Your ex cheated and had a baby with someone else you already have two kids together but is it wrong that you may never be able to except the other child if you get back with him?

Answer 1

Always remember a child born is like an angel. that child is innocent of the wrong doings of his/her parents. Also look upon your own children and consider if they where placed in such a situation would you have like them to be treated that way... We all are human, bound by our imperfections and as a woman have love not just only for your own but remember that mother earth accepts us all no matter what. Just forgive and you'll find the way to accept this child...

Note it doesn't mean that you are encouraging your spouse. But you will be blessed for your strength and compassion...

I know of this from experience... My mother bared four children.. myself and twin sister are the eldest and my father had a son outside of his marriage just a year after we where born he was born... My mom was upset at my father but never showed my brother (whom i am proud to call my brother) that she did not accept him... My mom was the one always reminding my father of looking out for his needs. Today while we are living abroad my brother is living in my parents home with his wife and son.. whom my mom acknowledges as her grandson..

Having such a heart will bring many blessing for you and your children.

As for your spouse and your relationship... many times as adults we think of ourselves and not the little ones we have in our lives.... Divorce and separation often seems the easy way out... But building a home where your children see a distinct family structure adds moral and value to any child's existence. So consider your children especially if the father is a responsible provider for his children.

Another example.... My father onto this day lives apart from my mother... he still supports my mother but is running a business with another woman whom he is intimate with and this is known by all of us... Now both my parents believe in marriage but no marriage or relationship is perfect... We love and stay in love for various reasons and ones you have a ground or a foundation that defines your relationship no matter the situation you will be strong for your children. And most importantly teach your children respect, love, forgiveness. Why this because even though my dad is seeing and living with another woman apart from my mother myself and siblings show respect because at the end of the day that is my parents understanding and we respect that...

Today to0 many people are solving marital problems with divorce/ separation. My grandfather would bit my grandmother when they were young called her names, the sweet woman lived right across the street and she saw him go over everyday and today in their old age they travel the world together and who else can love my grandmother so much....

Some men and women are like that they must have many relationships all at the same time.. it doesn't mean that all of them are bad...