• They let you do the talking most of the time.

• They are using more gas.

• The mileage in their car is too high. Check the mileage for them to and from work. Is there a lot of unexplained mileage?

• They want you to wait while they clean out their car before you get in it.

• There are two empty cups or containers for food for more than one person in their car.

• The music stations in their car have changed.

Signs of Money:

• Money is unaccounted for (this could also be drugs).

• You find receipts for items you've never seen.

• There are unexplained charges on credit card bills.

Here is some more input and advice from people who have been cheated on:

• If you know that they cheated on people they were with before you, the chances are much higher that they will cheat on you.
• If you're losing sleep over it and become obsessive and angry, don't just shun it away as paranoia. It might be right.

• Unfortunately, the "signs" aren't that obvious nor are they that reliable. If he/she is doing it "right", you won't be able to tell unless you catch him/her in the act. In general, if you're the type of person that tries to keep life interesting for your spouse, you'll minimize the potential, but you can't eliminate the possibility no matter what you do. Some people tend to cheat no matter what their home life is like. Were they cheating on someone else when they met you? If so, it's probably an established behavior pattern. If your spouse is the type of person who can be trusted in other areas of life you might have a good reason to trust him in marriage. After all, marriage is about trust and commitment.

• Note that if your spouse is not cheating and you are constantly being suspicious and questioning everything, you might just drive him/her into being unfaithful.

• If you believe they're different now, then take the time and think of a plan to investigate them on your own.

• If you have a gut instinct that they are cheating, 9 out of 10 times you are right. That feeling is there for a reason and if I were you I would check it out. Be careful though, you don't want it to be your own insecurity and be wrong. That will screw things up because then he will know that you don't trust him.

• The heart knows. Don't let your mind talk you out of it. There are a lot of signs of cheating.

• Be patient. Don't let them know you suspect them. Plan what to do if they really are cheating on you or lying to you. Be prepared to leave them. No matter how ugly, fat, worthless, or horrible lover you think you are in your mind you will always feel that way if you stay there and don't listen to your gut instincts and the hard evidence. Self esteem is how well you trust yourself. If you know something is going on, and deny it is happening you aren't trusting yourself and your self esteem same will be low. Remember somebody will love you no matter what you look like. There is always someone out there who thinks you are a 10.

• A spouse often cheats with someone close to both of you, e.g., a neighbor, friend, or even a family member of yours. Are they especially close to someone of the opposite sex?
• Days without showering at home, but your partner seems to have showered.

“My entire fourth grade class was in attendance at our teacher's wedding where she was left at the altar,”

“The whole situation was ugly. My teacher was the bride and was about 3/4 down the aisle when the groom decided he couldn't do it. He walked off to the side, and at first, my teacher and her father didn't notice and kept walking, smiling radiantly.”

“There was about a minute of really solid confusion (Last-minute cold feet? Bathroom emergency?) before everyone realized what was going on. My teacher was whisked out of the church and an announcement was made that there was not going to be a wedding. This happened the second or third week of June; she didn't come back for the last week of school.”

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If you both want to save the marriage, your wife needs to admit to the affair and end it as of this moment. She needs to have no contact with the man she was having the affair with, even if this means quitting a job.

She needs to explain why she had the affair--what were the issues she had in your marriage that made her decide to be with someone else? She should also agree to marital counseling with you, or at the least some counseling with a priest or a pastor.

If she has no interest in giving up the affair or going to counseling, there isn't a lot you can do to save the marriage.

Here no matter the reason you go to court for divorce it's a no fault. Though in this state it's on the record that a woman actually served jail time for having sex with another man. Go figure. Unless the couple has a agreement before hand, everything gets split. 50 50. Sorry buddy she gets the billard table you get the shafts I mean sticks.

1) Stay with her; which is showing her that there is no penalty for doing it. Then wait for the next time, which will certainly be in your future.

2) Be hurt,betrayed,and sad that she ruined the relationship built on trust. Talk out you feelings with her to get things out for both of you. Then tell her you understand her explanation, you still care about her, and accept what she did. Then tell her you hope she understands now, just like she said she did when you got married, that you can not be with someone that you cannot trust. If she "learned her lesson" or "mistake", remind her that now she knows the consequences, when she finds someone else. Then offer to help her pack.

If ever this happens to you, may God forbid... tell her this straight into her eyes; " May God have mercy on you on the Day of Judgement".

All shall feel the wrath that awaits those who cheat! May God the Almighty have mercy on your souls.

In PA. adultery is punishable up to 3 years in prison if proven in court (1997 women servered time-3 months). Death now hmmmm. I am thinking to myself that her life is less than my own. A woman is to be treasured...shared if need be. Depends on the person/people. If you allow yourself such rage & selfishness to want death because your ego your frail feelings are hurt than you can have that 'god'. My GOD forgives & allows mistakes or growth. But in the end if you can't talk to your mate about fantasy or outside relationship sex as a release.. I.E. Roll play her another woman as she's blindfolded. Call her the name aloud. If you can't be honest & state needs... I need to explore sexual more with you. He should help....not push her away. Anyway I see it like this: 56% of American are divorced. Over 70% cheat on their spouse. LIEING about it the entire time. Caught on video & still deny it too. This country will never grow as a strong nation if the families aren't able to stregthen the next generation by using example as a teaching tool. Watch parents rationly solve issues like infidelity or even minor ones like compromising on financial investing. One year use her plan. Next use his. See which is working for the growth of/to wealth. I would not hide the hurt & distane from partner but I wouldn't allow it to KILL a part of myself. Couples that marry are YOKED!

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Give her an ultimatum: Either immediately fire her secretary, end the affair, and go to marriage counseling with you, or you'll take the kids and leave. If she refuses to stop, pack up and leave. Tell her you won't come back until she stops and agrees to go to counseling. You don't deserve to have to put up with that sort of thing.

It sounds like you are only currently staying with your husband now because of your kids.

If the situation is that unpleasant or if there is any verbal or physical abuse involved, get out of the marriage. Your children could be more damaged by witnessing the anger between you and your husband, rather than living with you in a one parent household. Children are far more aware of what is going on between than parents than the parents would like to believe.

I would sugggest privately contacting an attorney about filing for a divorce. Try to be as amiable with your ex husband as much as can, as long as he has been a good father to your children. Make it clear to your kids that both you and your ex love them, but you and their father have differences that require that you not live together anymore.

I don't know how long you have been married, but if not for too many years or not long, these are just some signs of the control freak he is. It won't get better and in time you will have gotten dumpy and miserable. He'll take and take and take until you have lost who you are from within.

My husband is a really jealous guy..i have a baby with him and ive never cheated..i think that men that are like this are just insecure..he just wants you to be his and only his..

It was more fun than expected. We really enjoyed opening up our lives and sharing our trials and tribulations. I believe what we experience throughout our first year of marriage is very relatable.