Marriage is a social union or legal contract between individuals. It is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged by a variety of ways, depending on the culture or demographic. Such a union may also be called matrimony.
How do you get your wife to love you again when she has walked out and said it's absolutely over?
I am very sorry to hear this has happened to you. It appears neither of you had good communication skills in the first place. Everyone has some problems in their marriage and you both should have learned how to communicate feelings towards each other. Sometimes things in our lives no matter how painful happen for a reason. She just may not be the right woman for you and won't be at your side for the hundred yard dash (sticking by you until death do you part.) Women can say things they don't mean. I know you feel like you've lost your whole life and probably are in shock or at least grieving over her leaving. The best thing to do is start getting out with friends and be more active. If you can afford it go on a vacation for a couple of weeks to clear your head so you can figure out where you are going from here. When you get over the hurt and are out with friends don't be afraid to date. By sitting around and moping and hoping your wife will come back is a waste of time and energy for you. Perhaps if she sees you out and about and even dating other women she may decide to come back. Some women get to a certain age (generally starts from 40 plus) and are searching for something missing in their lives, but don't always know what it is. She may well find that the grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence. If she doesn't come back then remember that there are at least three times more women in this world than men! You could eventually meet up with a wonderful woman that is more suited to you. You can't make someone love you. The good thing is that because she is a woman, if she did ever truly love you, there is probably still a soft spot in her heart for you. Your best possible hope is to genuinely let her know that you still love her no matter what and that you will wait for her. Then you have to let her go. You will have to allow her to move on and you need to do the same but if it was meant to be, she will come back to you. One thing that works in your favor is that a lot of people have no idea of what commitment and true love really is so they may just drive her back to you. BOTTOM LINE: You can't make a person love you but your best hope of getting her back is to let her go. Understand that a woman leaves because she has lost hope of having that relationship meet her emotional needs. If you can re-ignite that hope, then her heart will force her to consider coming back to you. You may not be able to re-ignite that hope, but the easiest and quickest way to re-ignite it in most cases is to be able to say to her (metaphorically, if not literally): "Welcome to my adventure." There are three elements to that statement: 1) Adventure: Your life must be an adventure. It must be enjoyable. Exciting. Filled with passion. Or else why would she to be a part of want it? 2) My: It must be *your* adventure. You have to have a level of independence. An amazing guy I know (who really understands women) once said, "Women want to be taken *on* an adventure; they don't want to *be* the adventure." This is where many guys go wrong. Establish your own purpose and direction in your life. Make it *your* adventure. 3) Welcome: You have to welcome her in. How many a man has his adventure--his passion-filled, purpose-filled life--but he doesn't welcome his wife into it. But realize that this one has to come after the other two. Many men try to simply welcome a woman into their life, but their life doesn't really have much value to offer her. If you can honestly say to her, "Welcome to my adventure," then you can re-ignite that hope. If you make your life your own adventure, you may find that you will no longer be in as desperate need of her. The beautiful thing about that is that she will be more drawn to you as a result of your not being desperate. And not only will your wife be more drawn to you, but if things don't work out with her, *any* woman will be more drawn to you. Because you'll simply have more to offer. First, work out why she's said this. If you've been cheating, then maybe you SHOULD be with someone else, and you should just let her go. Sometimes women say stuff as a test. If this has just happened out of the blue, then this might be the case. If this is the case, then she wants to see if you'll fall begging at her feet or try and win her back a lot. Having been a wife who left...he would have had a HUGE chance to have me back if he had apologized for the neglect and thoughtlessness in our lives to this point. If he had reapproached me with affection and kindness. I left after 22 years because he had gone years, despite my clear requests for consideration, without doing this. You know, my sons do know that when you marry, you promise to care for the other person even when you are too tired/bored/busy before yourself and they do the same. If she asks you to do something, just do it. Time dating and obtaining some guidance to rebuilding your friendship would be the way to go. A book I like is "Talking and Listening Together" by Sherod Miller.
Asked in Relationships, Cheating, Marriage
What are some signs to look for if you think your spouse is cheating on you?
