, effective self-help materials impart an "exercise" that empowers you in ways that having knowledge alone will not do. It is this empowerment that prompts you to from your own relationship solutions that are always right for you, because they are your own. If you are interested in finding this type of self-help materials you should follow the related link below.