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How do you lead an emotional abuser to help?


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2007-05-19 09:09:04
2007-05-19 09:09:04

You can't lead or make an emotional abuser do anything and that's why they are called "emotional abusers." They feel they are OK and everyone else is off base. They know what they are and they doubt themselves and this person has had plenty of time to get help, but doesn't obviously want it. The best thing you can do is leave!


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Get them to INDIVIDUAL counseling. They have to ADMIT They have a problem, too.

An emotional abuser is someone who is constantly belittling another. Example: If a husband is an emotional abuser he will call his wife every dirty thing in the book; tell her she is ugly or fat; not a good cook; not a good mother, etc., to lower her self worth and self esteem. It is a form of control the emotional abuser needs and they have generally learned this pattern of behavior from the environment in which they grew up.

the victim or the abuser? emotional abuse cuts deeper than physical abuse. it has to do with manipulation. though emotional abuse and physical abuse ususally go hand in hand.

Get into batterer counseling (even if its verbal/ emotional abuse) ASAP (NO Anger Management - that does NOTHING for abusers)

tell him or record it and make him listen to it

not from my experience she just keeps on going.......

I dont think an abuser loves himself so he cant love. I just left the man after 6 yrs of trying

Abuse stems from the abuser, not from the relationship - so a change of partner won't in itself change much (or anything). An abuser needs appropriate counselling or therapy to deal with the problem. The first step of course is for him or her to acknowledge that there is a problem and that needs attending to. I hope this is some help. All the best - Joncey

Wanting to change is an important first step. But it is a necessary - not a sufficient - condition. I think you answered your own question...they have to desire to want help. Abusers do not admit to any wrong doing...therefore they "believe" they do not need help. Even when confronted about their wrong behavior, they fail to recognize they played any role. It's just like an addict wanting help to overcome their addiction, but denying they have a problem. I think that an emotional abuser can be helped if he wants to be, and only if he wants to be. Even if he wants help, that doesn't necessarily mean that he will change though.

Not necessarily. Anything can lead to emotional problems in a person's life. Sometimes having a boyfriend will lead to having emotional problems.Many people go through their entire lives single and do not suffer emotional problems.

* Unfortunately yes, sibling abuse can lead to such anger the abuser could beat the person to death or, sometimes it can lead to murder. The victim of the abuser will not likely go mad, but will certainly need psychological counseling to get over the trauma.

in the thousands and many more are not reported every year. Abuse is abuse and can come in three forms. PHYSICAL, MENTAL, EMOTIONAL. if you are a victim or abuser seek help immedialty.

Answer"You can lead a horse to water, but not make it drink" is just a saying for trying to talk to someone but you cant make them do something

Take them to a instituion or take them to a shrink

The best thing you can do to help is be there with her as often as possible, witness it for yourself *emotional abuse or physical* once you've seen it, if its emotional, talk to her , if she wont listen theres not much you can do. If its physical then you need to go over her head and tell the police.

The best thing that family can do for a substance abuser is stage an intervention. Once that intervention has been staged, present the abuser with the opportunity to go to rehab.

One way is to look at the abuse as an emergency. In that case, you remove yourself from the situation so that you are safe, and then you get help. If the abuse has been ongoing for some time, then the best thing is to get a team (good friends, therapist)together and follow their advice without argument so that they can lead you out. Otherwise, you will "but" yourself (can't afford it, it isn't so bad, abuser will change, I can handle it) and not make it happen. Abuse of any kind should not be dealt with. Either the abuser needs to get help, should you choose to stay or get out. You have the right to have a peaceful existence while you are hear and not have someone degrade you and abuse you. Get help or get out. Those should be your only choices.

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Abuse comes in many ways; it can be both emotional and psychological. As a victim dealing with abuse, the best way is to set boundaries and realize you alone cannot change the abuser. The best way to handle it is to set boundaries, understand that it is your reactions that you can really change, and get professional help if problem escalates. Confronting an abuser as an outsider may or may not be the best idea; they may take as an attack and direct their anger at you. If it is indeed physical abuse, call authorities! There are laws against physical abuse, but not emotional abuse.

The first - crucial - steps are to acknowledge that he is abuser and seek help. Abusers are usually in denial: If the abuser is also a narcissist (suffers from the Narcissistic Personality Disorder - NPD), this may be of some assistance:

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