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Why does he want to stay in this relationship when he is financially independent?
Why would an independent woman with a healthy amount of self-esteem stay in an abusive relationship with a man she does not love?
Answer The problem is she does not have a healthy dose of self-esteem. Most of us are chameleons out there and we have to be this way to fit into certain s…ituations. i.e. business meetings, complying to different personalities in our families or with our friends, educations, etc. We change our moods as frequently as a clean freak changes their socks. I suggest you go on: www.google.com Then ask: What is the cycle of abuse amongst women? The general public for the most part thinks that abuse only happens to the poor or uneducated and that's further from the truth than you will ever know. I just saw a program on Oprah yesterday where a beautiful, young, country singer came forward and told of her abuse. Here she is ... beautiful, young, a fantastic singer, loads of money and she lets her mate batter her to a pulp. Why? It often stems back to how we were brought up. Was the mother there when we needed her, did we need more than our mothers knew we needed? Questions, questions, and we have to find the answers through therapy. Some people are just gentle souls (nothing wrong with that) and give their all in everything they do and that includes romantic relationships and complete trust in this. We must learn to always have our guard up and not give 100% trust to anyone until we get to know them better. I am not suggesting we throw ourselves into paranoia ... just be more alert. An abuser can be considered an "artist" in a grotesque way. They really believe they love the person they are with, but, it's all about control. It's like having a favorite doll and you play with it for awhile, put it high on a shelf so no one else can get it and then you bring it down when you want it. An abuser believes THEY OWN THAT PERSON and they actually have regressed back many 100s of years where women were used like chattel. "You do as I say and you do it with a smile on your face!" The abuser will often pour love and gifts on the unsuspecting woman and if we are honest anyone of us could be wooed with that attention. When women are in love they often let their guard down and not one woman I know can say they haven't been hurt by someone they once loved. Abusers will give, give, give, (giving full rein to his victim) and then suddenly, once he finds he has her hook, line and sinker, he jerks, and reels her in. Then the abuse starts. It could be little things such as "I really don't like that dress you're wearing ... go change into something else." Some women think this a loving interest, but it's not! From there comes more mental abuse such as "You're mine, never forget that" or "you're useless, and you're not as smart as you think." The abuser hammers away at his victim (a type of brainwashing.) The poor woman usually doesn't see it coming and by the time she does it's too late and it's difficult getting out of an abusive relationship. The woman may get angry at the verbal abuse and try to fight back verbally and then the physical abuse can start. Slapping, kicking, throwing things at her and downing her in front of her friends. I work at an abuse center and I've seen some very ugly sights in hospitals of what a man can do to a woman. It makes you sick! From there the abuser will try to isolate his victim. Perhaps move to a town where they know no one or, move to a more desolate area. He slowly alienates her from family and friends. From there the abuser threatens: I'll ruin your career if you leave me I'll go after your family I'll go after your friend(s) (mostly women, few men) I'll take the children and you'll never see them again I'll kill you if you ever leave me I'll hurt the kids if you leave me See the "I'll" and never will you hear an abuser say "I'll kill myself!" They are about control and believe you me, they are good at it. Once caught up in an abusive relationship it's difficult to get out of because there are not many laws that prevent this man from stalking or terrorizing the woman. You can get as many restraint orders as you want, but, until he actually does something the police can't do anything. That's the law! The courts are so full that even if you could get him on breaking a restraining order it would take months and possibly a year or more and don't think the abuser doesn't know that. The best thing to do is for that abused woman to pack her bags secretly. Then, if he is watching her like a hawk, get a trusted friend to set up an appointment with "The Abused Women's Center" and when he's at work head for that Abused Women's Center and don't look back. These centers will protect an abused woman, give them free legal counsel, therapy, give them a safe place to live. They will also go to court with them. This story will blow your socks off: There was a young actress in the late 70s by the name of Theresa Saldana (look her up on the internet) and she was in an abusive relationship. Not one to put up with it, she left him running off to her sister's apartment and temporarily living with her sister and her husband. Think she's safe? Not on your life or hers! Her abuser stalked her down and one day, in broad daylight, as she was coming down the stairs from the apartment, he was at the bottom of the steps demanding she come back. Even with her sister and brother-in-law standing guard over her, her abuser raced up the steps after her and she managed to get by him and out on the street. He raced after her, caught up to her and stabbed her over 19 times!!!! To the disgust of all of us who heard about it on the news, a group of wonderful citizens formed a circle as they watched this young woman being bludgeoned to death. It wasn't until a male jogger came upon the scene and intervened did the savage attack on Ms. Saldana stop. The man was caught and she was rushed into emergency hanging