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  • When a spouse breaks that bond of trust it will take several months to possibly a year or more (of good behavior) for that cheating husband to earn the trust back from their spouse. The victim of a cheating spouse should never make it easy for the cheater to come back into their lives and continue on as if nothing has happened, but, they should not harp at the cheating spouse or the relationship would wither away. To err is human and sometimes either men or women make a mistake and cheat, but some never cheat again while others may find themselves cheating over and over again. This is why it is important for the victim of cheating to tell their spouse they will only take them back if they agree to go to marriage counseling where the marriage counselor can give them the tools to correct the weak areas in the marriage. If the cheating spouse refuses, then it is better to walk away from the marriage.
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Q: Could you really trust your spouse to change if the affair he had would be his last?
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Do you really know the warning sign that your spouse could be having an affair?

men only have affairs because their home sec life is sooo borin. Women this is really simple, if you want to keep your man from having an affair keep your sex life spicey else he *will* wander...

Why are some wives struggling with self doubt and self esteem after spouse affair?

Wives whose husbands have been involved in an affair often experience self-doubt and struggle with self-esteem because they think they were part of the reason their spouse had an affair. When their spouse is unfaithful in their relationship, the wife begins to wonder what she could have done better to prevent her spouse from having an affair. She may ask herself why her spouse got involved in the affair. She questions her value as a wife and wonders what is wrong with her that would cause her spouse to have an affair. She begins to believe that she was not a good enough wife (destroying her self-esteem) and therefore her spouse had to find fulfillment elsewhere. She may think that her spouse does not find her attractive anymore and therefore begin to question her self-worth.

Should you look for your own faults if your spouse had an affair?

You could, but it may be a waste of your time. You could be the 'Barbie' doll girl of the relationship or in the case of guys, the 'macho' man and the spouse may still have an affair and all the money in the world won't matter. As an example look at Tiger Woods and Arnold Schwarzenegger.

Can you get genital herpes when your spouse has an affair with someone with genital herpes?

Yes, if your partner brings herpes virus into your relationship, you could get genital herpes. Talk with your spouse about how you will protect yourself from STDs.

Should you notify the spouse of someone that was involved in an affair with your spouse?

You really have to weigh the pros and cons with divulging this information. If you do you have to understand this is could cause many problems as you may be going through yourself. Honesty is the best policy and the best thing would be to tell someone but you will have to decide if this will be the right thing for everyone in the end.

After your spouse affair do you have to stay with your marriage for the sake of your children?

There is no law that expects a spouse to stay in a marriage where their spouse has cheated just because they have children. However, if this is the first time the one spouse has cheated it is wise to realize that 'to err is human' and worth seeing a marriage counselor before deciding to end the marriage. If two people really do not love each other then they will inevitably not get along; not trust their spouse;; arguments and frustration could break out and this does not make for a good environment for children.

How do you let go after having an affair?

How is a bit tricky question, I could just tell you to just accept it, but it will not be right. You want to know how, I guess you are the one that had the affair. The only way you can move on after the affair is work on what made you do it in the first place. But it sounds that you have feelings for this person that's why you were wondering how. If you fell in love with the other person and your married, you will have one huge problem. Balance your life and ask if you really love you spouse and you want to make amends, And ask yourself again if you really love the other person, enough to leave your spouse for the other person. You are the only one that can justify your feelings, but make sure you will do the right things for everyone concern.

Can you love your spouse again unconditionally after his affair?

I'm not sure if a person can love someone unconditionally after his affair because first of all, you are disappointed at him. To build up trust and reliability, it could take a long time. however, if he truly apologizes and understands what he has done, and you forgive him for it, then you should at least try to love him. after all, he is your spouse.

Is painting a house a physical or chemical change?

I guess it could be chemical, but really- it's a physical change

How do you repair a marriage after an affair?

How? it will be very hard because the trust between man and his wife was broken. There are some couple that end up divorce because their life isn't the same anymore. And some will take very long time because the betrayed spouse will be afraid and wonder what if? could it? husband might do it again. It will be hard for the betrayed spouse to trust again especially if the guilty spouse was emotionally connected with his ex mistress. Repairing your marriage after the affair might happen but it will take you a long time.

What are the odds of saving your marriage?

If the spouse does not constantly cheat and made one mistake by having an affair then talking it out in a calm manner and facing how you both can improve upon the marriage may save the marriage or, you both could go to marriage counseling to learn tools to deal with every day life's stresses. If the spouse is constantly cheating; may be on drugs or abuses alcohol or is constantly verbally or physically harmful to their spouse it is best to move on. There is a good rate of successful marriages if one spouse has only had one affair if the couple decide to make it work. 'To err is human.'

Why would someone have a bad attitude towards their husband or wife after having an affair?

This could possibly be due to quilt getting to them. Some people don't handle guilt very well, so they turn it into anger, or even try to blame their partner for the affair.If your spouse had an affair and is now displaying a bad attitude towards you, try to talk to them and find out how they do feel about the affair, and about the person with whom they had the affair. Let them know they can be completely honest, that you only want to make your marriage work. If he or she has already apologized, don't continue to berate them for the affair, but at the same time, you do deserve answers.You have a right to know why s/he had the affair, as well as why s/he has a bad attitude about it now. Maybe your spouse is struggling with the pain it's put you through, which could definitely account for a bad attitude. Just don't let your spouse try to blame you by trying to convince you that the affair was your fault for doing or not doing this or that.The two of you need to talk through everything, even if it takes days or weeks. Your spouse owes you answers to your questions, no matter how difficult it may be for him or her to give you those answers. But once you do get the answers you want or need, then you need to decide if you want to try to make the marriage work. If you do, then you will have to let go of the affair and start from the present, not going back to the past. You can't keep bringing it up once you do get the answers you need or want, or you will never be able to move forward with your marriage or your life together.

