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Can you teach a partner to compromise?

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July 15, 2015 9:29PM

It depends on the personality of the person. If they are a "know it all" are stubborn, then good luck!

Most of the time it's just a matter of getting use to each other. When a couple first goes together they are on a learning trend and have to learn about each other's personalities; likes and dislikes. This also tags along when you are first married. Big adjustment. One mate can be easy-going, while the other stubborn, selfish, controlling and hard to discuss anything with.

The best thing to do is sit down with your mate and talk it out. Explain what you mean to them by "compromising" and give a couple of examples (don't harp at them.) A couple doesn't have to compromise everthing little thing in life, but they should when it's important.

Example: Your boyfriend or husband wants to go fishing with the boys early Saturday morning, but you would like to go for dinner and a movie. If he hasn't been out fishing for a long while, then it would simply respect to give up your one Saturday to let him go.

if .....

Your boyfriend or husband PROMISED you that the Saturday was your choice of what you wanted to do and then said he was going to go fishing (left you no say in the matter) this is selfish and a compromise should be given such as .... OK, go fishing in the morning, but it would be nice if you were home no later than 3 PM because I wanted to go to dinner and a movie.

The same applies to women with their husbands. Women more often than not are the "social planners" in their relationship. I never make plans without first consulting my husband. He could have a long day at work, may just want to rest over the weekend, or want to do something else.

It depends on the personality of the person. If they are a "know it all" are stubborn, then good luck!

Most of the time it's just a matter of getting use to each other. When a couple first goes together they are on a learning trend and have to learn about each other's personalities; likes and dislikes. This also tags along when you are first married. Big adjustment. One mate can be easy-going, while the other stubborn, selfish, controlling and hard to discuss anything with.

The best thing to do is sit down with your mate and talk it out. Explain what you mean to them by "compromising" and give a couple of examples (don't harp at them.) A couple doesn't have to compromise everthing little thing in life, but they should when it's important.

Example: Your boyfriend or husband wants to go fishing with the boys early Saturday morning, but you would like to go for dinner and a movie. If he hasn't been out fishing for a long while, then it would simply respect to give up your one Saturday to let him go.

if .....

Your boyfriend or husband PROMISED you that the Saturday was your choice of what you wanted to do and then said he was going to go fishing (left you no say in the matter) this is selfish and a compromise should be given such as .... OK, go fishing in the morning, but it would be nice if you were home no later than 3 PM because I wanted to go to dinner and a movie.

The same applies to women with their husbands. Women more often than not are the "social planners" in their relationship. I never make plans without first consulting my husband. He could have a long day at work, may just want to rest over the weekend, or want to do something else.

Compromising is easy to learn and I wish you luck.

A great deal of it will depend on how good you are at communication skills. That will make or break it.