Signs from the car: They let you do the talking most of the time. They are using more gas. The mileage in their car is too high. Check the mileage for them to and from work. Is there a lot of unexplained mileage? They want you to wait while they clean out their car before you get in it. There are two empty cups or containers for food for more than one person in their car. The music stations in their car have changed. Signs of Money: Money is unaccounted for (this could also be drugs). You find receipts for items you've never seen. There are unexplained charges on credit card bills. Here is some more input and advice from people who have been cheated on: If you know that they cheated on people they were with before you, the chances are much higher that they will cheat on you. If you're losing sleep over it and become obsessive and angry, don't just shun it away as paranoia. It might be right. Unfortunately, the "signs" aren't that obvious nor are they that reliable. If he/she is doing it "right", you won't be able to tell unless you catch him/her in the act. In general, if you're the type of person that tries to keep life interesting for your spouse, you'll minimize the potential, but you can't eliminate the possibility no matter what you do. Some people tend to cheat no matter what their home life is like. Were they cheating on someone else when they met you? If so, it's probably an established behavior pattern. If your spouse is the type of person who can be trusted in other areas of life you might have a good reason to trust him in marriage. After all, marriage is about trust and commitment. Note that if your spouse is not cheating and you are constantly being suspicious and questioning everything, you might just drive him/her into being unfaithful. If you believe they're different now, then take the time and think of a plan to investigate them on your own. If you have a gut instinct that they are cheating, 9 out of 10 times you are right. That feeling is there for a reason and if I were you I would check it out. Be careful though, you don't want it to be your own insecurity and be wrong. That will screw things up because then he will know that you don't trust him. The heart knows. Don't let your mind talk you out of it. There are a lot of signs of cheating. Be patient. Don't let them know you suspect them. Plan what to do if they really are cheating on you or lying to you. Be prepared to leave them. No matter how ugly, fat, worthless, or horrible lover you think you are in your mind you will always feel that way if you stay there and don't listen to your gut instincts and the hard evidence. Self esteem is how well you trust yourself. If you know something is going on, and deny it is happening you aren't trusting yourself and your self esteem same will be low. Remember somebody will love you no matter what you look like. There is always someone out there who thinks you are a 10. A spouse often cheats with someone close to both of you, e.g., a neighbor, friend, or even a family member of yours. Are they especially close to someone of the opposite sex? Days without showering at home, but your partner seems to have showered.
Asked in Relationships, Marriage
How friendship related to marriage?
Friendship is very important to marriage; a marriage is so much stronger when you like and respect your spouse. If you mean friendship with people related by marriage, such as in laws, good relationships always make life sweeter and would be meaningful to the couple in the marriage. Yes, Friendship is more important to marriage. Even in the difficult seasons of life, find reasons to celebrate together with your spouse. Shared moments of gratitude and joy will be fuel to keep your marriage going strong.
Asked in Marriage, Celebrities, Celebrity Relationships
Is LaVan Davis and Cassi Davis Married?
It is frequently mistaken that actor LaVan Davis is married to actress Cassi Davis in real life, but it is false. They portray a married couple on Tyler Perry's House of Payne as Curtis Payne and Ella Payne, and a couple in the play Madea Goes to Jail as boyfriend and girlfriend. They can both also be seen on the movie, Daddy's Little Girls. Tyler Perry claims they work very well together. THE VERSION ABOVE IS SHORT STORY LONG THE LONG STORY SHORT ANSWER IS: No
Can a church minister get married?
Answer 1 They can if their denomination allows - Catholic priests, for instance, are not permitted to marry, but most Protestant denominations do allow it. Biblically it is ok to get married, not getting married doesn't make you any closer or farther from God. Genesis 2:24 "Haven't you read, he replied, that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? " Proverbs 19:14 - Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD. 1 Corinthians 7:8-9 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn. (burn sexually; in other words if you can't control yourself sexually) 1 timothy 1:4 Nor to devote themselves to myths and endless genealogies, which promote speculations rather than the stewardship from God that is by faith. Actually Bible says that the minister should be husband of one wife. (1 Timothy 3:2 ). So the question actually should be whether those who are not married should be serving as ministers. Answer 2 Orthodox priests are divided into two distinct groups, married clergymen, and monastic clergymen. In the Orthodox Church a married man may be ordained to the priesthood. His marriage, however, must be the first for both him and his wife. He may not remarry and continue in his ministry even if his wife should die. If a single man is ordained, he must remain monastic to retain his service. A priest-monk is called a hieromonk. Per Catholic religion sect; it may be pointed out that priests serve in the place of Christ and therefore, their ministry specially configures them to Christ. As is clear from Scripture, Christ was not married. By remaining celibate and devoting themselves to the service of the Church, priests more closely model, configure themselves to, and consecrate themselves to Christ.
