What would you like to do?
What should you do if people have been telling you that your boyfriend is cheating but you love him very much and your heart says he is not cheating or lying to you?
you could either be happy with your decision or you could make OTHERS happy. you just have to choose . ... not between friends and boyfriend but in what you should believe.pra…y for it. :) Trust is a big issue in a relationship..You cant be in a relationship without it.. If you trust your boyfriend with all your heart and you don't think he is cheating or lying then there isn't really anything to do.. However, if your mind is making you wonder whether the accusations are true, ask the people pointing the finger at him. Find out if what they are saying is possilbe and do a little detective work:) If he's saying he's going to shoot pool for example, ask where at... Call the poolhall and ask them if they can put him on the phone... Have a good excuse for calling in case he's actually there and gets on the phone.. Or suprise him and show up to hang out.. If he's not there, that could be one clue...Also ask yourself if these people accusing him could just want to break you two up.. Are they people YOU trust and care about you? Why would people say it if it was'NT true. If people can even think this about your boyfriend then he's obviously not thr right time of man to have a relationship with, Your heart says what you want to hear, But its your heart that will get broken if you stay with him. Save yourself a lot of trouble and heart ache and get rid of him now! As hard as it may be it will be harder if you carry on, wait till you get pregnant or married then he leaves you, or leaves you for another women! who would you believe....your own boyfriend..or a practically a stranger...tough question eh?? ask him about it and tell him what people have been saying if he was at least he'll know that people have been telling you and if he's not he'll not cheat He's cheating. Your heart knows it or this wouldn't even be an issue. You're afraid to confront him. I say - burn his ass good. Break up with him without even telling HIM that you're breaking up, just stop calling. But, be sure to tell all your big mouth "friends". It will get back to him through those big mouths that you two have broken up, and he'll be the last to know. Boom. Instant karma. It's quite lovely... Obviously though, we are two different animals you and me. If I were your kind of gentle little animal, I suppose I would just be sure to always have condom protected sex with him, since you don't know for sure whether or not he's dipping his stick in other women. Sweety, its the source you have to worry about. If someone you know tells you that your bf is cheating... they are probaly not lying to you...think about it this way...who really has enough time on their hands to plot on ruining your relationship?Just make sure you keep and eye on him and don't ask him until you are a little bit more sure....However the chances are that if it barks like a dog...well you know the rest Good tip for a fast answerMany of the posters are correct and the last post gave you really good advice "consider the source!" If you want a fast answer to this question the person that comes up to you and says that your boyfriend is cheating say, "Let's settle this right now! Come with me and we're to have a one-on-one with my boyfriend!" You can bet the source of this information will back-off! If they really care about you and the fact your boyfriend is cheating they would have no problem facing him on a one-to-one. Sometimes we have to take risks on a person and sometimes they work out and sometimes they don't. Good luck hon I have gone through something similar as this and I can tell you that (Good Tip for a fast answer) is right on the money.There are people in the world that get jealous or want want you have or for other unknown reasons.If they actually care about you and are being truthful then they will have no problem confronting your boyfriend and saying"I seen you with her". If they refuse to confront him with you there to witness it, well then you got your answer. In my case they were lying. I think they just got a kick out of causing as much mischief as they could. They offered more excuses as to why they couldn't confront him and just disappeared from our life.So in the long run I got my answer. How well do you know these people telling you this? I can say we did learn a lesson from our situation.We do not trust people as easily anymore.Keep one eye and ear open and you will find out the truth. Good luck
Just straight up tell him... If you had enough guts to cheat on him in the first place then that should be simple. You should just let him go; cheating is disgusting and he de…serves better. No offence :) If you really loved him you wouldn't cheat on him.
well shes probably looking for something in a guy that her boyfriend doesn't have. so she gets what she want from one guy. and whatever he doesn't have she gets from the other…
It is entirely possible that he does.
You can't have been in love if you could be so cruel as to cheat on him. Seriously, just let him go. No one deserves to be cheated on, I know how it feels and you can never lo…ok at the person the same. Start a new relationship with someone else, and this time remember how wrong and disgusting cheating is. Sorry.
Well clearly you don't love him enough to keep your hands off of someone else. Don't kid yourself it's not ok, if you can't even control yourself then you may as well end the …relationship and stop disrespecting your boyfriend if you care for him.
[moved from discussion area] If your boyfriend cheats that is not love, its means he doesn't respect you as his girlfriend. If he did he wouldn't ever think of looking at ot…her girls.
He doesn't love anyone but his self. And he is using BOTH of you for his pleasure. Get out now.
... Cool ? He LOVES you... with all of his heart... Okay, I don't get this question. GOD BLESS x
Try and work through why you are cheating on him if you love him. There has to be something you are not getting from him that is causing you to cheat. Once you figure ou…t what you are missing in your relationship, address it with your boyfriend. Try and be honest, but be careful you don't hurt his feelings. He probably realizes that you are cheating, I've found most guys at least have a feeling their partner is cheating depending on the amount of time it has been going on. If you both love each other, there should be something you both can do to ensure the relationship is fulfilling for both sides.
I doubt there is a single answer to this. It could be control. It is an amazing way to control the emotions of a man, or perhaps two men. It could be the endorphine …response resultant from a sexual act, but honestly I suspect that is less significant. It could be from doubts about the intentions and fidelity of the new guy. It could be just the devious and nasty way she was brought up. Maybe she needs to grow up and move beyond using sex as a weapon. It could be really primal hormones telling her "propagate your genes". It could be a desire to be victimized by two different uncaring and uncommitted men as a form of self-loathing or self-punishment. Each person has to be in charge of their own behavior and self-control and emotional response.
id say i love him too with all my heart and forever more
Only if they're an unfaithful slut. It's wring to cheat on the person you love, and if you don't love them, you shouldn't be with them.
rip it out and take a look,
There is no easy remedy for this kind of problem, but carry on with your life, and as the saying goes, time heals all wounds, and time wounds all heels. Eventually you will ha…ve another boyfriend, hopefully better than the last one. In the meantime, there is still icecream.
Well even if you do love him he is cheating on you. But make sure, look into evidence suttley and finally start asking his freinds quietly. When you are sure confront him quie…lty and try not to make him angry. When he finally owns up, (don't cry when your with him) tell him your feelings for him and tell him you love him, ask her name. If you do love him, then let him be happy and leave him. Finally, don't get angry, be angry when he has left and whatever,
You likely can't do anything to make your boyfriend change. You can't 'make' a person do something... you don't have control of another person. your BF has to have developed h…is own character and moral code that is upstanding and trustworthy. If he is cheating then he is immature (not yet developed into a full adult) or he lacking in character... When will he change and get his act together? Who knows, you don't control it.... It sounds like you may need to not think in terms of this person as that big of a deal in your life -- if he cheats, you don't really want him. There are lots and lots and lots of other guys out there... there likely are better ones -- ones that WOULDN'T cheat on you. You have to start seeing yourself as worth more... as someone who deserves to be with a non-cheater BF! Focusing on yourself and what you can do to change yourself, your thinking, your expectations of others - this is the only place that you can control! Good luck.