How do you know if you have an abusive boyfriend?

Answer 1

You are using the words "love" and "abuse" in the same sentence. Unfortunately they do not mix. That would be akin to saying how can I mix oil and water together? - There is no easy answer when it comes to either physical or emotional abuse. People who perpetrate on others may have at one time themselves been abused. Sometimes the pattern is passed on from the parents to the children. Sometimes the person is suffering from a mental or mood disorder and needs counseling. I am sure you may have heard of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). However here is the way it works. If the person hits you once, they will certainly hit you again. Normally after the first time, the perpetrator feels remorseful and sad. They make it known that they will never touch you again. You love them so you forgive them and life goes on. The next time they strike is usually with more anger or rage, for a longer period of time, followed by a slightly less remorseful stage. If left unchecked, this cycle will continue until the abuse is constant and there is no remorse. If you are being abused the best thing to do is remove yourself from the situation and give the person that YOU LOVE time and space to help themselves through counseling. If they don't well then they never really loved you or more importantly.........themselves.
good luck.

Answer 2

Abuse comes in several forms. One is when he hits, pushes, shoves, slaps, or any other physical contact to you. This is physical abuse, but there is also emotional abuse. Emotional abuse involves him calling you names, telling you how to dress, who to see, how to live, jealousy, and controlling you in any way. A man who is controlling will often tell a woman he is " protecting" her and how much he loves her. His punishment for not following his rules or directions is removal of his love. He won't talk to you or walks away when you try to talk to him. He blames you for the problems in your relationship. ALL of this is abuse. If you are in a relationship like this get help and get out of it. You can't change him. I suspect because you asked this question you all ready know the answer and are thinking that your relationship is abusive.

Answer 3

Ask yourself these questions:

• Do you feel safe around him all of the time?
• Are you afraid of him at any time at all?
• Does he put you down or call you names or otherwise emotionally abuse you?
• Does he hurt you physically at all?
• Does he keep you away from your friends and/or family?
• Does he have to be in control at all times?

Answer 4

If you do its because of TRAUMA BONDING.

Get counseling to help yourself.