How can you tell if your wife lies about where she's been and what she's doing?
Vague question...leads to vague answers. Aside from the physiological changes associated with lies - it is tough. If you're married, you're more than likely going to pick up on some tell-tale signs that are out of place - but if you're really concerned: you can hire a private detective to track her. If you're expecting an affair to surface, you can do things like: Check milage on her car in the morning and then ask what all she did... add up the numbers. Check credit card and bank card statements... Look through her purse, wallet, and car for things that are out of place - reciepts for two from resturants, gas from out-of-the-way places etc. Just be prepared for the backlash - if you are wrong, you'll be branded as a paranoid, posessive, jealous person for the rest of your marriage without some excellent reasons for going through her stuff. <br /><br /> If you are not a very insecure person to begin with, your gut could be telling you something.<br /><br /> If you're asking this question, I must ask if you yourself are lieing about where you go and what you do. If you do it, you start thinking that they do it. And that is probably not the case. Another way to tell if your wife is lieing about where she is going and what she is doing is to look for other lies about other things.<br /><br />Generally if a woman will lie about one thing then she will lie about another. If you have been married for very long,then you probally have children. If so; then ask your child questions about what they did for the day and where they were? You might be suprised what you can learn from them. Word your questions carefully and you could be very suprised what you might learn from someone so young and innocent.Also;Remember they have no reason to lie. <br /><br /> NOTE: All of these methods involve a GREAT deal of distrust and should only be done as a last resort.
Asked in Relationships, Cheating, Marriage
What do you do if your wife cheats on you?
If you both want to save the marriage, your wife needs to admit to the affair and end it as of this moment. She needs to have no contact with the man she was having the affair with, even if this means quitting a job. She needs to explain why she had the affair--what were the issues she had in your marriage that made her decide to be with someone else? She should also agree to marital counseling with you, or at the least some counseling with a priest or a pastor. If she has no interest in giving up the affair or going to counseling, there isn't a lot you can do to save the marriage. Answer its almost impossible to please anybody now days and cheaters can go long periods straight but will cheat again .. send her packin and get a hiv test unless your into self punishment then give her another chance Answer First thing you need to do is recognize that there are serious problems in the marriage, and that your "wife" is not the honest, caring, considerate person that she claimed to be. Second thing you must do is immediately talk to a lawyer and find out what your options are, as they vary by state. Third thing you do is objectively evaluate your situation. Are there kids involved ? If you have no kids, then divorce her immediately. Remember women & men are different. Men cheat because of the physical. Women cheat because of the emotional attachment, thus when a woman cheats it is almost always over. If you elect to stay in the marriage it is CRITICAL that you evaluate your financial contributions from this point forward. If you are the primary financial provider, you must, you absolutely must protect your financial interests by declaring a legal separation. Being separated doesn't necessarily mean you are getting a divorce, but what it does mean is that you will not be liable for future financial obligations.Set up separate bank accounts, and make sure she is contributing financially to the household. Have an attorney draw up a QRDO, and immediately divide the 401k. Essentially treat the marriage as a financial partnership, because essentially this is the only way you can possibly save yourself. Next both of you go to counseling and see what happends. Lastly if you even remotely suspect her of continuing the affair, spy on her. Load software on the computer to get her keystrokes. Check the cell phone usage. Chances are if you think she is cheating, then she probably is. Good luck. Keep the faith. Answer First, catch the wife in the act, that way, she doesnt get half of the marital assets nor custody of the kids. Here no matter the reason you go to court for divorce it's a no fault. Though in this state it's on the record that a woman actually served jail time for having sex with another man. Go figure. Unless the couple has a agreement before hand, everything gets split. 