onto life. Now we talk about miracles and wonder why bad things happen to us and here is a lesson for all of us: Ms. Saldana was fighting for her life, but made it. She lived in terror in that hospital and feared her attacker would come back (even though he was in jail.) This once beautiful woman had to look at scars all over her body and remember that terrible attack on her all over again. In time when she had to be released from hospital her family and friends had a difficult time getting her out of the safety of that hospital. Once she was at home she lived in so much fear she wanted to take her own life because she had no quality of life. It took many years and much strength by Ms. Saldana to get her life together and she started an abused women's center to help other women as well as being active in changing the laws to protect women. I hope I have convinced you by now that battered women are not stupid women, but terrified women and it can happen to any culture and to the poor and wealthy alike. It's one of the leading causes of injuries and death. Laws are slowly being changed to protect women and police departments are taking a more active interest in the skills of self defence for women. No police officer loves that almighty call of domestic abuse, and especially when they know they are facing a woman that has had the daylights knocked out of her. In years past if the woman refused to press charges against her abuser (and most did) now Canadian police officers can size up the situation and press charges against the abuser themselves. Slowly, but surely the laws are being changed to protect women. By the way, there are abused men out there as well, and even if it's out of curiosity it's well worth looking up on the internet. Marcy Answer I am the author of this question. For the record, the abuser that is described in this question suffers from low self-esteem. He has no skills or education, he can barely read and write. He is an ex-pimp, ex-drug addict, and has served time in prision for assault. He believes that a woman is a piece of property. He is very possessive, jealous, and insecure. He has a bad temper and is easily irriated. He has had thoughts of suicide. He has superficial relationships with his friends and presents himself as a victim in all of his past relationships with women. He is the classic case of an abusive, controlling man. I posed the question to get some general feedback on abusive men. In hindsight, I realize the reason why I allowed this man to live in my home and it is not because I suffer from low-self esteem, because I DO NOT. I am a very CONFIDENT WOMAN. I was new to studying and reading the bible and he used that to his advantage by manipulating me with the scriptures. I was focused on changing my life and serving God because "we are all sinners and fall short of the glory of God." When I first met him, of course, he was nice and sweet and professed how much he wanted to serve God. That is how I was lured to him. I did not know anything about his background, and I was naive into thinking that all people who go to church and read their bible are good people. I allowed him a temporary stay in my home because he was having finanical difficulties. He moved into my house and became verbally abusive and attempted to gain control over me. When I would ask him to leave, which was more than once, he would use bible scriptures to make me feel guilty. It worked for a while. This man also is living in this country illegally and he was pressuring me to get married to him to gain his legal status. By the way, that was his main objective. I NEVER LOVED HIM AND MARRIAGE WAS NOT AN OPTION. He no longer lives in my house, but he has been stalking me day and night. He continues to harrass me by leaving nasty messages on my voice mail, of course, telling me that I am the "devil" and that he is so "righteous and spirtual." Yeah right! The problem with him is that he still thinks and acts like a pimp, hiding behind religion. Now he is telling everybody in church that I put him out of my house and he did not have anywhere to go. I am not responsible for a 43-year old lazy man that is looking for a woman to take care of him. He failed to tell the whole-truth, instead he told half-truth, half-lies. As usual, he portrays himself as a "victim." I fear God and not a man pretending to be a Christian. This experience has made me an even stronger person. Now I have ZERO tolerance for any man that even remotely exhibits any signs of an abusive character. At the same token though, I am so angry that I allowed myself to be subjected to his digusting behaivor. I keep playing all of the incidents over and over in my head and it is driving me crazy! Can you recommend anyone that I can talk to or any websites that I can go to for therapy. I live in Miami, Florida. Answer You might wish to visit http://www.safe4all.org for a list of resources or Florida Coalition Against Abuse and Domestic Violence at http://www.fcadv.org Answer Thank you for going into more detail regarding your relationship with this man. Don't beat yourself up over it! You are a Christian (so am I) and you were just trying to be nice. Although I am a Christian I am extremely careful of men and women and although usually very nice to them I keep them at arms length until I know them a little better. A person with such problems as this man can't hide them forever and the truth comes out. I am so glad you are thinking of going to an Abused Women's Center. Thank you to the other poster for giving you that much needed information. No matter how strong and independent we think we are there are just times we let our guard down when we really want to help someone. Don't let this loser sour you against those that may need your help. Just take a little more time to get to know them and never let anyone move into your home. Good luck God Bless Marcy
Should you stay with your boyfriend knowing he doesn't want to be in a serious relationship and just hope that he'll come around?
