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I'm not going to "there, there" you because you know deep down you don't want them, not really. You want the man/woman they pretended to be. They are not that person, they never were and what you really want is the false image of a person that never existed. Don't be fooled by your mind. That person never was them, They lied and used you, manipulated and destroyed you and your confidence.
We all get lonely and miss people that we love, but we shouldn't confuse love for abuse or miss emotional and mental (or physical) abuse. If you do then something is fundementally wrong you should speak to a counsellor..
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∙ 12y ago
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∙ 12y agoI was recently involved with an N from Canada that i talked to for 7 years. Worst experience of my life. So, i feel qualified to answer this question since the dumping always prompted me to ask this question to myself.
Why would you want this poor human being back? that's a great question. My reasearching (dr sam vatkins site) along with my own experinces and self-insight says:
1. you may have some (actually alot) unresolved self-worth and self esteem issues. What is so appealing about staying with someone who cannot treat or value you as a person? you may feel like you 'need' him or her, but you are really only missing what you felt or thought they were, not what they really are. Remember that the N only projects an image to be loved.
2. you become infatuated with the lovable image they project. This is not to say that some N's don't have some good aspects, but if the bad outweighs the good, then you should probably ask yourself what's so appealing about that.
I can safely say that I don't want him back. He was like a leech on my heart and my life .. unfortunately it was my first bad relationship experince.
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∙ 13y agoYES , If you have been with a narcissist long enough, you will probably have broken up a dozen times. You will have to except the fact a narcissist left in the first place because, they have already replaced you. The only reason why the come back to you, is because you except them for what they are. They will never respect you, and will always cheat on you with the worst people. When you are broke, they will leave you for good. So don't even try to get them back
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Will a somatic narcissist ever come back after you dump them?
Not normally, but it usually depends on in which way you dump them
Why do narcissist's have patterns of leaving a relationship and then come back but then finally in the end to end it for good?
Narcissist can be sadistic, it feeds their ego and gives them a sense of power to devalue and discard.
What happens to a narcissist when you totally ignore them for good?
They will come back time and again it seems - just to see if you are still thinking about them!
What do you do when your narcissist ex does come around?
Ignore him
Can you get your kids back after losing them to a narcissist liar and believing a narcissist liar?
well yeah. but it matters. how did you lose them?
Why do narcissists come back?
Narcissists need to always be complimented; dramatize their lifestyle or indeavors;adored; admired, etc., and it's 'running out of supplies' for the narcissist when they want to come back to the partner they were with. This means the narcissist is not being supplied to boost his or her's ego and they know they can more than likely get the boost (like a drug addiction) from their former partner.
How does a narcissist try to come back into your life?
Yes probably. He may have a new supply and when that fails he will come back. It's a game they like to play. He will hurt you by devaluing you and leaving. Then he will come back and you will be so happy. He has won. You will then try to do everything to please him so that he won't leave you again. But he will. It's all about control.
Why does the narcissist keep coming back?
He came to look in your mirror.
If a narcissist ignores you what should you do?
You should ignore them back and be thankful you are not in their circle of victims. Get on with your life and don't fret over not getting attention from a narcissist.
Can ex make you a narcissist?
You can become narcissistic afterwards, but you will not turn into a true narcissist. Stay away from him and go back to your family and hang around them for a while.
Will your narcissist ex call back even after not calling you for eight months?
If they really loved you and miss you, yes.This makes no sense. A narcissist is not capable of loving or missing someone. They would only come back if they needed narcissistic supply.Everything can happen with them. i would say yes but only if their life at that moment is dull and empty then they would come back to drive you crazy again ....and there the cicle starts again they never change Some are so self inflated that they think how is possible that she would forget a Great guy like me i will teach her.....
Is it easier to manipulate a narcissist by fighting back or feeding there ego?
neither - LEAVE! www.vainencounters.com
