How can someone break up with you out of the blue when things were going very well for both of you and you have a lot in common?

Answer 1

There is an old saying "Life passed you by when you were busy!" Sometimes we just don't notice the signs because we are busy and we think everything is OK. It wasn't fair to you because your partner should have communicated to you what they felt. Although you are hurting now be thankful you found out about this person before you married them or wasted more of your life on. They have taught you a lot whether they realized it or not or whether you realize it. They taught you that if you don't communicate then the relationship can turn sour. They taught you that when you give respect and they don't give it back then YOU should discuss this with that person and if they aren't willing to change then "kick 'em to the curb." They taught you that if you don't stop for a few minutes every now and then and look around you, you could be missing signals that any person is giving you. By taking time out of your day (even if it's just a 1/2 hour you can spare) it helps you reflect on your day. It gives you a chance to know where you have been, what you've done, could you have done it better, are things bothering you about your partner and if it is then you have to deal with it right then and there. People are chameleons and we all perform when out in society. We put on the happy face or nod our heads up and down when at work (when we don't really feel like it.) We do things every day of our lives we don't particularly want to do, but have too. We can be one person at home, the workplace and out at a party, so we must expect that from others. This is why it's so difficult to gauge another's personality traits. It's apparent that your partner was very good at camouflaging their feelings and didn't have enough respect for you to sit and talk to you about your relationship. You can walk away from this, but you can also meet with your ex partner and talk it out. The choice is up to you. If they say they didn't feel the relationship was working then you have a right to know why. If you don't feel their excuses are valid then don't get mad, but look them straight in the eye and say, "You have a lot to learn about communication skills. It's been nice, but GOODBYE!" It hurts and there is no doubt of that, but stand straight and tall and move forward. You've had an "experience" with a different type of person so the next one you fall for you'll be more wary of. I bet the next person you pick with be as different as day and night as far as your ex partner is concerned. Good luck