Answer No. I went through that. It was nothing but heartache and not feeling good enough. If hes not sure, make the decision for him and end it. Answer … It is really up to you, but if he seemd sure then probably not, there is no point pushing him. Stay if having a casual relationship is OK with you, if you aren't looking for a serious relationship either then it should be no problem, its ok to have fun. But if you want more, then be honest with him. Maybe he'll come around if he feels he is losing you, maybe you'll get his true feelings. Good luck Answer Nope, you are wasting your time. Leaving him will make him think and if he realizes you are more important than his fear of committment, then he will come after you. Otherwise, spread your wings and fly away. Find a new man who will give you what you need. Answer Well it's up to you want yes eventually he'll come around to the idea but you have to decide if you want to continue hoping and wishing that may next week or next year or next month he's going to get serious about you and him. It's up to you no one can tell you what to do because I'm not there I don't know but if you feel like you could stick it out without having a serious relationship then go for it otherwise let it go. Answer Its totally up to you but in my opinion you should "take a break" if he misses you and decides to come around then you know he is worth it..otherwise you'll know to move on and find someone who is worth it.. Answer Drop him like a hot potato and let him sweat. He will come back like a dog with hsi tail between his legs and if not then he wasnt worth it. You be the boss more. Its spose to be mutual in relationships and he has too much power. You take some back!
What should you do when your girlfriend breaks up with you after 3 years of a relationship and tells you that she wants to be single and independent for awhile but that she still loves you?
Answer Don't listen. If you've been together in a loving relationship that long, and then she wants to leave you, she never had interest. Don't allow her to "tak…e some time off" without getting an exact reason why. If she's cheated before or if there is a HIGH chance she's unfaithful, then she only wants away to hook up with someone. Ask and find out. If she won't answer, ask her family. Find out if it's a personal problem of hers or if she's mad at you. Just don't blame yourself.
Here are some of the most common reasons. 1. Because they fear what will happen if or when they leave theabusive other. 2. Because they believe that in time that person will… change andthings will get better. 3. They think that something is wrong with themselves and that ifthey change things will get better that way. 4. They think that the person who abuses them just loves them alotand don't really mean to do any harm they just cant help it. The fact is if they truly love you they will get help forthemselves and make themselves better for you. Theres nothing wrongwith you its him or in some cases her. Something you could do ifyou want them to change is bring a friend over that you can staywith. The three of you sit down and talk, tell him/her what needsto change if he/she really wants to be with you then they willchange. Then leave and go stay with that friend. Him/her sayingthey have changed and coming to you and saying this 3 days fromwhen you left is false. They cant change that quick. Make them goto counciling and make sure you know they went. Talk to thecouncilor and see if he/she has made any progress. There no trueway to tell if they have changed or not until you give them asecond chance. Some people just arnt willing to take that risk.Because to be honest there is always the chance , that when you goback it gets worse because of what you did. There is also thechance that he/she has changed and it is going to be really good.Its a 70/30. . . . .good luck! Answer2: Why are so many women locked into such dangerousrelationships? Many people wonder: Why don't they seek help? Whydon't they leave? The answer, in most cases, is fear. Fear has beencalled the distinguishing feature of domestic violence. Abusive mentypically control their wives with violence and then silence themwith death threats. Even if the battered wife does find the courageto seek help, she may not always receive it. This is a tendency,even among people who abhor other forms of violence, to trivialize,ignore, or justify violence perpetrated by husbands. Also, outsidehis home the abusive husband may appear to be charming. Oftenfriends cannot believe that he beats his wife. Disbelieved and withnowhere to run, many abused wives feel that they have noalternative but to live in constant fear. Battered women who doleave sometimes becomes victims of stalking. Imagine their fear.Someone who has threatened you continues to turn up where you go.He phones you, follows you, watches you and waits for you. He mayeven kill your pet. It is a campaign of terror. (excerpt from 8/8/05 Awake "Why Do So Many Live in Fear onJehovah's Witnesses official website.)
