How do i get out of my domestic abuse?

Answer 1

just get up and leave or go to the cops

Cut your losses, leave and never look back. Cut off all contact with the abuser change your phone number, do not let him know where you are staying or how to get ahold of you.

I recently left an abusive relationship with a woman that I fell in love with. I just left one day because I couldn't tolerate it anymore. She wanted an explanation and when I attempted to give her one, it was discounted and my feelings were devalued at which point she then tried to blame everything on me and make her out to be the victim. Typical behavior of an abuser. That in turn gave me further reinforcement that I made the right decision in leaving. Relationships are "at-will". You don't owe an explanation. Just trust your gut and do what is best for you and don't look back.

Answer 2

Leaving an abusive relationship is NEVER easy. But very necessary for your own self preservation.

There is an article on the web call Warning signs you are dating a Loser and at the end it gives tips on how to leave.

Once you leave, you must cut all forms of communication completely or else you take a great risk of getting "sucked" back in. You'll see that once you have left, your abusive partner will have a new relationship within days or weeks.

God Bless

Breaking up is never easy, whatever the nature of the relationship.

I planned my way out very carefully. My abuser enjoyed getting in trouble at school, so I waited until I was sure I wanted out and he was suspended. So I wrote a letter explaining that I wanted to leave and that it was non-negociable. I gave it to his sister to give to him, and then alerted counselours at my school that he would be harassing me once he got back. I cut off all forms of contact with him, so he came into school during his suspension specifically to harass me, then punch a filing cabinet in anger before getting a ride home. I kept a log of everything he did to harass me. He has since reduced himself to spreading rumors, etc, because I got a letter of harasment put in place and he gets in big trouble every time he contacts me. The point though, is that I wasn't physically harmed, and I cut off contact so the abuse couldn't continue.

Personally, I think it's best to wait until you have some extended time away from your abuser, and then get a letter to them. It creates less of a chance of them manipulating you back into the abuse, and is a lot easier on you in general. Make sure you have support from friends/authority figures too, it also helps a lot.

Answer 3

The easiest thing to say is just leave the other person. I know that it is much harder to do than it is to say, but if the other person comes after you or starts stalking you, there are laws against that. It's better to do that than to stay in the relationship and suffer the possible consequences which could include bodily harm or, who knows what.

Answer 4

I think that it'll be best to tell the police. Even though you might be scared. Get someone who you can trust and ask for their opinion. Someone who is close to you can be really helpful at these times cause they know you best. If you're planning to run away, get your friends to help you provide a place to stay. Or it'll be better if you can rent an apartment for your hideout. But always have someone who knows where you are.

You can contact the United way. They are the 1st. call for help in just about anything.