50 50. Sorry buddy she gets the billard table you get the shafts I mean sticks. Answer Once a cheater, always a cheater. My Mormon wife cheated on me twice! And she did the same thing to her ex-hubby. Answer If you suspect your wife/spouse/partner/lover is cheating on you, even if it is the most difficult thing for you to do, give her the benefit of the doubt. It's not always right or correct, even as being our first instinct, to point a finger and accuse a woman of cheating. Everyone knows that it is scientifically proven that men are 13x more likely to cheat than women, however, there are the few and far-between women that actually DO cheat. Think of it on a positive note, though: if she cheated on you, it wasn't meant to be, and you can go on with your life after a time of which you feel comfortable, and move on to bigger and much better things in your life. Answer Understand that you now have the answer to whether you wife is the cheating type. Two options: 1) Stay with her; which is showing her that there is no penalty for doing it. Then wait for the next time, which will certainly be in your future. 2) Be hurt,betrayed,and sad that she ruined the relationship built on trust. Talk out you feelings with her to get things out for both of you. Then tell her you understand her explanation, you still care about her, and accept what she did. Then tell her you hope she understands now, just like she said she did when you got married, that you can not be with someone that you cannot trust. If she "learned her lesson" or "mistake", remind her that now she knows the consequences, when she finds someone else. Then offer to help her pack. Answer As a Muslim, this is punishable by death! You see people, God gave us the Ten Commandments so we can live righteoulsy. If we all abide by these, there's no need for counseling, no expensive lawyers to pay, and above all no plague on this world. But man wants to create his own set of rules in life. Not a good idea..because no one can ever beat the Laws of God. It is perfect in every sense. If a wife cheats, she'll burn in hell for all eternity. This is a fact and you must always remember this. How could you enter Paradise if you had cheated on your husband!!! This is insane! Shame on those cheating wives. You had made a lifetime commitment to your husband, and you should never cheat on him. If ever this happens to you, may God forbid... tell her this straight into her eyes; " May God have mercy on you on the Day of Judgement". All shall feel the wrath that awaits those who cheat! May God the Almighty have mercy on your souls. Answer Sins of the flesh. The flesh is weak. SEX is a basic instict in all. Though I personally beleave in a couple mantaining the basics of a relationship won't be shocked when a affair is discussed first. "open" relationships or swingers fear no pain from having sex with others. Watching is fun & builds a closness like nothing else can. In PA. adultery is punishable up to 3 years in prison if proven in court (1997 women servered time-3 months). Death now hmmmm. I am thinking to myself that her life is less than my own. A woman is to be treasured...shared if need be. Depends on the person/people. If you allow yourself such rage & selfishness to want death because your ego your frail feelings are hurt than you can have that 'god'. My GOD forgives & allows mistakes or growth. But in the end if you can't talk to your mate about fantasy or outside relationship sex as a release.. I.E. Roll play her another woman as she's blindfolded. Call her the name aloud. If you can't be honest & state needs... I need to explore sexual more with you. He should help....not push her away. Anyway I see it like this: 56% of American are divorced. Over 70% cheat on their spouse. LIEING about it the entire time. Caught on video & still deny it too. This country will never grow as a strong nation if the families aren't able to stregthen the next generation by using example as a teaching tool. Watch parents rationly solve issues like infidelity or even minor ones like compromising on financial investing. One year use her plan. Next use his. See which is working for the growth of/to wealth. I would not hide the hurt & distane from partner but I wouldn't allow it to KILL a part of myself. Couples that marry are YOKED! Answer You need to talk to her about it. Tell her it has to stop and then suggest going through counseling, together and separate. If she doesn't want to end the affair, you will probably have to leave her, or just deal with the affair. It will be healthier for everyone if you and she separate if she isn't willing to stop though. This is a very tough situation and you need to do what you think is best for you. Answer Tell her you know, and tell him you know, make sure he understands you wont put up with it. Answer Give her an ultimatum: Either immediately fire her secretary, end the affair, and go to marriage counseling with you, or you'll take the kids and leave. If she refuses to stop, pack up and leave. Tell her you won't come back until she stops and agrees to go to counseling. You don't deserve to have to put up with that sort of thing.
