Not just the oldest but each child has to be at least 18 before you are allowed to contact them. I would imagine contacting just the oldest when he is 18 and then not be allowed to talk to the others and just him, and he has to pretend he has not spoken to you, would be a mess. So wait until they are all 18. When the oldest turn 18 you can also contact the family. They might agree on you seeing them all but since they know their children better you really should work with them and listen to what they say so the best solution is reached.
No they do not. In a case like this I would contact the adoptive parents and ask if it was OK.
You talk to them.
If they were adopted you must've signed papers so look at them and find the adoptive agency. Or try your medical journals. Unless the children are adults though, you are not allowed to contact them without their parents permission.
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Contact the Agency from which the child was adopted. Otherwise , call you local Dept. of Children's and Family Services for advice. And a lawyer.
I agree with the Adopted mother. She is dealing with a teen ager and wild hormones. (I hate you, I love you, etc.) The last thing she needs is for the birth mother to come into the picture at this point. She should be allowed to contact you when she becomes an adult and you will not interfere with the family. (The reason God created teen agers was to prepare parents for children to leave home.)
39% of children contact their grandparents on the phone.
In Missouri, when as father has had no contact with the child, by choice or by denial of access by the mother, for at least six months, the child can be adopted by a stepparent.
Children are not stolen by the CPS, they remove the children in order to be safe or when in need of a family. And yes, at 18 he can seek for you and you can seek for him. I would contact his parents first though to find out how he feels about it and how much he knows. If he was very young he might not remember anything and you don't know how much his parents have told him or how much they knew about his former family. It might backfire if you contact him directly.
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Sue him or take him to court
There are many benefits to adoption. First for the biological parents they know that their child is safe and will be raised in a stable environment that they alone couldn't provide. Most adoptive parents (the ones adopting the child) can not have children of their own and adopting allows them to raise and love a child like their own. Also the adoptive parents may be able to have a mixed family that is one that has a combination of biological and adopted children. The child that is adopted gets many benefits, one of which is being raised in a loving home. If the child was adopted in an open adoption they may be able to keep in contact with their biological family. A benefit I have experienced as an adopted child is that I get to share my experience and memory of being adopted with other adopted kids.