Offer to pay for it but tell her the money is contingent on your guest list.
It is proper to invite only the children that will be part of the wedding, or to invite only immediate family member's children, ie. nieces & nephews. However, it is not appropiate to invite some family's children and not others, or some friend's children and not others.
Usually all the family members are there and based on your budget you invite people. Mostly its your close ones who you invite to.
If you don't want to invite your parents to a wedding don't tell them about the wedding in the first place.
It's not in most cases. Destination weddings may be an exception, but to invite someone to your shower and not your wedding is a big no no.
No, it's rude to invite a guest to the Engagement Party when you have no intention of asking them to the wedding. If the guest has a reason they can't make the wedding then it's just fine to invite them to the Engagement Party.
It is proper etiquette to only invite people to the shower who will also be invited to the wedding. If the couple is having a private ceremony with only family, then only invite family to the shower. If they are eloping and not inviting anyone, it would be safest not to have a shower because those at the shower would be expecting a wedding invitation.
No. You can invite or refuse to invite anyone you wish.
A rehearsal dinner isn't a formally defined event. The best thing to do is invite close family and anyone who you feel should be there and of course the wedding party.
* It is wise not to invite 'some' subordinates' lest you hurt others feelings. If you have close friends that are your subordinates then you can invite them to the wedding.
You are cordially invited to attend my wedding.
With difficulty.
Not yet, but ABC family will be making one shortly.