Answer . Of course two people that are either married or living together need to have respect, honesty and good communication skills. Having independence in a relationship… means you are not fused at the hip and each partner can do their own thing as far as having some head space whether it be behind the computer, reading, hobbies, seeing friends or belonging to a club (sports club for guys and other types of clubs for women.) It means that they can both think for themselves and run the household and any financial problems each on their own. Some couples may reach out to further their education, work on a career or go away with a friend on a holiday. That's independence.. Beware! When two people are independent then it's up to both of them to sit down at least one hour a day or at least one day a week and go over what they have been doing, discussing some things, mulling over problems and helping each other to resolve any problems. They should be there for each other! They should ALWAYS make time for each other and have fun together. It's a balancing act, but well worth the hard work.. Most men don't like a woman hanging off them and relying on them 100%. Some women don't enjoy being 'cook and bottle washer' for the rest of their lives and wish to have more in their lives and this can be fulfilled by joining groups (perhaps art classes, college classes, night classes in something the partner is interested in.) Many women raising children feel they are left out of the loop and know they are smart and want to be a good mother but also need to use their brain matter to better themselves. Sometimes this can be done at home (raising your children and doing courses to further your education or working from home.) It is true if 'mama isn't happy, then no one is happy!'
My ex boyfriend is in a new relationship but he still wants to stay in contact with me and he says he doesn't want to loose me and THAT IAM VERY important to him?
If he has obviously moved on and you are trying to move on as well it is best to cut ties with him. He cannot be in a new relationship and expect his new girlfriend to b…e okay with this - its is best for everyone if you do not accept any of his contacting and do not contact him - its time for both of you to let go and move on. That is very cruel and my opinion is that he only wants to use you. If you were so important to him why did you break up? Shouldn't he have tried to fix what was wrong? A breakup is hard enought, does his current girlfriend know he wants to keep in contact with you? You should move on with a clean slate - not saying that if you see him you should not say hi or be polite, but don't allow him to use some emotional mind trick on you. Good luck! Take note of his actions, not his words. If he didn't want to lose you and feels you are a priority in his life, why is he in a new relationship? By breaking up with you, he CHOSE to lose you. People don't break up because they're scared of their feelings; they break up when they know they don't have the feelings for the other person that they need to stay in a relationship with them. My hunch is that he wants to enjoy the attention and benefits (possibly sexual) of your company without having to commit to a relationship with you. It's not what you're hoping to hear, but he's putting you on the back burner, and hoping to string you along emotionally, just in case his new relationship doesn't work out. He's being distrustful to both you and his new girlfriend Do you think his new girlfriend is aware of his contacts with you? As long as you still have feelings for him as a boyfriend and want to be back in a relationship with him you can't be just friends. If you want to see how he truly feels about you, tell him only to contact you again when he is free and willing to be with you (which is not the case now). Until then, he needs to stop contacting you so that you can move on. Let him know that if he wanted to be a true friend to you, he will stop confusing you by imposing himself on you; perhaps one day you can be friends when you have moved on from your feelings for him. If he lets you go he has your best interests in mind; if he continues to contact you, knowing it confuses you he is nowhere near to being a good friend.
