How do you know when it's time to leave your husband?

Answer 1

Wow.....this is tough yet so simple.

#1- When everything seems one sided and you feel you are carrying the marriage.

#2- When you tell your husband "I love you" and he says something like "that's nice or i'm lucky or grunts". ALL THE TIME....there is never "I love you" back.

#3-When you are paying your own way. Marriage should be 50/50 and be a partnership.

#4- When your husband does not touch you and stops making love to you.

#5- When you have gotten so tired of no affection you just start sleeping in the extra bedroom.

#6- When he gives you no emotional support what-so-ever.

#7- When it's all about HIM.

#8- When you are giving him your best daily and he never does anything for you.

#9- When he tells you he does not or that he never loved you. BELIEVE IT.....he "may" be having a really bad moment but do not dismiss what he is saying.

#10-When he shows no appreciation for your efforts and when he never thanks you for a job well done. Being a wife IS a job even if you are home all day!

**notice I did not say an affair because many couples survive that** but, if that's a deal breaker for you then the marriage is over.....period!

I could go on with another 5 easily but I think you get it. You see, I AM leaving my husband in a month. I stuck it out for 7 years. If you see signs and think things will get better.....if you think he will wake-up one day and love and appreciate you then rethink that. Counseling helps many couples and every avenue should be taken to stay in the marriage. But, if you have tried everything else and it's still not working then it's time to rethink & reflect and maybe you just married the wrong man. I still believe in love and believe someday love will find me but don't spend years spinning your wheels. People are who they are and rarely change.

Answer 2

I am not an expert on your specific situation, but my personal advice is that: 1) If your spouse has tried to divorce you more than once, you should give in. 2) If you are very religious in this matter, by all means try to stay in it. However, if your partner completely shows no want for you, they have broken their promise to cherish, love, and obey you. It is not your fault. 3)If there is frequent abuse(emotional,physical, or verbal) for an extended amount of time(years) you should consider that no marriage with this is going to last and end good. If it does, it is usually from quitting drugs or alcohol. 4) if you have lost love for another and have no positive emotions between the both of you, there is hope that all that has affected you is the extra time taken for kids, and less of being lovers.

Answer 3

When you cannot think of one good thing worth staying for. If you can think of one good thing to stay for, focus on that and work it out. If you haven't tried every single thing you can to work it out, then get to work. Start with counceling. If there are kids involved, work twice as hard to save the marraige for their sake. When you get a divorce.

• You will know when your marriage is over when one of the spouses refuses to see a marriage counselor; is not interested in trying patch up differences in the marriage and has said they want out.

Answer 4

A marriage is a partnership on four levels, financial, social, intimate, and emotional. All of these must be tied together with the element of attractiveness. If you find that you are not a team on ANY level, the relationship will become toxic waste and slowly eat away at you.

Try to break it down on these levels and see if there is anything left to save.

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Answer 5

With the exception of cheating, it is never a right time to get divorced. Every marriage will have it's trials because you are two different people. A lot of people come into marriage expecting it to be 50/50 instead give it your 100 percent and expect nothing in return. Marriage is about being selfless..instead of thinking about divorce check out this book The Love Dare..remember there was a reason you married him/her to begin with.

Answer

When your spouse no longer treats you with respect; when you no longer share common goals; when you realize your spouse neither supports you nor cares about your needs; when you find you don't look forward to each new day nor share any quality time; when you can't speak honestly with each other and share your concerns; you know it's time to think about ending your marriage. You need to ponder that most important question: Are you better off with them or without them? Then you must take the appropriate action.

Answer 6

You need to decide if you are better off with her or without her then stick to your decision and either make the marriage work or end it.

Answer 7

You know to walk away when theres nothing left, you dont feel like trying, nothing you do seems to work and the loves just gone.

Answer 8

You will know when you are divorced, as you will be called to the court along with your wife and both will come to a final agreement. And you will get the money , so you should know.

Answer 9

You need to seriously consider whether you would be better off without him/her.