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Will a Narcissist appear to change behavior and reconcile just to get you more hooked in order to hurt you more deeply at a later time?
Georgette
They may not even be consciously trying to hurt you again. They just see you as someone they haven't been around for a while. You're sort of "new blood" again. They will only be upset about you refusing their advances if they had some great plans laid out to really use you for something. My MIL is an N, and she toyed with me on and off for about 7 years before I caught on. When my mother passed away, my N MIL wouldn't answer her phone for days. When she finally did, she was crying. But not for my loss....my mother's passing reminded her that her mother had passed 15 years ago, and she was SO sad about it. Then she told lies about me to in-laws literally while the funeral was happening. And then again at my wedding. But I am quite happy now. The rest of the family got together and compared notes, and she is very alone right now. I have successfully cut her out of my life, and I am SO happy. The point is not what the intentions of the N is-the point is the effect that the actions are going to have on you. Adopt the frame of mind that you don't really know how their sick minds work and you don't care. Run for the hills, and when you are away from them you will realize how much precious time they wasted! == == The Narcissistic character never dies. You bet this person is trying to hook you into believing they have changed. Narcissists rarely seek counseling so unless they have and are really trying then I'd keep running. I know it's sad when you have first been caught in their web of deceit and mind games and you have fond memories of them (I call it "friendly Persuasion") but, you did nothing wrong so stay focused and realize this person only cares for themselves at YOUR expense! Good luck hon. How true the above is. Everytime I go back, thinking "now he has changed, he really loves me,"....same old ways, same old days, same old stuff. He will not change because he has no idea his behavior is abnormal. So sad. He actually thinks other people behave like him. I feel myself so drawn to him because I am not a pessimist, I keep hoping he will see the light, I try to be kind to him. In return for my kindness I am physically and verbally abused. My counseling sessions have helped tremendously, to hear a professional tell me that change is very difficult for an adult like him, especially one who has been through emotional and physical abuse and is now psychologically scarred. If he ever realizes and finds out just how abnormal he is he would probably hang himself from the nearest tree or have a mental breakdown. What a bizarre period of my life. I am moving out of it slowly, I'm in the malignant hope stage still, but it is waning fast. I have so much to be thankful for, and so much more to experience in my life. I don't like the thought of abandoning him, my counselor is also trying to make me think more of my own welfare. I know I have to walk away, but loving this type of person makes it so hard to break away. I wish I could just yell at him and say what a pathological mess he is and please leave me alone....once and for all. I am grateful I am an independent woman, my own house, thoughts, etc. Our relationship is "petering out" fast, because he knows he is losing me. I have screamed back at him a thousand times and have sat through his immature pleas to get me to see things his way. I haven't budged an inch, and bear up through his sermons with a disinterested gaze-away attitude. I think he feels about 2 foot tall, which is another pathology raising it's ugly head, the inability to take criticism and the inability to feel empathy for another's plight or opinion. And the fact that his narcissistic supply (me) isn't telling him how great he is anymore. I'm actually telling him he is deranged...in a nice fashion. Hence, the constancy of him always wanting me around - fear of abandonment because he hasn't been able to find anyone that will put up with his personality and have good sex with him. Actually, I am no more than the only one he can get right now. And does that make me feel like crap. True love is seldom found...he's missing having it by a hundred miles. The more I stay, the more I begin to dislike him, and to see him for what he is. Pitiful. Yep, he'll reel you in, promise the moon, act the way you want him to and then push you away as soon as something better comes along. Then, if it doesn't work out, he'll call you back. Tell him what you must so that you don't get caught in his sick web again and again, slowly being eaten alive inside.
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How do you make a narcassist be kind?
It is unlikely that you can change a narcissist's behavior, as their traits are deeply ingrained. It is important to set boundaries and protect yourself from any harm caused by their behavior. Encouraging them to seek therapy or counseling may be a way to address their behavior.
What does disposition mean in court?
Converted disposition means that there is a change in the behavior of the person. They appear different from what they always appear to be.
Does a narcissist every change any behaviors for example stop drinking?
No. A narcissist cannot change. Narcissism is an untreatable personality disorder. It is unrealistic to believe a narcissist can change any behavior. In the world of the narcissist, he or she is center, remorseless, and sees no reason to change. He may manipulate his chosen one into believing he will change as manipulation and omnipotence are core to his insatiable need to control and keep his partner. Losing is not an option for the narcissist. Because of his inability to feel remorse, the narcissist acts out normal responses based purely on observation of others. He may say he will stop drinking to keep the relationship of abuse and chaos intact. Indeed, he cannot perceive a reason not to do exactly as he chooses to do. The narcissist lacks the ability to be accountable to any person or promise. He has no sense of remorse, no need or feelings for others exept to objectify
What does converted disposition mean in court?
Converted disposition means that there is a change in the behavior of the person. They appear different from what they always appear to be.
How do you change narcissist into a loving person?
You cannot change a narcissist. That's like saying how do you change a snake into a bear. They use other people who are taken in by their performance. Get away while you can still run. If you think you can change a narcissist then you are setting yourself up as the perfect prey. While you are trying to change the unchangeable he will be using you up.
Does the narcissist change for the new girlfriend that he loves so much?
No. That person is only an extension of himself. He can only love things that are of himself and thus is incapable of any selfless love, empathy, or understanding. A narcissist's onlyopportunity for change occurs during a life altering crisis. This deflates the narcissist's ego a leaves him emotionally unstable. It is possible, but very unlikely a narcissist will change. It is even more unlikely he will change for another person. He probably is unaware of his own attitudes as they are subconscious defense mechanisms usually formed in childhood or adolescence. Furthermore, he is incapable of that self-sacrificing behavior that enables Pygmalion projects.
What is a sentence with reconcile?
He finally reconciled himself to the change in management.
Can someone be a narcissist in training so to speak where they definitely have narcissistic traits but not full-blown narcissism and if so can they change?
They can be a developing narcissist. NO. they can NOT change. Sorry. Run while you can!
How do you get a narcissist to stop accusing you of sleeping with her husband?
Either use duct tape or cut contact. The narcissist will not change his/her ways.
What object can change the behavior of light waves in order to make an object appear larger than actual size?
A Magnifying Glass.
Does explaining to a Narcissist how they act and how dysfunctional they are help them to change?
Best guess, it can. There is no other way for a true narcissist to be aware of issues within him or herself.
Can you change a narcassist?
A narcissist would not want help because he or she would not think there was anything wrong. Therefore, you can't help a narcissist; even when a narcissist is court ordered into therapy, there is little a professional can do to help a person change this personality type.
