How do you get over my baby mother who has hurt you if you still love him and he still loves you but you know it's just too complicated and you can't live without him in your life even as a friend?

Answer 1

Powerful relationships can be very distructive and incredibly hard to pick up the pieces after. It is said that it takes 5 years to stop thinking of someone you were strongly linked to - so I would advise if you cannot make the relationship work you really need to make a clean break to allow yourself healing time. When you hit rock bottom and feel that life and love will never work out- believe me it will. Time is the greatest healer, there are no quick fixes but look to fill your thoughts and time with positive things like friends and take up one new thing that you have always thought about doing but never got the chance. This is your only shot at life - don't waste it - embrace your learning curves and turn them into positives. If you are young, the heart rules the head and this is something everybody experiences at least once - my big no no to you is to stay friends with the person that hurt you, it will delay the healing process and prevent you from moving on in your life. I wish you luck in your quest - all the best! If its too complicated then you have no other choice but to move on. That means no contact at all if children are not involved. It hurts very bad and you have to be patient as time will heal. I promise you if you have no contact, in one eyar you will be able to think of him and have fond memories without the absolute gut wrenching pain. In two months is probably when you will notice you can feel yourself again at times. You don't say why it's to complicated.If you really love one another you can work it out.Are you the only one who was hurt?Try talking with him than if you can't work together to make it work move on.Marty

Answer 2

Always remember, nothing is too difficult! Expecially when it comes to love. It is a gift given to us to love another person. If you love some one you have a childwith, and they love you as well, what could be the problem? Would it be better for you and the child(ren) to have him with you? Perhaps you two need to sit down, an d as calmly as possible state what both of you were hurt by at the others fault. If this results in a fight, give it time, together, and apart, and try your hardest to work things through.