Yes. I compared Narcissistic Supply to drugs because of the almost involuntary and always-unrestrained nature of the pursuit involved in securing it. The narcissist is no better or worse (morally speaking) than others. But he lacks the ability to empathise precisely because he is obsessed with the maintenance of his delicate inner balance through the (ever-increasing) consumption of Narcissistic Supply. The narcissist rates people around him according to whether they can provide him with Narcissistic Supply or not. As far as the narcissist is concerned, those who fail this simple test do not exist. They are two-dimensional cartoon figures. Their feelings, needs and fears are of no interest or importance. Potential Sources of Supply are then subjected to a meticulous examination and probing of the volume and quality of the Narcissistic Supply that they are likely to provide. The narcissist nurtures and cultivates these people. He caters to their needs, desires, and wishes. He considers their emotions. He encourages those aspects of their personality that are likely to enhance their ability to provide him with his much needed supply. In this very restricted sense, he regards and treats them as "human". This is be his way of "maintaining and servicing" his Supply Sources. Needless to say that he loses any and all interest in them and in their needs once he decides that they are no longer able to supply him with what he needs: an audience, adoration, witnessing (=memory). The same reaction is provoked by any behaviour judged by the narcissist to be narcissistically injurious. The narcissist coldly evaluates tragic circumstances. Will they allow him to extract Narcissistic Supply from people affected by the tragedy? A narcissist, for instance, will give a helping hand, console, guide, share grief, encourage another hurting person only if that person is important, powerful, has access to other important or powerful people, or to the media, has a following, etc. The same applies if helping, consoling, guiding, or encouraging that person is likely to win the narcissist applause, approval, adoration, a following, or some other kind of Narcissist Supply from on-lookers and witnesses to the interaction. The act of helping another person must be documented and thus transformed into narcissistic nourishment. Otherwise the narcissist is not concerned or interested. The narcissist has no time or energy for anything, except the next narcissistic fix, NO MATTER WHAT THE PRICE AND WHO IS TRAMPLED UPON. Based on my book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
1. The trigger of supply is the person or object that provokes the source into yielding narcissistic supply by confronting the source with information about the narcissist's False Self.2. The source of narcissistic supply is the person that provides the narcissistic supply.3. Narcissistic supply is the reaction of the source to the trigger.
If the narcissist regards you as a potential future source of narcissistic supply, he will seek to compromise. If he has given up on you as a source of supply - he will fight you tooth and nail.
The only "love" a narcissist knows is self-love. Their inability to empathize with anyone else means they are unlikely to know what love is. A narcissist will say anything to maintain their narcissistic supply. If you are the source of this supply, and they realised that if they said they don't know what love is will get you to increase that supply, then they will say it. Please be careful. Look after yourself.
If a narcissist has a crisis he/she probably is short of narcissistic supply at the moment. Any supply serves to build up his ego, even conflict. As soon as he/she finds another source he/she will evaporate again.
If they are a true narcissist they will use any and everybody to feed their ego doesn't matter positive or not.They are only interested in themselves.
As many times as the supply will allow him to. So STOP allowing him to.
Yes anyone can be a supply for them,anyone that is Not a narcissist ,and to be a victim you just need to be a human being with feelings.
Empathically not. Narcissists are incapable of loving. Idealization - the unrealistic, fantasic, pathological, and utilitarian adulation of a source of narcissistic supply - has nothing to do with love.
Because he wasn't sure that he has secured a substitute. Nasrcissists drop their current sources of supply (devalue and discard) ONLY when they have an alternative ready. Narcissists are addicted to a drug known as "Narcissistic Supply". Attention (good OR bad), adulation, applause, fame, celebrity, notoriety - are all narcissistic supply. The people who supply these consistently, reliably, and predictably, are called "Narcissistic Supply Sources". Why should the narcissist look for another source of supply if the current source of supply is available (always accepts him back)? Cultivating a source of secondary narcissistic supply is a VERY time consuming and energy consuming affair. The path of least resistance (reverting to old sources) is always preferred. The old source has the advantage of having recorded memories of past grandeur. Her very "surrender" and "yielding to his charms" IS the supply he seeks. He sort of pushes the envelope, trying to ascertain and map the outer limits of his potency as irresistible male and mate. The more tortured the relationship - the sweeter the recurrent victory. This is doubly true when the narcissist is in the throes of life crises such as loss of a job, divorce, serious illness, etc.
Yes, I believe that this is true, it doesn't have to be another woman. I have recently witnessed someone that I believe is a narcissist (but not a malignant narcissist) go FROM an NS of male friends TO an NS of another woman. But the male friends were the NS for quite some time. I think the narcissist will use as an NS anyone - male or female - that satisfies his need for narcissistic supply.
A narcissist will stay away as long as he has other supply to entertain him and keep him from getting bored. When they either lose that supply or begin to grow tired of him or her, then they often seek out "old supply" before cultivating new supply again. It is far easier for the narcissist to get back in touch with an ex in order to quickly get NS. Remember, narcissists cannot stand not having supply. They'll do anything to get it and fast. They'll use ex's or old supply to bridge the gap between the supply they just lost and the one they will soon meet.
A narcissist may seek out a new source of narcissistic supply by charming and manipulating others, devaluing and discarding previous sources, and using tactics such as love bombing and gaslighting to gain admiration and validation from the new source. They may also seek out individuals who are vulnerable or easily manipulated to fulfill their need for attention and validation.