Asked in Divorce and Marriage Law, Cheating, Marriage
Should you stay in a marriage with a jealous husband even though you've never cheated because you have young children?
Answer It sounds like you are only currently staying with your husband now because of your kids. If the situation is that unpleasant or if there is any verbal or physical abuse involved, get out of the marriage. Your children could be more damaged by witnessing the anger between you and your husband, rather than living with you in a one parent household. Children are far more aware of what is going on between than parents than the parents would like to believe. I would sugggest privately contacting an attorney about filing for a divorce. Try to be as amiable with your ex husband as much as can, as long as he has been a good father to your children. Make it clear to your kids that both you and your ex love them, but you and their father have differences that require that you not live together anymore. Answer I don't know how long you have been married, but if not for too many years or not long, these are just some signs of the control freak he is. It won't get better and in time you will have gotten dumpy and miserable. He'll take and take and take until you have lost who you are from within. My husband is a really jealous guy..i have a baby with him and ive never cheated..i think that men that are like this are just insecure..he just wants you to be his and only his..
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Asked by Todd L Ross in Marriage, Weddings, Relationships, Breakups
What is it like to be left at the altar?
“I left my ex-fiancé a month before the wedding, Backstory: I never actually proposed to her, she more or less did it to me. We were in a mall and she wanted to go to a jewelry store to look at engagement rings. I wasn't expecting to walk out of there with one but we did. The salesperson even took a ‘just engaged’ Polaroid.” “She became more and more controlling, and I couldn't take it anymore. After I left her, her friend texted me on the day of the supposed ceremony telling me the cake was delicious. My ex somehow managed to break into my email and asked me who a girl was in an email I received AFTER I left her. I could understand her reasoning if it was before, but it wasn't. She also texted me a while after I left and told me she missed her period. An hour later, I got another text that said, ‘Never mind.’” “I'm pretty sure I dodged a bullet by leaving.” xavier_grayson
Asked in Marriage, Weddings, Wedding Engagements
How long should you know someone before getting engaged?
it depends on the factors of how u truly feel in ur heart and if he/she feels the same way ANSWER I have been married for 49 years and i can tell you that you have this feeling that you want to spend and give your life to this women or man is or can be brought at anytime and that is true love. Friendly : It only takes a year to know someone before getting engaged. It's enough to really know who and what kind of person you are engaging with. You are now able to accept the good and bad habits. Think wisely. If he puts on a pair of chains and likes it. Then he is probably broken enough I say at least 3 or 4 years. It may sound crazy but you have to remember this is the person you are going to be with for the rest of your life! I LOVE SCOTT FOREVER AND EVER NO MATTER WOT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!kel : I knew my husband for three months before getting married, not engaged, we were engaged a week prior to getting married. While I do not necessarily recommend this for everyone, for us it worked and we have been together for a long time now. to this question there is definitely no certain answer if you are in love & they love you back just as much then, it doesn't matter how long you've been together even when your married you find out more and more about your husband or wife. ---Addition --- It is more important to know each other well, , rather than how long you have known each other. The most important factor is that you are both at a point in your life that you can make a lifelong commitment - you have the education and a job where you can support yourself, and that you both have reached a level of emotional maturity. Plain and Simple, at least a year so you can find out all their bad habits. then you can decide if you can put up with them : Till you get to know what you need to know to decide to continue or step back. Even if it was only a couple of hours. Question: So i have been with my man for 2 years now, we've lived together for a year and a half. I know him pretty good, I want to get married but I'm afraid to tell him. I've had issues with getting him to say he loves me....I'm always asking if he does or not. its the only way he'll say it. He can't even compliment me without choking on the words. We've talked about marriage but he has never said it could be me he wants it's always, "if i were to marry a girl" or "when i get married". Am I wasting my time? He's 29 now and has no plans for his future. I told him that he's 29 now and its time to settle down, he said " i am settled, i have a new truck, new house, and a good job" he never mentioned me until i said something. What should i do? Is it too early to be thinking