Are abusive men on a mission to totally destroy their partner's self-worth and if so why would they do that?

Answer 1

Abusive men are always about control and they learn it from either the environment they were brought up, or an environment they created sometime during their later years. For instance: He could have been abused by his father, mother or both. If he was out in the world he could have been mentally abused by a girlfriend or simply not treated well at his place of work. Abusive men think they deserve better than anyone else and they lash out at those who are the weakest (women, children and the elderly.) They seldom will carry on with their abusive ways at work because they know they can't get away with it, but once home ... that's his castle and he'll rule it the way he sees fit.

Abusive men are weak and scared believe it or not. They need that control at home because they don't feel comfortable if others have some control in the relationship. Abusive men can't share themselves with others. Women, children, down to the family dog are theirs! Women are no more than chattel to them. Some abusive men may really love their wife/girlfriend, but they can't control their immature and nasty ways. There are also some men who are simply just mean to the bone and have no real reason for their actions with the exception they can get away with it.

If you are in this situation head for the first "Abused Women's Center" and get help. Get away from this guy!

Good luck honMarcy

Answerit's a feeling of power for someone who actually feels weak inside Answeri was a victim of mental abuse by my boyfriend who was 16 years older to me. i' was 24 years old when i knew him and at such age, when girls my age would love to feel true love, i endured all forms of possible mental abuse from my "ex" abusive partner until i couldn't feel my own sense of self worth or respect in me. my ex would never physcially harm me, but his mental tortured were just enough to make me inflict physical harm on my ownself. the truth is, yes, it does bring down a person's self worth, trust, and confidence in ones mental and emotional wellbeing.i had an ambition to become a lawyer, but my ex was so disturbed with the fact tht if i become one, i may need to meet my clients or to argue in court, etc.he looked at all this events as a threat rather than to see what would make me happy as a sole human being.for his sake and the love i had for him, i am still not into practise now. I have the fear in me and my lack of self worth, and confidence is making me fear if i am capable of doing it or not.i just broke up with my ex few days back and I'm trying to get back myself, back to normal as how i used to be. from my understanding, why some people do this is due to the lack of self confidence in their very own self or the fact that they had a failed relationship before and they're pouring all their torments and anger on the new person who enters into their life, especially if the new person is weak and vulnerable. i always blamed myself for even talking to a friend for 1 minute as that would seem like i was having an affair with a men , in the eyes of my ex. i just would like to plead to all sisters' or anyone in a mentally abusive relationship, please get out of it before it ruins your life. you may not know what destruction these abusers may cause, but it can also be termed as a slow killer. your life is worth more than just spending it with some loser who wants to vent all his frustrations on you. anyway, you don't deserve it and after all, who is this person to show his attitude on us? the more we give in, the more advantage would be taken. please take life seriously and god bless to all my friends out there...