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You don't. That's the problem.

Maybe they loved you based on what they THOUGHT was love or the closest thing they could feel to being love. Narcissists typically don't actually feel emotions like love or guilt. Its possible the whole relationship was a lie and they were only out for their own purposes. That's the toughest part to accept. Anyone who claims to love you and then drops you like a rock probably never loved you. That's a harsh thing to say but I speak from experience. And trust me, it will help you to accept that and let go of this person. As much as it hurts now.


I don't know if you can ever know that answer. I think their idea of love is about control. The person may have loved or loves you as much as they are capable of feeling that emotion they define as love. However, actions speak louder than words. You have to remember this though. They can dump you like a hot potato for another person but they will do that to them too. Therfore, its nothing in any way about you. They may have just realised you are too much of a challenge to control. There could be many reasons.


My ex N said he loved me once. He said he wanted to have children with me, take me all over the world and spend the rest of his life with me...but said he loved me once. That was when he was leaving at the airport to go overseas. He came back a year later with another woman. I hung on that "I love you" for a year. The one he is with now will only suffer the same fate. Poor thing; but thank god its not me suffering all over again.


They don't love anyone.


I think they love you in the moment. And that's about it.

They love the things you can give them, They love the fantasy you help them promote about their superiority, omnipotence and self impotance. They love the impression you can help them make on others, they love controlling you, and they love to then gain your trust and loyalty, twist your mind and isolate you and then destroy you by taking you apart piece by piece. They are not lovers, they are haters.

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