about marriage? My dear lady, yes leave him, some men just like to seek women's love but don't like to engage with a woman who already shows interest in him, this is the human nature, doesn't appreciate what's in hand. it is your right to talk about marriage. Marriage is the only guarantee that you get your full rights, and your future children rights. from now, leave him and find another place, let him taste the life without you, cut any chance of contact with him, then if he called you, asking to return back, don't hesitate to ask for your rights, with strong manner and steady voice, and if the answer is no, erase him from your life, he doesn't deserve another minute, and if it was yes, let it be a practised yes, means that he should start immediately with the preparations for marriage. My dear lady, Never let your nature suppress your reasonable thinking, protect yourself and your life, your present and your future, do never let a man even touch your hand unless he marries you, coz when he finds it hard to gain your approval, he will then become concerned with you even stronger, and will later appreciate your self confidence and respect. May you live in happiness. Amen : My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years now and i was freaking out wondering why he hasn't proposed yet and second guessing if he really loved me. But then I realized that it was for a good reason. Now the divorce rate has increased greatly and marriage rate obviously decreased. One of the reasons for this is because many people are rushing into marriage for all of the wrong reasons and with the wrong person. Marriage is taken advantage of these days unlike the old days. It is better to wait and make sure the person you are with is really going to be the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. you should wait 2 to 3 years before you marry somebody as my view from a marriage countsler
Asked in Miscarriages, Marriage, ABBA
How would one go about trusting their spouse when they have no reason not to trust them?
Asked in Relationships, Marriage
Can your husband be friends with another woman?
yes he can be, but it also depends whether you have enough trust in him rherheneverson answers x gd luck ANSWER: In my own opinion, it will not be right if my husband will continued his friendship to his ex mistress. What will it do to my trust towards him will be destroyed. If the other woman he called friend is also my friend or let say that he told me about her and met her, that is fine with me. We all need friends outside our marriage, and the trust will be tested.
Asked in Relationships, Marriage, Dating
What are the qualities of a good man?
The Qualities Of A Good Man.... * A good man is one who is kind and compassionate. * A good man is honest and hard working. A good man will tell you the truth. * A good man has self control and is respectful when he speaks to any women. * A good man is willing to be corrected or counseled by you. * A good man is faithful and reliable, he is able to forgive you when you do wrong. * A good man is humble, generous and is a peacemaker as well. * A good man knows how to control his temper and has concerns for others. * A good man stays confident of himself. * A good man fears God and is obedient to his word. * A good man is not a jealous man. * A good man always has a positive outlook on life...
Asked in History of England, Marriage
How did the Elizabethans view marriage?
Marriage was viewed as being very important. Women had very little choice as to who her husband might be. Many couples met for the first time on their wedding day and marriages were arranged so that both families would benefit. Women were expected to bring a dowry and after marriage the wife became the property of the husband. It was legal for boys to marry at 14 and girls at 12 with parental permission. Women were expected to marry, unmarried ladies were viewed as witches.
Asked in Islam, Marriage, Quran (Koran)
Can a Muslim woman remarry her husband she divorced?
Yes, a Muslim woman can remarry her ex-husband after the first divorce and second divorce. However, after the third divorce she can marry him again only after she got married and divorced from another man. َQur'an says (Meaning English translation): "Divorce is twice. Then, either keep [her] in an acceptable manner or release [her] with good treatment. And it is not lawful for you to take anything of what you have given them unless both fear that they will not be able to keep [within] the limits of Allah. But if you fear that they will not keep [within] the limits of Allah, then there is no blame upon either of them concerning that by which she ransoms herself. These are the limits of Allah, so do not transgress them. And whoever transgresses the limits of Allah - it is those who are the wrongdoers. And if he has divorced her [for the third time], then she is not lawful to him afterward until [after] she marries a husband other than him. And if the latter husband divorces her [or dies], there is no blame upon the woman and her former husband for returning to each other if they think that they can keep [within] the limits of Allah. These are the limits of Allah, which He makes clear to a people who know. " (2:229-230) Refer to discussion area for more information.