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Does a narcissist always have a back up supply in case he needs it?
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∙ 15y ago
The answer is YES!!!! Or he goes back to old sources of narcissistic supply and "cons" his way back if possible into their lives to get his "fix" so he does NOT have to be alone, and deal with himself. He will even, when that source is GONE, go as far as to apologize and admit his faults in causing you to leave him and ask for a 2nd chance, a 3rd...ad infinitum IF you allow him to continue to do the same thing. Refusing to be a source of narcissistic supply or "feel good" emotions for him, he will eventually, most of the time, seek out a new source. When he does, if things get rocky, he will most likely contact you, and tell you, "I miss our conversations"....She does NOT hug me or excite me as you do, or she does not have your credentials. Keep in mind. If he gets tired of you, he will tell you he can do better than you in the choice of a mate, even if your own education and credentials or Curriculum Vitae exceed his. In keeping with his sense of entitlement, to his way of thinking....you should have to live up to his expectations or bring more to the table professionally, financially, and emotionally, than he gives, and just be happy to "get to have him in your life". After all, he does believe that someone as "unique and special" as he is deserves the best. However, inside that man is a frightened of intimacy..... little boy who has NOT grown up. Do you want to spend your life with someone like this? That is the question. Flirting online and even the appearance of the possibility of infidelity or infidelity games are OUT OF LINE. Non negotiable terms......you are entitled to... Judy Laughton Lilley, M.A., Counseling and Prof. Psychology, LPC
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What is the longest a narcissist stays away from his supply?
A narcissist will stay away as long as he has other supply to entertain him and keep him from getting bored. When they either lose that supply or begin to grow tired of him or her, then they often seek out "old supply" before cultivating new supply again. It is far easier for the narcissist to get back in touch with an ex in order to quickly get NS. Remember, narcissists cannot stand not having supply. They'll do anything to get it and fast. They'll use ex's or old supply to bridge the gap between the supply they just lost and the one they will soon meet.
If a narcissist discard you and goes back old sources of supply does that mean that he will never contact you again?
No. He may contact you if he tires of the old supply or if the old supply wises up and leaves him, and he doesn't have new supply lined up yet. Of course, if you take him back, it's a matter of time until he leaves again.
Does a narcissist ex want you back after the moved on to someone new?
Absutely. Its always all about him. He,s narcossistic. They only think of themselves. He,s angry that you aren,t somwhere hurting that he,s.moved on. Keep growing without him. He needs the wake up call that tells him life is not always about him.
When a narcissist man tells you your on his back burner?
When he finds the next victim that he considers to be more attentive and attractiveas his narcissistic supply. Usually when he feels you are requiring something of him!
Will the narcissist always return after a break up even if they have said its over?
i would love to know peoples experiences on this-i have no children with this person and im not married to them thanks.....!!!!!!!!!!!!! The N will return to see if there is still any supply, or even to create supply through your reactions. The N isn't ignorant about the pain he's caused, just uncaring. As long as you react -- in any way -- the N will always come back in between lapses of whatever supply he's replaced you with.
Is reluctant reconciliation a narcissist trait?
Because he wasn't sure that he has secured a substitute. Nasrcissists drop their current sources of supply (devalue and discard) ONLY when they have an alternative ready. Narcissists are addicted to a drug known as "Narcissistic Supply". Attention (good OR bad), adulation, applause, fame, celebrity, notoriety - are all narcissistic supply. The people who supply these consistently, reliably, and predictably, are called "Narcissistic Supply Sources". Why should the narcissist look for another source of supply if the current source of supply is available (always accepts him back)? Cultivating a source of secondary narcissistic supply is a VERY time consuming and energy consuming affair. The path of least resistance (reverting to old sources) is always preferred. The old source has the advantage of having recorded memories of past grandeur. Her very "surrender" and "yielding to his charms" IS the supply he seeks. He sort of pushes the envelope, trying to ascertain and map the outer limits of his potency as irresistible male and mate. The more tortured the relationship - the sweeter the recurrent victory. This is doubly true when the narcissist is in the throes of life crises such as loss of a job, divorce, serious illness, etc.
Can you get your kids back after losing them to a narcissist liar and believing a narcissist liar?
well yeah. but it matters. how did you lose them?
Is it common for a narcissist to disown a child?
Unfortunately, I would say it is more common for a child to work hard to try to please the narcissistic parent, sacrificing their own dreams, development and dignity in the process. The most likely reason I can see that a narcissist would disown a child would be that the child has decided to take a stand for him/herself. If a child insists on being an independent person who will not pander to the childish needs of the narcissist, then the narcissist will fight to win them back or disown them. In this case, the narcissist will always be looking for the opportunity for the child to come crawling back and give the parent the idolization the parent "deserves." Of course, there can be many other situations, other factors, and other outcomes. You have to objectively view the factors in your situation before coming to any real conclusions. Best of luck!
Why do narcissists come back?
Narcissists need to always be complimented; dramatize their lifestyle or indeavors;adored; admired, etc., and it's 'running out of supplies' for the narcissist when they want to come back to the partner they were with. This means the narcissist is not being supplied to boost his or her's ego and they know they can more than likely get the boost (like a drug addiction) from their former partner.
If you left your narcissist because you hoped it would make him see what he was doing to you will he come back if you've had no contact with him for a week?
Until he realizes he has a mental disorder and believes he nees help, he will not change. He will not think he is treating you bad. He will believe that you treated him bad and "weren't there for him." He will castigate and malign you to those you mutually know. He may seek you out again as a source of emotional/sexual supply or he will decide to be with another person who will provide what you did or give him even more attention and regard. If he feels he can replace you, he will. Narcissists are emotional vampires--they feed off of the feelings of others and give nothing in return. The only way you could stay in a long term relationship with one is by submlimating your own feelings, needs and desires, and going along with everything the narcissist wants. Again, this only works as long as the narcissist wants it to--if he bores of you or finds a "better" person to supply his needs, he will abandon you. Does this sound like a relationship you want to get back into?
Why does the narcissist keep coming back?
He came to look in your mirror.
If a narcissist ignores you what should you do?
You should ignore them back and be thankful you are not in their circle of victims. Get on with your life and don't fret over not getting attention from a narcissist.
