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How do you forgive someone who is not even sorry?


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2011-09-13 01:58:44
2011-09-13 01:58:44
Not equipped to apologizeUnderstanding that the other person does not possess the tools to offer an apology can help you to forgive them. We all see things from our own perspective and respond based on our own past experiences. Some people are simply not capable of seeing that they have hurt another person. Forgive them for not learning this lesson earlier in their life, and wish them well.

Another problem with not forgiving someone is that it gives them power over you. Think about it. You're upset, maybe even raging about what they did. Probably spending much more time and effort on it than it's worth. Point in fact, you are giving them power over you because you are choosing to devote time and effort to the problem. But... if you forgive them for what they did it's over. Now, I did not say you're supposed to forget what happened, only fools forget. Just forgive them. After all, why should you let them ruin your day any more?

The bottom line to all this is that forgiveness really is a one-way street. Though it's hard to forgive someone who does not show remorse, and may not even feel remorse, it is a decision that we can make regardless. For your own health, '''decide''' to forgive them.

answerForgiving is unconditional. It nourishes the spirit. ANSWERi see so many people abusing other people because the other person forgives them, its not on.

no-one should abuse anyone and not be sorry and be forgiven to continue to do it again

sorry is something we all have to be at some point to learn true 'moral values' and people who are not sorry end up with self grandourous beliefs,narcissistic tenancies and hurt a lot of people

(and i know plenty of people like this, and plenty people who got like this due to never being asked to really be sorry )

if the person did this once, forgiving them will ease your mind that's true,

that is indeed a power they cant take away from you

but if they do it again, that will ease nothing.

and by doing it again they then are taking the power away from you

the person will have some problem that is making them internally angry and taking it out on you.

forgiving them every time only invites you to be hurt every time, invites them to never heal whatever problem they have and that's not helping anyone.

forgiveness is something that does have to be earned sometimes

you cant go about forgiving everyone for everything all the time,

look at society

there would be no punishment, no law, society would be pretty much anarchy.

people would do what ever they want with no fear of reprisal and confrontation

and those reprisals, the consequences are part of the reasons we don't all go around breaking the law willy nilly

is is really fair fair that you are a good person who can be sorry when you hurt someone but be hurt by someone who doesn't care enough about you to be sorry for that?.

some people do things to hurt on purpose they don't need forgiveness, they need to be taught like a child stealing another's sweet that that kind of thing is wrong,

forgiveness like everything else in life has its time and place.

only you will know if this person deserves your forgiveness, and only you will know if they have done or are likely to do this again, and only you can know if forgiving them will make you happy.

to forgive someone who isn't sorry, although it depends on what has happened , what they did, why they did it etc,

i can say when i had to forgive someone for something that ruined my life, and who wasnt sorry

i found that realizing and accepting that the person wasnt really to blame was what helped heal me and helped me eventually forgive them.

forgive them by realizing that really internally they have a problem that causes them to act out,

that maybe it isn't their fault (if that is true, ie maybe they have a mental illness or a disability)

that maybe they are doing all they can to 'fix' themselves (as long as they really are)

if they accept they have a problem and ask for help its always easier to empathise and consider what they must be feeling and to forgive them

New answerForgiveness is not about the other person. It is about you. The word actually means- to give for. Anytime we have an experience that we would have liked to have seen go better, we can imagine how it could be better and decide how we will respond in a similar circumstance next time. In doing this you are deciding what you intend to give for a better way. This represents a more productive use of energy. The return will be productive as well. Do not insist that the return be from any specific person, place, or thing. That will keep things the same and the whole idea is to change. As your attention is used imagining what you want rather than what you don't want, you will experience more of what you want. With your attention on changing the other person, you're missing the point.

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Forgiveness is one powerful words that we always use. Forgive is what you do if someone did something to you that you didn't like. Or if you did something bad to someone that you love or to a friend you need to tell them how sorry you are and they are the one that will forgive you.

To apologize is to say sorry for something. To ask forgiveness is to ask someone to forgive you and let you go even if you have commited a crime or sin.

Go get help. If your sorry for what you did god will forgive you. But if you really did stab someone,turn yourself in

It is possible to get forgiveness for stalking someone. I myself have been in such a situation and I've managed to forgive that person even though they have never asked for forgiveness, so if the stalker is very sorry and apologizes sincerely, then all can be forgiven.

You say, "I'm very sorry that I called you fat. I hope that you will forgive me, please."

Well if someone hurt you bad then you can simply say that sorry doesn't make it up and i will never forgive you but if its a small problem then you should accept their sorries :) Hope it helped

Apologize sincerely. And by SINCERELY, I mean actually wait until you are sorry for what you did. by giving someone a chance to change their selves!

If you are truly sorry for the action you have done, God will forgive your transgressions.

If you bump into someone you could say "I do beg your pardon". If it is more serious like knocking them down with a car you might say "I am really sorry" or "Please forgive me. I am so sorry"

you have to say sorry and show them how much affection you have for them they'll forgive you once they notice it

Yes i am :( Please forgive me

Muslims forgive by telling some one they are sorry and making it clear to them they are over it!

If you really want your friend to forgive you then do it face to face or do something nice to show that you are truly sorry and not just sorry when and where it is convenient for you.

There are two Important aspects to forgive someone. 1. You must forgive. You should forgive even though that person isn't sorry, and pray for them continuously. If a wife divorces her husband because he abused her, she should pray and forgive him. When you forgive, it's like taking a step towards heaven. It says in the bible, Peter asks, "How much should I forgive? As much as seven times?" And Jesus replies, "Not just seven times, but seventy seven times..." This is just something to think about and put into practice. Not literally "I forgive you" seventy seven times, but it means to forgive and mean it. 2. How much that person needs the forgiveness. Everyone needs forgiveness. And God is the one who gives it if no one else does. That doesn't mean if someone says "I forgive you", your sin is gone. you still have to confess it by going to confession.

There is no single word for sorry but there is "Mujhe Maaf Karo" (Please Forgive Me)

God ALWAYS forgives you if you are sorry for your sins.

you tell him your sorry and you love him.

It's ok, I forgive you

I'm sorry (forgive me) = Më fal I feel sorry = Më vjen keq

That's not even a full sentence. I don't get what your asking.

It is a good practice to forgive someone immediately. However, emotions prevent a lot of people from forgiving someone immediately.

Say your sorry and if they forgive you, work with it. Bring up good times you had with them and they should forget about the bad.

It is difficult to forgive because the person who did the wrong thing you are really mad at them and you think they don't deserve your forgiveness. But I am right now the person who is saying sorry to someone and they will not forgive me . Most people who are saying sorry are really saying it from the heart. If people didnt forgive it would be crazy. I couldn't think of what it would be like if Jesus didnt forgive us . No one would be going to heaven .... no one. My oppinon is to forgie the person you are fighting with. No one really wants to be in an a big fight..... God Bless

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