How do you know whether or not to break up or stay together with your boyfriend?

Answer 1

It's time to sit down and make out that list I often mention in my posts. Put down the good things about your boyfriend, then the things that bother you about him. Make a separate list re yourself (the good/bad.) If he treats you well, you socialize fairly often or at least go out to "bar night", dances and movies then this is all normal. If he treats you with respect and keeps his promises these are points on his side as well. If he breaks dates, doesn't keep his promises and is rude and crude to you it's time to move on. Sometimes when we meet someone for the first time that we care about and start dating, it's almost like we put our family and friends to the side and we only have eyes for the one we love. The wrong thing to do is doing EVERYTHING together and never giving each other head space. It's healthier to have a private side of your lives where he can go out with male buddies, and you can go out with your friends or even at times, go on a mini holiday with the same sex. People of all ages generally need "head space" and by being around someone too much it becomes boring. Perhaps you could take a mini vacation and decide just how much you miss him, or perhaps you won't. Get that list made and put it away for a week, then take it out and read it and you'll have your answer. Good luck Marcy