Does this girl still like you if she wants to be just friends?

Answer 1

It depends. Sometimes people say "let's just be friends" but they don't mean it. It's possible that she really only likes you as a friend, or she wants more but the timing isn't right, or there's something else going on (or she wants to get you off her back completely but doesn't want to hurt you, but this isn't very likely).

Honesty is the best policy. First of all, be honest to yourself. Do you want to be friends with this girl, can you be friends with her? Have you so many things in common that there's stuff you two can talk about, and share, and can you have fun together? If yes, perhaps it's a good idea to be friends. Otherwise, if your feelings for her were just attraction, and/or are too strong, you'll lie to her and to yourself by hanging out together, while she imagines you're all right and you're hurting inside. It's not fair to you or to her. In this case, you two probably need a little time off. Talk about it, and hang out with your other friends for a while.

If you decide that you're all right with a friendship talk to her. Explain that you like her style/you think you have stuff in common/whatever, and you think you could be friends. Don't push her, or make her feel guilty ("I love you so much, but if you can't be my girlfriend, I'll settle for a friendship!") That's manipulative behaviour. Being honest doesn't mean you throw the burden of your pain on the other one. Ask her to be honest, too. Tell her that it will hurt if she wants to cease your relationship, but it's better than to go on faking it. Listen to what she says, and be nice - make it easy for her to open up and share her feelings.

This will be very painful, I'm afraid, but you could be on your way to winning a very good friend, possibly for life.