How do you define inappropriate eye contact with the opposite sex?

Answer 1

Maybe men just don't have the ability to be as considerate and thoughtful as many women can be of another person's feelings.

It's a sign of simple classy behavior to not do something that would hurt the lady's feelings you are out with. Women watch for that stuff! Maybe we watch for it as intentionally as a man does it! Hey, maybe I'm onto something.

It hurts to know that a guy is so uncaring to actually make it known, even if subtly, that he's checking out another woman.

On the other hand, one can't help but notice someone who looks nice. I guess it all boils down to how each individual, man or woman, is thoughtful of the person they are with.

I just want to add something to this:

In all due fairness, women do it too. A lot of how much it will bother a woman has to do with her own self esteem, how good she feels about herself, how sexy she feels. We also don't always feel that great when we are bloated, in our grubbies after cleaning out the garage, a rotten hair day, etc. (Don't be hard on yourself ladies.)

I get eyeballed even when I'm with another guy, even if he's a big guy, but it's a simple and harmless glance. Once it's obvious I'm with someone, the usual look-away comes next. However, from a woman's perspective, and to all other women who are reading this who this bothers, do it in front of the guy as well, while you are out with a guy so he knows how it feels if he does that to you.

Ladies, there will always be someone who is prettier, not as pretty, heavier, thinner, with more money, with less money, etc.. The main thing to do is to like who you are and shrug it off. Be OK with it unless he is slobbering and really into checking out another woman. If that's the case you have two choices, never going out with him again, and depending on how tacky he is about it, leaving or calling a friend to come get you or a cab. Don't be with a guy who makes you feel worse about yourself.

Also, do your best to look HOT HOT HOT, then if you're walking in front of your man while in a crowded place and you yourself are getting checked out, like your man does to other women, well, don't let it be obvious to your man but at the same time make a sly smile and flirty eye glance back to those who are checking you out.

Women, just like who you are and do your best to take care of yourself. Sometimes a guy who glances at another woman is just immature or not even realizing he's doing it.

Who doesn't like to look at a nice body or face? Sometimes you just can't help it. Sometimes it's just nothing that needs not to be made into a big deal. It's not like the guy you are with who's doing it is the only man on earth or the best looking guy in town. Good looks are like buses, there is always another one coming down the line.

It reinforces what my mate has also told me. How can you determine when a look at a beautiful woman is appropriate, when its not? Lust is one of the reasons but not the only one to look at women. If the woman is beatiful is she off limits totally for any reason?

My mate loves to take me to the mall shopping with her, particularly in stores that women frequent. I try my best to keep the focus on her but usually I ultimately slip up. We'll walk into a store and I'll look up and see a beatiful woman leaving the store, the woman will look at me, then look at my mate, and the drama begins. We'll be going up the escalator, she'll be going down, temporary eye contact, the drama begins. We'll be stopped at a red light in the car, she'll cross the street walking in front of the car, I look for a second, the drama begins.

Sometimes I see a woman way before she does, and notice she always tries to catch me looking with a quick turn of her head to see my eye gaze direction.

I'm thinking the best way to satisfy her is to walk in public with my head down. :( It hurts to have to walk with blinders on to make my mate feel secure. I'm willing to do it but it still hurts.

I do have a problem that I'm trying to work on but there seems to be no innocent way to look at an attractive woman. In response to my looking at woman that I will probably never see again in my life, which she characterizes as flirting, she seems to think the equivalent to balance the scales would be her meeting men and going on dates. Some justice.

[Comment: See "What to do if your spouse is overly jealous?", unless it's not jealousy but just bossiness. I'd say the problem lies with your wife, not with you. ]

If you're staring it could be inappropriate, depending on the situation. If you continue staring even after that person communicates to you by body language that it makes her/him feel uncomfortable, then it definitely is inappropriate.