Will Rose Hathaway have an affair with Adrain?

I wouldn't really call it an affair. In Spirit Bound Rose and Adrian were really close to having an affair until Rose stops midway because she realized that they didn't have protection. Rose and Adrian kinda agreed that maybe next time they could have a proper affair. Instead of having a full out affair with Adrian, Rose suggested for Adrian to drink her blood. There were no other "affairs" with Rose and Adrian throughout the series.

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How do you tell miley to quit smoking?

You don't. He habits are her own affair. Even if you could, you probally wont convince, unless you are a really really really really really reall close friend of hers. And I mean REALLY close.

Can you blame a wife for walking away if the spouse never kept his words to not cheat again?

No, no one could really blame a wife for walking away if the spouse never kept his words to not cheat again.

Do you need to know all the details of the affair?

That could be entertaining! Go for it! ANSWER: STOP, you will be making a huge mistakes. Yes it will help some but if you will rebuild your marriage, with your spouse it's not going to be easy. This affair that he or she did will stay with you for a long time. Your mind will always be in that place and it will hunt you. It will not stop because your heart is still broken and you don't have the trust. Let God solve the pain that your spouse gave you. Always remember sooner or later what goes around, comes around. Think about it and all you can do is tell your spouse your feeling, your pain, and let time heal it for you..

What does it mean when you dream of having an affair?

If you dream about you having an affair with someone, it means that you have feelings for that person, that have to be hidden. If you dream about your other half having an affair it highlights your fears of being alone and abandoned, and that you feel that you are lacking attention. Dreams often express ideas and feelings through odd and uncomfortable symbols. A dream affair might not have any sexual meaning, but could illustrate the dreamer's concern about spending too much time, energy or effort on something other than the spouse / partner. For example, if the dreamer is putting in too much time at work, the subconscious mind could create a dream of "cheating" with a co-worker or supervisor, or something absurd, like an affair with a cell-phone. Too much time spent at church, or in sports or playing video games or anything else that takes the dreamer's time and attention away from the spouse can be portrayed as "cheating" in dreams.

Can you put a hidden microphone in a class to find out if a married teacher is having an affair with a coworker?

If you are a student then you have no right to do this to your teacher. Doing this would only benefit the spouse. The school system should have no rights to do this either. The teacher could sue.

Can you get an annulment because you feel your spouse lied to you before going to prison?

Maybe. It would depend on whether it really was a lie or whether it just felt like a lie, and what the lie was about. For example, if the spouse lied about his name, it could be grounds for annulment. If the spouse lied about a prior relationship, it would not.

What if your husband treats you horribly is he angry because he got caught in a 3 year affair?

You deserve it, you really do. But you shouldn't have to take any physical abuse-if he does, walk out on him. But you should try to show that you still love him. You did betray him, but if you really love him, you have to tell him the truth and let everything out, or else the relationship doesn't have a chance of healing.Please re-read MY question. HE had the affair, and is treating ME horribly! Why? Cause he got caught, and still wants to maintain the affair?ResponseIt depends on what kind of an affair this was; there are two typres, a physical affair and an emotional affair. A physical affair is just about sex really, and the cheater just doesn't feel satisfied by their partner. In an emotinal affair, the person is cheating on their partner usually because their ppartner cannot fill some sort of void, or is caused by some sort of mistreatment-this happens a lot when a parent is protecting their child from their partner who isn't the actual parent.He may feel really guilty, and that could be a form of it-look out for any signs of self-abuse-that means he feels sorry about the affair and still cares for you. He might be angry because he feels that he shouldn't have needed to be driven so far as to cheat on you. He could really want to stay with the person he was having the affair with, although that's actually somewhat rare.

Why is your husband delaying the truth about his affair?

ANSWER:I'm not really sure, but I have some idea of why. Could it be that he is waiting to make sure that he will not loose both his wife and his mistress? It could me his waiting for you to calm down and he knew the hurt he gave you from his affair? there are lots of reason why he is waiting..

When is it OK to ask your brother in law to look for some where Else to live?

Legally, if you own the house, you can tell him to leave any time you like. If the question is really "When can I do this without having my spouse and my spouse's family hate me," then ... well, you know them better than we do. Could be "whenever you like," could be "never."

Could you really start fresh with your spouse after his affair knowing that he also done it before?

People are only human and can make a mistake, but they should learn from that mistake and obviously your spouse has not learned or does not want to learn from the first mistake of cheating because he has done so again and therefore, no, you cannot trust him again as he has broken that bond of trust. Trust is not easy to attain once broken. He is either immature or does not want to commit to one woman and you are going to have to decide if you want to live a life with him of always wondering if he is going to cheat again.

What is the technical name of the person who marries your cousin?

Your cousin's spouse, there really isn't a technical name for it, though you could refer to them as a cousin-in-law, but no one really does that. For the most part they would simply be referred to as a cousin.