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How can you get your husband to stop putting his mother first ahead of you?
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∙ 15y ago
Mothers! Chances are that your husband's mother has a poor relationship to her husband. That is usually the reason why a mother has a hard time letting go of her son. She depends on her son when she can not depend on her husband. Sometimes it helps when one points this out to a man. But often it doesn't. The reason: Guilt! Like him saying, "I can not neglect my mother!" Yes, most parents are amateurs. They have not the slightest idea of how to raise a child. And the children bear the burden of their mistakes. Tell your husband about what's going on. Give him plenty of time to consider the problem. It might be obvious to you, but probably not to him. Give him also plenty of time to deal with his mother, if he has such intent. This is an extremely difficult relationship to rearrange. More about parents and child rearing in the book reference on my Bio Page.
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∙ 15y ago
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∙ 8y agoI've found that many men, and women too, are more open to ideas if they come up with it themselves. It helps to find a parallel, something that he can relate to and then present it in a non thretining way (not in the heat of the moment). Ultimately I've found that if I want to be taken seriously I have to be very straight foreward about what I want. On the otherhand I think sometimes there are things that he just doesn't understand. I very often have to pick my battles with my husband, but if it is important to you. you'll need to speak up. Please keep in mind that this is no more than friendly advise from one wife to another, and I am in no way an expert. .
~S~
ps. sometimes I feel it's easier to express my feelings to my husband in writing. It helps me get everything out there without the interuptions of conversation. He can respond in his own way and in his own time, though I am always available there when he reads it.
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∙ 16y agoYou don't, you get divorced. It's the best thing I did in years!!! Men seem to think once married much doesn't change and they keep on with some old habits such as going out with their male friends a little too often, watching sports all the time and not considering their wife's needs. Men can be selfish at times. As far as I'm concerned some men just trade-off one mother for another, but there are some good guys out there that are good husbands and do the best they can. It's no mystery at all. Men and women just aren't on the same wave length and never were and never will be so it's up to the wife to start communicating her needs and each of them have some "head space" to have free time from each other. A woman should learn to entertain herself as well either by having a hobby, working, volunteering, going out with girlfriends or even going on a mini vacation with a girlfriend or alone if she prefers. When women do this they get more respect from the men because it keeps that mystery in the marriage. No, it's not time for divorce as the above poster put it. Marriage takes work. I've been married for 35 years. At first when I got married to my second husband he was out with his friends water-skiing (I could come along if I wanted) but it was a little too much every weekend (as my husband always quoted "too much of anything is good for nothing") so I quoted that back at him. I had a hard-nosed talk with him and told him I hadn't married him to be his maid service, be his counselor, his nurse, etc., and that he'd better get his head out of the clouds and if we had any problems we had to sit down and communicate. After that talk we take and hour or so every day (he may have a wine/me a tea) and discuss any problems we may have or sometimes we just have an up-beat discussion about things we want to do. It's called "Communicating and keeping in touch." My husband and I have our arguments and I'd be lying if I said we didn't, but, we have learned to walk away, cool off and then sit down and talk and come to a happy medium. It works! We are happy in our marriage, but it does take work. Today too many couples give up too soon and if you don't ask for respect you sure aren't going to get it!
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Is your husband's mother still your mother-in-law after husband dies?
In most families she would still be referred to as your mother-in-law. If you remarry, you would introduce her as your first husband's mother.
What is your mother's first cousin's once removed husband to you?
The husband of your mother's first cousin, once removed, is not related to you as you do not share a common ancestor. In some cases, your mother's first cousin once removed is your second cousin. so you would refer to the husband as "my second cousin's husband." In other cases, your mother's first cousin, once removed, is your first cousin, twice removed. It might be easier to refer to that husband as "my gransmother's first cousin's husband."
Who was mother earths second husband?
Mother Earth's first husband was Uranus, and then her second huband I think was Oceanous.
What do you call your husband's mother?
You can call her by her first name or if your comfortable some son-in-laws call them mom.
In Greek mythology who was mother earth's second husband?
Oceanous was the titan of the seas. He married Gaea after her first husband, Uranus had died from Gaea's son Cronus.
How are you related to your mother's husband's father-in-law's son's daughter?
Your mother's husband is your father. His father-in-law is your mother's father, your grandfather. Your grandfather's son is your mother's brother, and your uncle. Your uncle's daughter is your first cousin.
What do you call your mother's second husband?
If you are a child of her first husband, then her second husband is your step-father. However, if your mother married her second husband after you became an adult and established your own household, you may choose not to consider him a step-father, but merely her second husband. The generally acceptable method to address your step-dad is to use his first name. Or "Dad", or any nickname HE wants you to use.
What do you call your sister husband mom?
Your mother's sister's daughter is your first cousin. Your first cousin is not related to you. You would call him by name, or refer to him as "my cousin's husband."
How did the narrator's mother's first husband die in The Leap?
He was shocked by lightning in the middle of an act
Who is Creusa's husband?
The first wife of Aeneas and mother to Ascanius (also known as Iulus).
How are you related to your mother's sister's husband's nephew's niece?
Your mother's husband is your father or step-father. His brother-in-law is either the husband of his sister or the brother of your mother. * The brother of your mother is your uncle. * The husband of your father's sister is your uncle. * The husband of your step-father's sister is your step-uncle if you like him or if you are required to associate with him a lot. If you don't deal with him much, then you can consider him not to be related to you. So you have either an uncle, a step-uncle, or no relation.
What do you call the mother's sister's husband's sister?
He's called your uncle becasue your mother's sisters are your aunts and the people married to them are your uncles (assuming that they're men).