Ethiopia was able to stay independent through the use of modern artillery and rifles. These weapons are being supplied by its two allies, Britain and Russia.
Trust, emotional support, friendship, good communication and conversation, and occasional passion.
Responsibility comes when you are independent. A dependent person may never feel responsible for his actions because he as been guided by others whereas an independent person …know what he do and whats the reason behind it? Therefore he plan out everything and its after effect in his mind before taking an action and that's indeed responsibility.
As the financial leverage increases, the breakeven point of the company increases. The company now has to sell more of its product (or service) in order to break even. As th…e financial leverage increases, the risk to banks and other lenders increases because of the higher probability of bankruptcy. As the financial leverage increases, the risk to stockholders increases because greater losses may be incurred if the company goes bankrupt. As the financial leverage increases, the risk to stockholders increases because the higher leverage will cause greater volatility in earnings and greater volatility in the stock price.
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Property is something that is owned or that you have legal ownership of whereas a financial claim is an agreement between two parties that specifies the terms of the obligatio…n or agreement. The relationship would likely be in terms of loans, property liens and credit. For example, purchasing a home or a car or even something as simple as a watch or article of clothing. Generally, a mortgage is required when purchasing a home. The mortgage company holds a financial claim on the home which entitles them to receive payments according to the terms and conditions agreed upon within the contract. You are the owner of the property, so long as you meet your financial obligation to the mortgage company or fulfill the terms of the contract agreement. The same relationship for the car and a lender that issues car loans. You get a loan and get possession of your vehicle. However, the lender has financial claims of the vehicle until you fulfill the terms of the contract. Then the car is yours free and clear of and financial claims held by the bank. Purchasing a watch or article of clothing is often purchased using a credit card. Regardless of the type, it permits you the ability to purchase items that in turn become your property. The credit card company that granted you the credit to purchase the items now has financial claims and you will be required to make payments that satisfy the terms and agreements that you and the credit card company agreed to. This is my idea of the relationship. But, I am not a business student or business professional. so take it for what its worth. Just consider it my opinion or the answer to the question that I would provide.
Accounting has close relationship with mathematics. The dual aspect concept, which is the basic concept of accounting, is expressed as a mathematical equation, known as …accounting equation. Accounting computations such as computation of depreciation, determination of loan instalment, ascertaining of cash price in case of hire purchase and instalment systems requires use of mathematical techniques. Accountants now use statistical models, computers and operation research techniques. All these require knowledge of mathematics.
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What does it mean when you ask someone if he loves you during a long-term relationship and he says that he's confused and that his heart has changed but he seems to want to stay in the relationship?
It means that he does not have any commitment and that he is not in touch with himself. He should spend some serious private time (if he can and will) and clarify his confused… mind. If you really love someone, you know it and above all, to love someone is a decision YOU make. Basically what he means, is that he have not yet decided that he wants to love you. You should seriously consider if you would like to continue the relationship. It could mean that he is not ready for the commitment. Or it could mean that at the time he could be questioning his uality. He could be considering if the opposite appeals to him more, and doesn't want to regret making a commitment yet while being undecided. It means that he is not really interested in a relationship,in you in that matter and are probably confused about the whole situation,and maybe he doesn´t care about you or loves you, because IF he did, he wouldn´t be like this! So drop him and move on.. you deserve a better man, who wnats to be with you, because you are worth it!
Your husband wants to stay married but also have a relationship with his mistress of 5 years that he will not give up?
Answer There are always two sides to every story. Maybe you don't do it for him in the bedroom or whatever, but for him to refuse to give up a mistress would make m…e want to call a lawyer about a divorce. Why should you take this kind of treatment from any man. It's time to move on and dump this guy.
The guy im currently dating says hes not attracted to me anymore but that he still cares and wants to stay in the relationship but that we have to fix his problem what do i do?
well if you love each other then i think you should help each other through the relationship Fix His Problem? What problem? Haven't you asked?